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[–]CompetitionFair7686 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
“I know we don’t talk much, but would you want to go out for drinks sometime”
You should just get to know her right here on the spot, rather than asking her for drinks without knowing anything about her.
Just talk for 10 mins or so, and then go for an insta date right there on the spot if the vibe between you and her after talking for 10 mins feels good to you.
It’s very unlikely that women will go out with a guy if they haven’t even talked and connected first.
that is why asking her if she what’s drinks straight away can lead to women just ignoring your texts or coming up with excuses to not hang out because they don’t know you and will not bother going out with a person they know nothing about.
[–]StrivingBetterMe 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
True, but at work I have no time to talk to anyone in my store. She was doing her job and I was doing mine(which I get timed on) like I said we rarely dare each other and they even got mad at me for the small thirty second convo we had, I just don’t feel like their is any other way
[–]CompetitionFair7686 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Ok but that sounds like a problem for you which women are not responsible for.
If you don’t have time to talk to girls before asking them out then sorry but it’s just not gonna happen.
Women don’t feel comfortable going out with a stranger guy they know pretty much nothing about. What if it’s awkward, what if you are boring or annoying or dangerous, there is just too much risks without knowing anything first.
It is what it is. You need to get to know them first, and if you can’t well sorry but you won’t date anyone by doing what you did
[–]StrivingBetterMe 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Makes sense, I’ve tried talking to people in my classes to try and get to know them as well, but it never works out. Everyone just ignores me and nothing ever comes of it. I try to be as friendly as possible
[–]CompetitionFair7686 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Maybe you need to be as fun as possible rather than just friendly.
[–]StrivingBetterMe 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
What do you mean by that, I’m curious? I say yes to every opportunity that is presented to me, but they rarely come. I’ve actually never in my life been asked out on a date. Hell it’s been years since I’ve had anyone other then 2 or 3 people have asked me to do anything at all
[–]CompetitionFair7686 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Fun in the sense of humour, generating emotions, getting them to laugh, playful teasing, provocations, bantering,… etc while talking
[–]StrivingBetterMe 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I do all that stuff, I actually consider myself to be a very funny guy, i make my classes laugh on multiple occasions with jokes and tell jokes and banter a lot. I actually feel like I banter to much since I can be extremely passionate about a lot of things
[–]CompetitionFair7686 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
So what’s an example of a full conversation with girls you like?
[–]StrivingBetterMe 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
One of my biggest issues is finding people in general. Like I’d aid I’m basically by myself in this game. It seems like everyone has their group that they stick to while I’ve been by myself since birth. Never got along with either of my parents, and was backstabbed by my only friends in highschool. Been on my own since then. I wish I knew places to meet new people that actually want to meet others as well
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I usually ask them about there week and how it’s been. If the ey got any fun plans and what not and mostly just random stuff like anime or school or what not
So where is the teasing, the jokes, the bantering, the humour, the flirting, the provocations in that example of your conversation?
I guess you are right, I just don’t know how to talk to people. It’s been that way since I was a kid. My dad used to let me play video games for 8 plus hours a day. I never hung out with a single person until junior high. I feel like I’m so socially damaged sometimes that there is no way I can come back
[–]oreopimp 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
“that shits whack”
side note: I want to put this on a t-shirt.
Brother to brother: It sounds like a lot may be happening. You ever take computer science? They teach you to take a big project and break it down to chunks. Then you take those chunks and transform them into small attainable steps -- and then over a period of time, the project gets completed. In this case the project is becoming a better version of you.
Break it down to CHUNKS: What are your problems? What do you see as problems? What do you see as unattractive about yourself? Think of the opposite of those problems, what is the sexy attractive opposite of this problem I am having? Body dysmorphia? Solution: Get an unquestionable sexy body [Chunk 1 - The Sexy Body]
Break the CHUNKS down into STEPS: Chunk 1 - The Sexy Body. How do you get a sexy body? Break it down into steps. Research working out, nutrition, how to change your body. I use a workout program from Kinobody called Movie Star Body. Silly name, but awesome workout routine, and easy to follow nutrition plan -- and now I have a body I get compliments on (I did not have a body I got compliments on a couple years ago). Other people talking about my body is such frequent almost daily thing that I can't have any doubts about what my body looks like to others. That is how I solved the problem. I did it for myself, now it helps benefit me socially with others, and others who are with me intimately get to enjoy being with someone they think looks great physically. How you solve it is up to you. But break the steps down and figure it out. Just do it and follow through. Consistency.
Now take your other problems (Attractive behaviors, how to have conversations with women -- note, see past comments from me on good sources for that -- how to get more confident, etc) and do the same process
Whatever it is, treat each issue as a solvable thing. Because it is solvable. You are a wealth of unconscious behaviors you picked up throughout your life. Maybe it's time that you need to consciously change those behaviors into more attractive ones. The more you do this, I can tell you from experience, the more this will snowball to wildly insane positive consequences. Not just for outer world success, but your own inner mindset will be radically different and the things you realize you can do are no longer as limited to what you thought you were limited to.
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