My Mindset,

So far my biggest problem in courting the fairer sex has been putting myself into the proper inner state. So far I have seen improvements in my social anxiety and self-confidence, I have yet to been able to put my mind into a place where I am completely relaxed, comfortable, and providing sexual implication. On the rare occasions that I am successful in doing this, I find it all too easy to slip out of it. So people of Seddit, what are some ways that you put yourselves into your mindset? What are ways you use to keep yourself in that state?