Need help approaching men

shusain2991 · 2021-06-14T12:52:36+00:00

Best way is to complement them. And eye contact.

mothowaway · 2021-06-14T13:32:09+00:00

Go out more. Dress up, go to coffee shops, picnics, museums, etc. guys will take notice, and the ballsy ones will approach

jpjohnny · 2021-06-14T15:13:21+00:00

Massive congratulations for being proactive and not falling for the traditional 'males chase' trap. Good luck and my best advice is just talk.. Sounds scary but just say something. Man have been conditioned to be extra nice to women. Best luck

ayleidanthropologist · 2021-06-14T15:19:09+00:00

Not an expert. Eye contact, go out of your way to say something to them (even “hey”), ask their name, use their name more than you have to. I think these are all extroverted ways of introducing yourself and expressing interest. If they’re interested they’ll probably seem engaged or excited. Then before the conversation draws to a close, “I’d like to talk more, could I get your number”. But you don’t want to just text them, so propose a date or meeting up.

Dutchcat1077 · 2021-06-14T13:35:11+00:00

Pay a man a compliment. It’s that simple. You’ll see him smile and maybe even get a little shy. See, men are used to women approaching and complimenting us. However, should you do this, you will win his heart. Once you’ve done this, let him talk about himself. Listen to him and ask questions. He will respond. He will continue to talk. At the end of the night, ask for his phone number. Text him when you wake up the next morning and thank him for a lovely evening. Reference something he told you the previous evening. Let him know that you will be thinking about him during your day and that you are looking forward to seeing him again. Do these very simple things and you are guaranteed to find a decent dude. 🤘👍😎

DaddyComstock · 2021-06-14T12:56:49+00:00

You could find people through common interests. If you like sports you could join a team of something, if you like photography or painting there are plenty of groups out there. If you meet guys through common interests you already have something to break the ice and to talk about. Being social is key. And I would say, be flirty from the beginning without trying too much. Don't get you or him into friendzone, or else it will get more complicated. We all want what we cannot get, if you make yourself too "easy" then the other part loses interest. This applies to both sides. I'm not a girl, and probably a girl who is successful at seducing guys would give you a much better advice hahaha but I would say, be yourself and flirt with people like if you did not need them, because you don't and they have to like you for who you are :)

Hayden_Beroc · 2021-06-15T08:19:03+00:00

tbh with you men will never take you seriously like "wifey" material if you are cold approaching men, sure you will get 99.9% of success rate in the bed room if you somewhat average looking but it will only lead to that. Only bed time fun await you if you are a girl and is considering cold approaching men. Some might even think of you as a hooker for others you will look like trouble for long term relationship coming from a guy perspective.

I consider myself to be average looking as a guy but I've had times when women approached me on the street 4 times actually, they were not that bad looking tbh. The first time a random girl came up to me after staring at me like a hungry wolf form a corner of a ice cream shop in the distance, I did notice her closing the gap between me and she said hello I neither stop in my track nor did I say hello back and on my way back she came to me again said hello again and again I did not stop just staring at her while I was walking away thinking this is weird.

The second time i was grocery shopping the girl at the counter where they make you leave your bag said to me "Ohh look like its gona rain today", I look at her and said "maybe" she was smiling her ass off like I just crack a very funny joke and I was walking away wandering if she was flirting with me?

Third one, actually I was out cold approaching women but after getting rejected by 2 women I decided to go home and cry lol, I had earphone in and just when the song end there were at least 5 sec of silence I saw this girl looking at me telling her friend "what about this guy". Her friend turned she had green eye I think she might had contact lens on, she look at me and said "hello" with a serious face, this time I said hello back then she proceed "do you have 5 min" which I quickly replied "nope... I have to go" without stopping in my track bucuz I assume she was looking for money and did not want to give her any. Walking away thinking funnily to my self what kind of Ahole am I and turn to look back saw a tall guy crossing the street to come which I assume so that he could take a good look at the 2 girls and the two girl approach him and he was laughing like he just won the lottery.

Forth one, was an actual hooker don't ask how I know but the place where I was at is like a whore house at night. I was walking there during the day I heard a hello with a female voice turn to my right saw this woman smoking and heard hello again I turn my head further right to see this woman sitting near the smoking lady. I reciprocate back with smile on my face and she said "how are you" I said fine and walk away, I overheard them saying that I was making fun of her.

So what can you do if you want an LTR, my advice for you as a man doing cold approach on women

diet and hit the gym hard
dress nice
less make-up
start with a compliment
pause for 5 sec with a smile to see if they want to talk or no (look for any question)
if no question is ask after you deliver the compliment look for another guy as they might not be that interested
if they are interested have a healing energy about you
you can't always get want honey but if you try sometime you get what you need

And remember women got the looks and man got the balls don't try to grow a pair every man is different and some rejection with man can be damn brutal on you just don't take it personally but if you are considering to go on that path be sure to let us know the result.

superpablue · 2021-07-18T14:20:32+00:00

I don’t like cold approaching men...But If I want a specific guy to make a move (especially if I think he’s shy) I’ll make a statement/chit chat, an ambiguous compliment, ask for help with reaching something on high self etc...eye contact, smile, some banter

It’s not directly expressing interest but If they’re interested at that point you’ve closed the gap and let them know you’re approachable and they’ll ask you out. In the event hes not interested there’s nothing to reject so neither feels weird.

WorkerBee-3 · 2021-06-14T13:04:11+00:00

Find hobbies and stuff you'd like where you'll meet the type of guy you're looking for.

You're definitely gonna have to learn to get comfortable approaching and starting up a conversation out of thin air. Just breath and be present with him. That's literally the only trick

Title	Need help approaching men
Author	bec1029
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Date	June 14, 2021 12:31 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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