This is part 2 of 6 of the "Notable segments from every seddit AMA" series. I will attempt to shorten and simplify each AMA into it's own personal section in every part in order to provide a greater picture of the slight differences and nuances of each of these individuals, with some brief descriptions on the side to provide context. I will post each part as I complete them, I have responsibilities to deal with outside of seddit, but i'll do the best I can.

Part 1

Side note - Feel free to read these in any order you'd like, I won't hold you to it - but you may find the material more interesting if you start from part 1 and work your way up. I will post links to previous and future parts as they become available on each of these to make it easier navigating between each one. Feel free to cherry pick certain methods/quotes to apply to your own style - that's what pickup is all about.

P.S - If I have the time, I may include a bonus "Part 7" which includes my overall interpretation of the material, a collection of favorite quotes, and my own methods/styles when in-field to mesh these parts together. I had a great time putting this all together for you guys, and learned a little bit myself from fishing through the good and the bad, and I think you will enjoy it too.

---AMA 6, DJ Fuji---

(On gaming in college)

"Focus on being social, on being funny, and on capitalizing and escalating when the time is right. That's all you really need to know in college. Girls are practically handed to you on a silver platter there. Just know how and when to escalate and be social enough not to weird people out."

"College is social circle and warm approach. Don't do weird shit like opinion openers, the claw, too much cold reading, hypnosis, or any of that other stuff. It doesn't work and just makes you come off weird." (On getting the motivation to go out and game)

"Make deals with yourself. I used to say I can either go out for an hour and then treat myself to something I want to eat, or I can stay in and fast until lunch the next day. Or use whatever motivates you. Try not masturbating all week. Tell yourself you have to push that to 2 weeks unless you go out. Chances are, you'll go out. (On day game vs night game)

"I like and do both. They're different animals but they rely on the same core fundamentals. Learn those fundamentals and you'll be fine. In day game, you have to be more genuine, relaxed, and real. In night game you have to be higher energy, funnier, and more flirty/direct. It's just an adjustment you have to make."

(On outer game vs inner game) Personal Favorite

"Inner game by itself is worthless. Take a monk with amazing centeredness and inner game and put him in a club. I'll destroy him. Outer game by itself is also worthless. Give me a guy with great outer and nothing else and i'll give you a guy who can't keep girls around him. They constantly leave once they pierce the shell of awesome and see nothing underneath."

"I don't stress inner game exclusively -- I stress BECOMING MORE ATTRACTIVE. That's how you get anywhere long term in this. Short term doesn't mean shit. If you want actual growth and actual results in the long haul, you have to stop looking short term and start focusing on what's going to make a difference over 1,3,10,20 years. If you want quick results, go hire an escort. Guaranteed sex. You just won't get any BETTER at this."

"Here's how they work: Inner game is developed THROUGH the outer game. More succinctly, your BELIEFS (inner game) are directly related and influenced by your ACTIONS (outer game). You don't get inner game magically by telling yourself that you're cool. You get it by actually DOING things. I do it through action, not through mental masturbation. Action is the name of the game and action is what builds strong belief systems. You don't become confident by willing yourself to be confident. You become confident by doing it, over and over again."

(On how gaming can change based on physical attractiveness of you and your target)

"I would game an aggressive, alpha-type, tall black girl differently than I might game a shy, conservative, quiet asian girl (my disdain for most asian girls notwithstanding). That's just calibration. The flip side is also true -- a 5'4" asian guy (me) is probably going to game a bit differently than a 6'4", 350lbs black guy. He's going to be able to hit the 'i can protect you' mechanism really easy. But he's also going to hit the, 'i scare the crap out of girls' equally as fast. His game will have to adjust accordingly."

(On how to escalate... just make her laugh) Personal Favorite

"I'm going to give you the closest thing there is to a magic bullet. It's the thing that opened the doors to escalation for me. It's the setup to make escalating smooth. Ready? Humor."

"Think of humor as the social lubricant. It's better than alcohol. Almost"

"Make girls laugh. When you make them laugh, you can do almost ANYTHING and it's ok. Don't know how to hold a girl's hand? Make her laugh. Walk somewhere with her and when you're about to cross the street, say "take daddy's hand" and grab her hand. She'll laugh. If she gets weird or pulls away, stay in character. Be like, "god damnit I raised an ungrateful daughter. I'm sending you to boarding school tomorrow!" As long as YOU'RE laughing and relaxed, she will be too, because people (and especially girls) get their social cues from you."

