Need advice after date

LingeringGnome · 2018-09-20T07:14:32+00:00

>We had 2 drinks together

I have a first date, one drink, 45minute minimum before I ask her back to my place if I like her. If she's pounding multiple rum and cokes in 45 minutes, I next her. If she's hitting three beers in 45 minute, I next her.

Attraction really isn't a choice. A woman will know if she'd sleep with you pretty quickly, it's your job to not talk her out of it.

>but then she invited some guys she knows

Cockblocking is another reason for my 45 minute max, wherein the whole time you should be playful and talking innuendo in light sprinkles.

The organic, natural and healthy end to a date is consensual ,awesome sex, and getting to know the person intimately in post-sex moments (which is where adults truly get to know each other). So there's no need to spend the entire night at the bar. If you wanted to buy a pizza for your dinner, would you spend most of your night at dry cleaners?

>Afterwards I messaged her and apologized for leaving ubruptly,

You don't need to apologize unless you're exclusive, or were a total dick. It's submissive.

> We hungout at a museum after i texted her a few days later. Nothing excited happened

Are you trying to be her bestie, or seduce her?

> About a week later, she texted me to grab a drink.

Translation: I really hope this guy has the balls to bend me over my bed tonight. I'll give him one last try. I like his personality but I think he might be inexperienced with women.

>I met her at the bar and we chatted for a couple hours alone

Jesus christ. Hours of chatting on a third date?

, the bar was pretty dead.

lol, why is this important? I'd worry about your libido being dad, man. Not the bar.

>I ended up making some contact by talking about her hands and touching her hands/arm.

lol that is some awkward seduction.

>The night ended with a hug, but i was hoping to kiss her.

then kiss her, man. Geeze.

>How could i have made a move if she was nervous. She seemed bored because she started to hum when the >conversation died and would just swirl the ice in her water cup.

What a saint of a woman, honestly. I admire her patience. she must really like all the other aspects about you.

>I feel like i was boring her. What could i have done to make a bar date more fun?

Text her this tomorrow:

"Hey it's Netflix and beer night at my place, 9pm. I need help with the remote."

As soon as she sets her purse down go for the kiss.

You lack confidence and dominance in the context of early courtship. The text is confident. The kiss right away shows dominance. You can still be the nice guy you're being, you just need to add stronger aspects.

jaraf540 · 2018-09-20T04:57:48+00:00

I think you might have displayed low confidence. I wouldn't worry if she is nervous, it's perfectly fine, you need to take charge and lead. Most girls want to be led.

OGthelegendaryplaya · 2018-09-20T05:53:59+00:00

She started to giggle and she seemed nervous so i backed off, didnt make a move.

You should've kept escalating. Were you sitting across from her? I ask because you said you rubbed her leg with your leg.

You should've been getting closer to her. "Why you sitting way over there? Come sit here."

A dead bar is the perfect place to escalate to a full on make out session, then look to go to your place or her place when things are getting heated.

Title	Need advice after date
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Date	September 20, 2018 3:02 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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