M:26: I hate the idea of the neg. I hate doing it. My entire life is built around uplifting people. But. I acknowledge the field is what it is and negging certainly helps.

That said, anyone have any alternatives to the neg? Or variations? Other ways to achieve the same end ( disparity in perceived value ) without just focusing on how I come off?

P.S. I live in a tough market, large city with WAY more men than women. An 8 over here is more like a 6 elsewhere and most of these women have STRONG shields.