Need advice asap

crankzoneftw · 2018-05-09T05:26:26+00:00

U poor bastard never date co workers!

mick_wave · 2018-05-09T06:29:48+00:00

It’s honestly kinda hard to not develop some feelings for a co-worker tbh.

judahman8 · 2018-05-09T09:37:56+00:00

You let her know that you definitely like her and you dont want to do that until shes urs. Once she knows she has you then you are chasing her and the point is to get them to chase you. Its like a cat with string, if you leave it there they loose interest.

Dont invite her to any kind of formal date like you did. Invite her to hang out doing something you are going to do regardless if she comes or not. Hey i was going to meet up with a couple friends to do so and so you should come. Then kino esculate until you kiss her and go from there

For now when you see her dont get weird. Infact lie!!! Say why didn't you come out? It was a lot of fun. I feel like you would be fun to hang out with outside of work but Im actually kida glad you didn't come because I met these really cute girls and you would of probably cock blocked me lol. Go from there and end with We should hangout some other time.

WIA20XX · 2018-05-09T10:44:16+00:00

It's one thing when the guys in this get obsessed with the closest thing around them. That's depressing to me, and most of the guys don't want to help themselves.

But this situation is far worse.

She gave you obvious signals, but then when you came at her respectfully (and I should add that you came at her direct and vulnerable just like all the books on the side bar say you should do, plus 99% of the people promoting their e-books and websites) and then she started playing games.

Plus she's a server - she's getting paid to flirt with guys to get better tips. (Of course that's not officially part of the job) But this isn't some silly college girl in an intro to philosophy class. Manipulating men is what pays her rent.

She's not dumb.
She's not innocent.
She knows what she is doing.

You can't reason with a girl like this. (You can't reason with any girl when it comes to affairs of the heart)

She's basically playing you, for shits and giggles. Her behavior in manipulative as fuck, and she knows it.

She's dangerous.

Now that you're sprung off of her hot and cold act (if it didn't affect you emotionally, you wouldn't be asking this question).

There is little that you can do directly to her. She has you in emotional reaction to her.

Stop engaging with this chick on every level. Start engaging with everyone else.

Don't help her. Don't talk to her. Nada.
You certainly don't want to "talk about what happened"

I might add, by talking to a chick that you work with, you put yourself in this awkward situation. This is why you don't shit where you eat.

Now you gotta see this broad every time you go to work. Her mere presence is going to remind you of how she treated you. She is fucking with your head now, and that will continue with no more effort from her.

If you're still trying to bang this chick - the play is basically being more socially attractive than her options. That would mean organizing after work events with other service industry folks, and being at the center of that. Other bars, restaurants, with cool guys and hot chicks. Right now, you're just another diversion, another play thing.

That's probably beyond your current skill set, but that's basically how you pull these kind of chicks. They're climbers.

The move from jump was to say that you were too good for her. To not be impressed. To not let her touch you. A consistent code is behavior towards her, but warm to everyone else.

You can't do that now. She got to you.

Title	Need advice asap
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Comments	9
Date	May 9, 2018 5:24 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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