Need an honest opinion

Travis_Varga · 2022-06-13T16:47:53+00:00

I’m wondering is it a problem that I have or is it just that is hard to find someone that fills the hole package.

Well, it’s hard even when you’re pursuing that. But also, it doesn’t sound like you were looking which makes it harder.

I might have high expectations or I dunno, but I never could date someone that I didn’t like %110.

I don’t know if your expectations are unreasonably high.

I’m worried that I’m an ugly person inside, to be honest. Or really shallow or something like that

Well, I mean the issue is that for pursuing happiness in the long run over the course of your entire life, ie the values necessary for that, it’s usually helpful to pursue romance with women who share the highest of those values, like they admire you for your career (that doesn’t simply liking the amount of money you make). If you’re not doing that, you might be making your life worse than it has to be.

Creepy-Storage-1786 · 2022-06-13T16:48:25+00:00

You dont find the right girl you make her

santal23 · 2022-06-13T16:49:39+00:00

Way of a superior man: Live on your edge, love with all your heart and take the risk

CvlEng_2021 · 2022-06-13T16:56:54+00:00

I would say that it is interesting that you haven't been in one serious long term relationship by your age because most people have by that time. I guess that is also why your friend pointed that out to you.

It's good that you are aware of it now if it bothers you. I think you should try to analyse why it was that certain relationships panned out the way they did. You felt that certain relationships did or did not warrant commitment - OK why is that and what was it in each case? This could perhaps help you be more aware of what it is you want and do not want. What were the girls you were dating looking for is also something to consider. Because if they are not looking bfor something serious, then it is properly not gonna happen.

I would also ask you in the end - were/are you really ready for a serious relationship? There is an interview with Andrew Hubberman and Lex Friedman where they discuss finding your SO.

https://youtu.be/NpK-Fg0TG_4

I agree with Andrew that it is a decision that you yourself make. At some point you prioritize making something work if it is worthwhile, and it also has alot to do with current life structure as well. But note that you should not force the discovery of the other person. I think the last part is very important. You should not get into a relationship just for the sake of it, and based on what you have written, you try not to do this. But you yourself have to be looking for that potentially can become serious in the end.

amazingbrotherpopoff · 2022-06-13T17:46:47+00:00

if you’re anything like i was you’re not emotionality ready to be in a relationship even if you think you are. so you subconscious find ways to either push women away from you, or convince yourself they’re not worth it because that’s easier than taking the risk of commitment.

id just keep dating and keep an open mind, if you like somebody you don’t need to find a reason to push them away. try to be mindful of this stuff and stop it before it happens

SamuRonin90 · 2022-06-13T19:08:30+00:00

I want to be like you. At 28 I haven't done anything.

OregonWonderMilf · 2022-06-13T19:30:42+00:00

It sounds like you maybe have a fear of letting someone get close to you. The honeymoon phase is fun in the beginning. But after that tetters away you actually get to the part when you really start to learn about one another. Somethings you don't like, others you do, but being in a relationship is a choice. You choose to be with that person no matter what and it is up to you whether or not you want to get down and make someone your best friend or not.

Title	Need an honest opinion
Author	Longjumping_Mix2943
Upvotes	5
Comments	17
Date	June 13, 2022 4:26 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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