How I feel and the state of mind I'm in play huge roles in how I act and feel the rest of the night. At times I'll be off the walls energetic, but not usually. I need something to shake me out of my stupor and get into the game and have fun.

I wonder if it doesn't have to do with the fact that I'm in secluded classrooms or my room most of the day. When I finally leave to go to a bar, I'm too shell shocked to function. The change in scenery is overload for my timid personality.

Anyways feel free to comment with what you do to 'get ready' or what do you guys do to get pumped up. To get excited? To get ready to have fun? To prepare yourself for going out?

Below are some helpful suggestions on influencing mindset/mood that I've come across.

Edit: Here's some from TofuTofu, see full post

HOW DO I GET IN STATE? This is going to be different for everyone, but here are a few tried and true methods that work for me:

  • Leave whatever drama from work/life at the door. You can worry about that unimportant shit tomorrow. Right now, there are ladies to meet!

  • Find those songs that you cannot help but smile when you listen to them and blast them in your mp3 player on your way out the door.

  • Keep conscious notes of what triggers get you in state and try to re-trigger them on future nights. This only comes with experience and you HAVE TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE ON A REGULAR BASIS to identify them. For example, if you know a shot of your favorite whiskey makes you feel warm and fuzzy, then GO AHEAD AND ORDER IT, BROTHER! You deserve it!

  • Open some warmup sets! This is the classic method that pretty much ALWAYS WORKS. The magic number is three.

  • Get a good wingman who will help fire you up (and vice-versa).

  • Send a text to a friend telling them "On the way to the bar and gonna kick some ass tonight! Fuck yeah!" It puts yourself on the spot to actually go through with it.

  • You know yourself better than anyone. Figure out what works for you!

From puaCurveBall on how to get ready full post

About 30 minutes before going out, get yourself into a good space. Relive your successes, repeat your expectations and positive mindsets. I keep this up until I get to the club, date or daygame spot. This gives you a chance to see if any negative thoughts are coming up, and practice shutting them down. Once there, I'm monitoring body for tension. If my shoulders are getting tight or whatever, deep breaths focusing on everything to relax. If it is mental, then I stare at my drink or the wall for 30 seconds and meditate, shutting out all thought. Often, I'll get some female eye contact that breaks me out of this(be aware of your surroundings). Be looking for your expectations to be fulfilled, notice the IOIs(smiles, laughs, touches) you get. Afterwards, remember the night, again focus on your successes. Going through failures is fine, but once you think through them once, tell yourself "I've learned everything I can from that, and thinking about it longer is just harmful" then meditate and shut it out.