Need advice, I'm needing an outlet.

5yy · 2012-05-13T07:26:25+00:00

I'd say the best way to motivate yourself to talk to strangers is do the 0 second rule

If you see a girl you find attractive NO hesitation. Just walk up and say hi. And talk about whatever the fuck comes out. No game plan. Just do it. If you start to think about your game plan or lines you'll give yourself more AA and you'll mess yourself up.

The best motivation is early results. And in the start both positive and negative results will work wonders for you. Positive. You'll wonder why you didn't start this earlier because of your easy success. Negative. You'll find rejection isn't as bad as you thought. It'll roll off you and you'll move on

But more on what to say. Too much of our time is spent on wondering what to say that the girl will like. And catering to her and her life. But let's make this clear. They are themselves 100% of the time. How are you going to intrigue them with something they live everyday. Be you. Be different. New is interesting. So talk about whatever you're into or wanna talk about

I brought up Pokemon cards to this HB7 and she was all laughing / judging me. But then I brought that energy into other parts and topics into the conversation and was able to get her to laugh and converse with me. And that was the first thing that came to my head so I went with it. If I didn't use that I likely woulda used nothing and had no conversation at all. And now I have an excellent anchor to use if I approach her later. "hey Pokemon master. Remember how that one time you told me you love Pokemon cards. What a weirdo" and then she'll argue that I was the one that brought up Pokemon cards. Then we are well into our next convo

So fuck the topic. It's just about interacting and being yourself. Hope this helps. Good luck

AlephBaTa · 2012-05-13T18:21:03+00:00

Understand that people aren't going to help you until you help yourself. You should be posting in the beginner forum.

If you can't even work yourself up to approach then you shouldn't even be thinking about what to say afterward. Take things one step at a time. Understand that you're going to have to take a lot of hits to your self-esteem in the process of becoming good at this stuff. It's not easy.

Title	Need advice, I'm needing an outlet.
Author	Lost_My_Keys
Upvotes	2
Comments	2
Date	May 12, 2012 9:18 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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