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[–]hydrolith 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Well, now you know...Start by approaching the girls you're attracted to and getting to know them.
[–]ArSpams 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
oof already feel a little bit nervous just by reading this🥲
[–]ClickForHotNakedPics 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You'll get used to it, just approach casually ask for their name, if they ask for yours back, then you can start a short convo/hitting on her, if she is reciprocates it well suggest a date then ask for her numbers or give her yours and go about your day, she'll text/call you later to setup a date
[–]ArSpams 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Most girls never hit me up first I do most of the time
[–]GoodMorningWanka 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've had plenty situations when I was asked for a number/social media etc. and still the girl wouldn't initiate. Maybe the girl wasn't bold enough or too afraid of rejection. I think it is better to put yourself in a situation where you can call/text first, then see if they reciprocate.
[–]ClickForHotNakedPics 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well it's kinda past the point of rejection when she has your number, but general rule of thumb is to wait 3/4 days or a week after exchanging numbers before contacting, but usually I just give them my number that way she can contact whenever she's ready and if I'm available
[–]GoodMorningWanka 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Same with me here. Throughout my teenage years I thought that girls were just not interested in me. It took me reading this sub (to learn a bit about IOIs) and talking with a therapist to realize that "holy shit I could have had sooo many girlfriends" and that I am atleast somewhat attractive. I've even had girls approach me out of the blue and my insecurity would just get in the way.
[–]ArSpams 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ye bro It really dawned on me like damn I really missed out. And what IOIs and how did you learn about it
Well there are plenty too lookout for, just searching "ioi" on this subreddit can help you out a lot. As to what specific ones I realized post mortem would be proximity, just hanging around me or repeated glances (my super insecure ass would read these as me being perceived as weird and made fun of).
3 months ago I had to pay for a service and I didn't have enough cash on me so I had to postpone it. The girl who I met that day was with me and offered to pay for it with her card, so I could pay her back later. I actually pulled the trigger and we went out with her for a date. During it I kind of suggested that I should be heading home since it is getting late. She then suggested that I should walk her home, led me to two different secluded locations where we were both alone next to eachother. When we eventually said goodbyes and hugged she stood back and looked at me for a longer time, still standing where she was, even though she said she was heading home. That was her way of saying that she wants me and to kiss her.
I didn't.
When I was heading back she texted me that she really enjoyed her time and wishes we talked for longer. I just texted back: "yeah don't worry, I'll have time till the end of the month. We can met up again". Lets just say I never heard back from her (I tried sending her a text and calling her couple of days later).
I am still inexperienced as fuck but I am slowly learning.
[–]ArSpams 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
THE PAIN THE AGONY!!! bro I can relate 100%. I was freshman in highschool was in a pool at night with this girl and we got all touchy. But I was so scared to escalate even more and plus I couldn’t go to her house because her dad was home.
But then I went to her house the day after because I left something there the day before. She open the door with skin tight biker short and a small shirt. I could basically sense the sexual tension. But I was so paralyzed from nervousness. That I couldn’t make a move and her dad wasn’t home. Then she ended up moving away
[–]ClickForHotNakedPics 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Same, tho I knew it and was aware but never felt like it was important and was more focused on my academic, I was the mysterious, quiet guy who got good grades and was popular with girls, helps that I'm decently good looking (which are all attractive traits to girls)
Don't regret you'll always have more options in the future, just focus on improving yourself and be on your purpose
[–]ArSpams 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m more of the kid who’s nonchalant, calm, and good at dressing, and pretty private about my life. I talk but I don’t say to much. I kinda enjoy sitting back and observing people. but still new a lot of people.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/erjd6f/beginner_material/
Clutch 💪🏿
[–]donoyonoton 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Had the same experience. Got to live it up now and never let pussiness corrupt your decision making !!
[–]ArSpams 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
Easier said then done especially when you are nervous
[–]donoyonoton 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
nah for sure but exposure therapy works. The more you confront your anxiety and push through it, the easier it gets. It definitely takes work and thats the shit a lot of women don't realize but you overcome it.
[–]ArSpams 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I got to I must overcome this I hate nervousness and fear it so crippling. It legit feels like I’m only experiencing 5% of life because of it
[–]donoyonoton 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I feel that man. Meditating is always good for learning how to deal with anxiety too. And going to therapy is definitely worth it if you think you have serious anxiety I'm sure there's effective ways to combat it.
[–]ArSpams 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Been meditating for 4 years it help some what but it a process
[–]donoyonoton 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wow, I just started recently. I feel a bit more clear headed hope to see more improvement,
I do stillness meditation. And it make me more relax and calm and detracted from thoughts. But It just when under overwhelming emotion that when it’s. Gets difficult to be mindful and fully present
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