My personality changes around people that I’m attracted to

anyJose · 2020-10-20T00:55:41+00:00

You know what this actually might be the reason a lot of men get nervous too. If a girl they like is also attracted to them and the girl they like is usually easygoing but when they’re around their crush the become tense and quiet the guy who is their crush might think she doesn’t like him and it will create a loop of “she doesn’t like me cause she’s tense and nervous” and the girl says “he doesn’t like me cause he doesn’t purse me so I’ll get more tense and nervous”.

OrzhovPalatine · 2020-10-20T03:27:54+00:00

This is perfectfully normal and commonplace.

When I was starting out learning I'd do the following:

imagine the girl doing something nonsexual and disgusting, for me it was her taking a dump. Nothing sexual about that. Itd change my mood from awe and anxiety to disgust and indifference.
I listened to alot of Patrice Oneal while learning and I'd have a inner voice in my head when I felt myself slipping telling me "You better than her!"/ "she ain't shit" etc etc. Again my mood would change from awe and anxiety to resentment and contempt.

Disgust, indifference, resentment and contempt may sound bad but rest assured those feelings give you plenty of confidence to deal with women you find attractive.

skullirang · 2020-10-20T13:10:22+00:00

Just relax. This is very annoying and confusing to deal with from the guy’s side.

If you are just talking then just enjoy the convo instead of getting trapped in your head. Making it awkward will just make him feel like he did something wrong and he’ll pull back.

Therocksays2020 · 2020-10-20T01:01:50+00:00

Just treating everyone one the relative same. The reason some guys attract people they don’t want is because they are natural around them and don’t make unnecessary effort. It makes a lot of sense

naughtychick9999 · 2020-10-20T01:26:34+00:00

You're not alone. I'm 39f and still have this problem sometimes.

tibles20 · 2020-10-20T10:12:17+00:00

All men do i go aggressive when I am around a woman

megamind188678 · 2020-11-07T18:54:09+00:00

This comment section (the men who commented) did not pass the vibe check. OP I feel you on this one, the only thing I’ve got is that sometimes it’s a good idea to hang out in a group with the person you find attractive. When there’s more people there’s less awkwardness to think about and if it’s people you’d normally be your fun, goofy self around then they’ll make you feel more at ease and thus the person you’re attracted to will get to see some of these qualities show, even if it takes a little bit to warm up. Group date = great idea :)

Title	My personality changes around people that I’m attracted to
Author	cyborgspecies
Upvotes	28
Comments	13
Date	October 20, 2020 12:35 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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