My situation: I could use some pointers, observations, analysis.

2010-11-08T19:27:27+00:00

she is pretty busy and giving her a time seems likely to fail since she only has small windows of opportunity to do social things

give her a time, if she wants to meet, but can't at that time, she will reschedule with a time that fits her. If she doesn't suggest a time and blows you off, then all bets are off.

cheddarchexmix · 2010-11-08T20:03:46+00:00

Do not ask her what time. If you think there is a high chance of a schedule issue, you can soften your text from something like "come meet me at [coffee place] today at 4" to something like "how's your day looking? meet at 4 at [place]?"

Also, as far as guitar, forget about it. There are ways to use music to help you with girls, but you risk looking like a dancing monkey trying to impress her. It's a lot easier to get girls with just standard game.

itsmegoddamnit · 2010-11-08T19:57:42+00:00

don't play the guitar in front of her so early. do something more interactive, rather than showing off. fair enough, you might not be showing off but she'll get a different feeling, i assume.

intjpua · 2010-11-08T21:14:28+00:00

All people who are in demand have busy schedules. You never reveal your hand that you're willing to drop everything to meet up with this girl, even if you're beta enough to be willing to do so. You always give her a time. She says no because of scheduling conflicts, she'll either give you an alternative, or you can say, "OK, some other time. I've got some free time Sunday. I'll text you later." If she turns you down a second time, it's probably a blow off. In which case, "Next!" Go after other girls.

Would the situation be different if I wanted an emotional connection?

No. What on earth gave you the idea that attraction works differently if you want an LTR or a ONS? Attraction is hard-wired. Being beta is always the longest, hardest, path to her pants and her heart, and you'll nearly always fail.

I play guitar and have many songs I could play for her; how could I use that effectively?

Have your guitar on its stand in your room when you bring her home to fuck her. After you fuck her, she might ask if you play, and you can pick it up casually and play a tune. If she doesn't ask, leave it on the stand. Going to lengths to play her a song is try-hard, so only do it if she asks.

2010-11-08T21:52:06+00:00

if she already told you she has time to have coffee today, she has time. text her and tell her when to meet you. if she flakes, she flakes--but if she has the time, she'll let you know when that is.

coolgherm · 2010-11-09T23:58:16+00:00

If you really want control, cancel on her and choose another day and time.

Title	My situation: I could use some pointers, observations, analysis.
Author	HWseddit
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	November 8, 2010 7:16 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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