Nick Sparks as a coach?

Xis4sarcasm · 2018-11-30T04:54:20+00:00

If your talking about the Nick Sparks who wrote “As you are” and spoke at the 21 convention then definitely he’d be one of the best.

Joe_The_God · 2018-12-02T04:40:53+00:00

Nick Sparks...

...great memories I had with that man.

I was 19 (30 now) when I met him. He lived in Ann Arbor, MI at the time, myself in Detroit, and I took the short drive to stay with him for 2 - 3 days at a beautiful loft. He said the cost for coaching is "$200 bucks", I agreed, and we met at Primo Coffee - a small indie coffee shoppe near Michigan State campus. There, we had a mini-briefing.

First thing I put before him was Mystery's flagship book, "The Mystery Method". I still remember that conversation, "It's not a bad book, except, game isn't about numbers, sets, DMV's, negging, or all that other stuff...it's about connecting with people, man. Let me show you."

We then proceeded to order coffee while he flirted with the counter girl. There was no "game" involved. It was nothing like what I imagined game to be. He just struck up a normal, natural conversation with her. Something I used to do all the time when I was a kid before I started filling my had with junk.

Fast forward a few hours and he said, "Hey, lets go to a costume party." We jumped in a taxi (no Ubers at the time) and the moment I stepped in the house, it was like rock concert...people were having sex in the closet, upstairs in bedrooms, making out on stairwells, weed rolled up on tables and, what I will ASSUME was "fake cocaine" on the table tops.

I remember thinking, "Wait a sec...I thought college girls were these prim and proper types who did nothing but work and study?!" The following day, all the college kids went back to class and carried on about as if nothing had happened the night before - very bizarre.

Day 2, he gives me more "gaming" lessons, which wasn't really game looking back but, I thought it was. He continued to demonstrate his natural, effortless approach to talking to women as we went to a bookstore (way back before kindle) and a movie theater to see, "In Burgress" staring Colin Farrell. He even insisted on paying for my ticket and snacks. That night, we went to a LARGE nightclub. Had a great time. I was very timid, shy and nervous, but I remember having confidence "for a moment" and went into the club with 3 different women. I felt out of my league and didn't know how to lead them, but did manage to dance with a few. If I'd had the courage, I could have gone further with one but, the mental blocks were still strong.

We leave the club and he brings back one girl to his place. I almost fucked it up for him by talking "too" much. I thought, "This isn't normal" because he wasn't silent during the entire pull. No "kino touching" or "push pull" or "making her more comfortable by talking more". He was totally...silent. As far as he was concerned, it was a done deal. Nothing else to talk about.

They go upstairs and do their thing. While I slept alone on the couch down stairs.

Day 3, he decides to host a "party" at the loft. I'm geeked, so we go out and get kegs of wine and snacks. Next thing I know, a score of beautiful women - 8's - 10's - were lined up at the door waiting to get in. Myself and Nick were the only two men there out of the entire Michigan U softball team who showed up (around 8 of them).

I pretty much shit my pants. He looked at me, said, "Go get 'em tiger" and put me in the middle of 6 of the girls while I held court making light banter and boring conversation. I got so nervous, I bailed upstairs and told him "I couldn't do it". Man, I had some serious insecurities at that time. He went back downstairs and worked the crowd himself since the knots in my stomach would not allow me to overcome that fear and do it anyway.

Nonetheless, after the party, he was very cool about it, understanding, and told me I really had to break those habits and deal with my emotions on a deeper level if I'm giong to go anywhere with women.

By Monday, it was time for me to head out and go back to my own life. I was sad, in a way, because it was such a great experience that, to this day, I have never spoken about until now but remember fondly. He has such a BIG heart, warm smile, very kind, and incredible charismatic and lovable. The man is as genuine as they come and appears to have grown even more since my visit 10 years ago from today.

The lessons I learned and experiences I had made taking the risk going outside my comfort zone to unknown territory in a new city to stay with a guy I didn't really know worthwhile...

Let me tell you something. Coaching is HARD work! It takes a lot of energy, stamina, and planning to in-field coach people. Honestly, there's no amount of money you could pay me to do it for others because it's so exhausting. You'd be dealing with a lot of different personalities with different insecurity issues and mental/emotional roadblocks you have to creatively try to fight through. It drains you. And having coached people in other areas (business related), it's much more fun and easier to do the thing our good at than it is to TEACH the thing your good at.

...and the crazy part is...

...as I reached in my pockets to give him the agreed upon amount for his services of $200 as I was hopping in my Dodge red Neon on the way home, he said...

..."Nah. You keep it. It was always going to be free. I just wanted to see how committed you would be in making the changes you need to make ON yourself and IN yourself to be the man you ultimately want to be."

I teared up on the spot...much like i am now at this moment writing these last words.

So, if it isn't obvious by now...

...I highly recommend him.

P.S. Yo, Nick. If you see this. Thanks again, brother. I was one of your first coaching students. I know you remember. I was the tall, black skinny kid. Look forward to linking up with you again soon, not for coaching, but to buy you a beer.

Title	Nick Sparks as a coach?
Author	Himalayan_Hillbilly
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Date	November 30, 2018 4:17 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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