Need help for getting better with girls!

TheXXL · 2015-10-05T13:34:14+00:00

At school i do try and talk to them but always when i'm talking to them it doesn't feel natural or good.

What exactly are you feeling?

I'm afraid of awkward spaces and i can't say something back. Like she says something and i do not know what to say.

Is it just because you are not interested, or are they talking about things you have no idea of?

I literally don't, so i will just agree and nodd my head and say yes, and then the conversation is over.

Well, this sounds more like a monolog than a conversation, so it's natural that this is going nowhere.

There is this one really pretty girls which actually likes me

Would you believe me if i said that out there in the world are so many more women that, when they get to know you will like you too?

(or liked me because i never took action) and i'm fucking afraid to go talk to her because it will turn out awkward.

So, you either can look into the future, or you are sabotaging yourself, stop that. It's only awkward if you make it awkward.

I'm motivated to take action and i think some (personal) information can help me big time.

Ok. First, know that women are also normal human beigns. If you are able to talk to normal humans, then you will do fine with women. Second, if you feel tense while talking to them, you are not doing it very often. There is only one way out of it, talk to more women. If you have social anxiety you should go to a doctor. So choose the right path for you: Go to a doc for therapy, or take the pain of feeling awkward, getting rejected etc. til you have gotten enough experience to succeed. Just do it!

If you want to start small and learn (and getting used to it) how to talk to people in general, start with smalltalk when you are at the supermarket,bakery or whatever. People like that, and it's easy to talk about the weather or how delicious that pizza, that you just bought, is. I started years back from a similar point, by making smalltalk to everybody, so i can relate.

nuxxi · 2015-10-05T13:10:25+00:00

They are just humans. Talk to them like you would with your friends (maybe except the "did you see dem nice titz ??" :D )

Have a smile on your lips, be playful, it's that easy. It's even easier since you kinda know her, she is no stranger to you. There can't be anything awkward, it's just your mind telling you this.

lessfishmorefun · 2015-10-05T14:54:28+00:00

You're nervous and not thinking clearly when you're talking to them. Take a break from hitting on girls and work on yourself. Look for ways to boost your self confidence, and get to know yourself a little better so you know what YOU want in a girl. Something that's attractive to me in a guy is confidence....but don't be cocky..don't order me around (that's being a dick...not confidant). Find someone who finds you interesting and the nervousness will melt away. If it feels like you're forcing it, maybe you are.

Murfdigidy · 2015-10-05T15:40:58+00:00

You need to stop elevating girls to the point of making it a different experience than talking to any other human being. This is the number 1 thing that hold so many men back. Talking to women should be no different than talking to a friend of yours. Men put all this unneeded pressure to act a certain way or say a certain thing when having a conversation with a girl. STOP DOING THIS. By making the situation different you are putting more pressure on yourself that you don't need. EVERY conversation you go into you should act no different than as if it were your own close friend. HENCE why you ALWAYS hear girls say JUST BE YOURSELF!!! That is why they say it, because so many guys try to act too nice, or too Macho or too whatever to impress a girl. I'll tell you what impresses girls, guys who aren't afraid to be EXACTLY the same to them as you would your best friend. When you are with your best friend you are who you are. You're not trying to be something you're not.... So do the same with women!

Title	Need help for getting better with girls!
Author	Grolmeister
Upvotes	0
Comments	4
Date	October 5, 2015 11:51 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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