Stop being apologetic for approaching her or flirting or wanting something... It just makes you look insecure, as if you are not convinced that what you are doing is legitimate and that only sends bad vibes to women. It's like you are premtively beggin for mercy in case she didn't like your approach. And it makes you look weak, insecure and unmasculine to women.

Women need to feel that you are absolutely convinced that what you do is perfectly fine in your opinion. If you look comfortable and convinced that approaching her is fine, then she will accept your appraoch no problem, and admire your confidence. But if you arppach her compeltely unsure if what you do is fine, then she will mirror your self-doubt and not find you attractive.

Because the problem is not whether your action is objectively legitimate or ilegitimate, it's the fact that you do that action when deep down you don't believe with absolute certainty that it is right to do it.

If you keep acting apologetic and guilty about the things you do, you just turn women off due to that insecure vibe. The problem is not that you approach them, it's your self-doubt.

Never start to convince or justify yourself to women... and never be apologetic, defensive, argumentative,or approval seeking with women, specially when they challenge u or tease u about something.

Always refuse to buy into the frame that u r there to audition, or to prove ur adequacy to be with her.

Examples:

She: “So u are one of those guys who only wants sex😒”

You: “No, no in different, i would never want to use u for sex” ❌

You: “Of course. I love exchanging orgasms with women” "Yeah, it's just how you make me feel right now".✅

Her: Are u seriously hitting on me?🙄”

You: “No, no, i was just trying to get to know u, i didn’t mean to make u uncomfortable” ❌

You: “Of course i am, and now im just seeing if u are fun enough to take it further” or “yeah, isn't it obvious?"

Her: “U men are all the same”

You: “U can’t generalize, just because some guys are bad doesn’t mean, blah blah blah…”❌

You: “Nah, i’m worst”✅

These are all "frame tests".. Notice how the implicit frame they wanna impose is:

“What you do or desire = unwelcome / immoral because I (or society) say so"

Other frame test that are similar to these:

Her: “It’s kinda weird or suspicious that you go around approaching girls on the street

Her: “You shouldn’t be approaching women you don’t know”

Her: "Isn't it weird to do x thing you are doing?

Her: “Did anyone ask you to come here?”

What you need to do when you are faced with any of these is to be unapologetic, not give a fuck about her approval, and double down or reaffirm yourself. If you can't think og anything clever to respond to these things, the simplest way is to simply say:

"It's just how i feel, and i don't fight my feelings" or "i hear you, but when i feel something real, i just act on it", "I just follow my raw impulses and let things unfold naturally"

That way you are speaing yoru emotional truth which doesn't allow for contradicting you because only you can say if you feel something or not. Either she leans into your vibe or energy, or not, but that way you are behaving from authetnicity, rather than from dishonesty or shame which is still a win as you develop character, no matter what she does with it.