My first approach this month

BuyerOfCoins · 2018-11-06T13:14:29+00:00

Good job! You did it though! First times are always hard.
Be more concious of yourself I'd say. Recognize you're speaking too fast in that moment and speak a little slower. it's hard at first but you can do it. You can practice talking to yourself in the mirror, it's weird as fuck at first right? Well isn't that the same principle ;).

RobCo5000 · 2018-11-06T14:16:42+00:00

Breathe! Deep and slow breaths, in and out. Ask yourself, what's the worst that could happen? She rejects you? Big whoop! On to the next one!

Pick-up becomes much easier once you stop overthinking and just do. It's that simple!

whatwhatwtf · 2018-11-06T17:34:46+00:00

Overthinking and quick speak are expressions of nervous energy. Why? Are you afraid to be seen talking to cute women? Are you embarrassed to be seen as someone who talks to the opposite sex or to whomever you are attracted? Embrace it. Go for it. It’s 10k volts jumping into a copper lined bathtub with a toaster. Go give and thrive in the energy. Quit letting the angst be in front of you.

Also make up your mind was she cute or not? “Wasn’t really interested in her”? Are you making internal excuses to handle the rejection, which is why you are bailing early on a conversation or are you ignoring how they will feel about this interaction?

Don’t hit on ugly people or toy with peoples emotions that you are not into. While it is perfectly acceptable to meet new people and make new friends and “practice” being sociable - don’t do it with the intent to flirt if you aren’t interested in them.

Give yourself permission to talk to whomever you find interesting and bring something to the table. Embrace the value of other people. There is no practice. You YOU Y O U are neither dancing monkey nor living in a vacuum. Go meet people, lead the conversation by example, be interesting and interested. You don’t have to be The Man, just preferably your best self.

Naustralia · 2018-11-06T15:57:36+00:00

If you over think just do the approach ASAP. The more you over think the more chance you wont even do it.

Dex-Knows · 2018-11-06T17:55:49+00:00

Don't lie to yourself or us and say you weren't interested... you obviously were if you approached and told us about it
If you see someone you're attracted to, then always approach them within three seconds. Do not hesitate or think about it.
On your walk over to talk, imagine the person you're going to speak with is a person you already know / friend to help ease the tension
Say what's on your mind and don't overthink it. Maybe that would have been, "damn, this is hard... I haven't spoke to a girl in a month..." She'd probably laugh and respond nicer to you, and you could also use that later to ask for the number because you need more contact with a woman.

BTW, I'm very happily married... but somehow ended up on this post after getting lost on the internet, lol.

NO3SCAPE · 2018-11-06T23:35:21+00:00

Instead of thinking "I hope she likes me" think "I hope this girl is the one for me"

Its about companionship. If you are needy and investing in her too much chances are the relationship will bomb anyway.

Title	My first approach this month
Author	MC_THUGGIN
Upvotes	17
Comments	9
Date	November 6, 2018 12:22 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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