"Don't know how to kiss a girl? Make her laugh. Seriously. Start treating her like a little kid. Spank her on the ass. Poke her. Pretend she has cooties. Tease her. Pat her on the head and ask if you can keep her. Be silly with her and make her laugh. She'll get used to you touching her. That will allow you to get close to her without it being weird."

---AMA 7, Mark Manson---

(On emotional connections with women and how they can improve your love-life) Personal Favorite

"I'm big on building emotional connections with women, which is something that pretty much no one else talks about regularly. When you're able to build a strong and unique emotional connection with a girl in a short amount of time, 75% of the problems go out the window (cockblocks, flakes, LMR, AMOG's, logistics, shit tests, etc.). It also makes the sex 10 times better. Yes, you can fall in love with a girl within a few hours. And no, you don't have to date her. Try it! You'll never go back... I know I haven't."

(On how experience can be the best teacher out there)

"Experience is your best teacher. Always. Experience forged by knowledge and information is even better though. Here's the structure I always teach guys. Before you go out, choose ONE THING you want to work on. Not a dozen. Not an entire 200-page model. One thing. Approaching. Cold reads. Teasing. Whatever. Pick one thing and promise yourself that you'll do it that night.

"Then go out and don't think about it again. Don't stand around with your buddies and analyze sets. When you're out, you're out to have fun and talk to girls. Leave the intellectualizing at the door. Seriously, while you're out: Stop. Talking. Game."

"Then the next day, go back and think about your sets and what happened. Try to find things that you could have done better. Try to find what you did well and what you didn't do well and why. Ask yourself why you did certain things and why she responded in certain ways."

(On being in the right state of mind before going out) Personal Favorite

"I'd say stop worrying about state. There's no point in worrying (or even knowing) about state. You either do it or you don't. Whether you feel like a million bucks or a fucking street urchin doesn't matter. You do it or you don't. Whatever you decide, be fine with it. I pass up hot girls all the time. And you know what, I'm cool with that. The only time I get mad is when I decide that I want to approach a girl and I don't."

(On some girls being "easier" or "harder" than others)

"The answer is that venues and places to meet women do vary widely. And there are places where women are more receptive and less receptive to meeting guys. There are also places where they're harsh in their rejections and places where they're not. What makes a place "easy" or "hard" is up to you and your priorities though."

"Generally speaking, high end night clubs are considered the hardest types of venue out there. Throw onto that a bunch of models in VIP areas and girls who don't speak English and you have my last 3 weekends! It's been brutal, but I'm a sicko, so I love it."

"So yes, you do eventually reach a point where it feels more or less the same wherever you go. I can approach a girl in a blaring night club in Budapest or on a sunny sidewalk in LA, I don't really care. Feels the same to me now. But 5 years ago, they felt MASSIVELY different."

(On how your lay count changes the perspective you have on yourself and on women) Personal favorite

"Yes, your perspective absolutely changes, in a few ways. Your self-perception as well as your perception of women and the women you've been with. A lot of people hate on lay counts, but I honestly believe that quantity of sexual experiences absolutely affects your perceptions in a lot of ways and therefore, it's a useful benchmark for development."

"I find that guys with below average lay counts (lifetime average in US is 9) tend to struggle with confidence and anxiety issues around women more or less permanently. They tend to put women on a pedestal. "Guys who experience a fair amount of success, like 10-30 lays, often go to the other extreme and over-estimate their game. Suddenly having multiple girls into them it's such a contrast to their former life, that they feel like they've "made it" and want everyone to know. A lot of these guys suddenly become "experts" over night and suddenly they decide they know it all. A bunch of yahoos magically decide they should start coaching pick up in this range."

"After a while, for me it was around 40-50, you start to realize how little of it all you actually control and how little it matters. That's not to say that getting laid is boring or less exciting. It just doesn't affect your identity the way it used to. Back in the day, getting a lay was a momentuous occasion. Around this point, it's just kind of a highlight of your week, or something cool you did last Thursday. Guys often humble themselves out around here and become cool to talk to about girls again."

"Once I got up around 50-60, I really started wanting more enriching experiences with girls. The hook ups all began to blur together. Not only did I start to forget names, but I began to completely forget girls entirely. I think casual one night stands really started to lose their luster around here. I became much more interested in foreign women of different cultures, and developing deeper connections and more enriching sex with girl"

"Around 60-70 you start to get these ridiculous situations and realizations, where you'll approach a girl who will reject you HARD and you realize that you've slept with like 8 different girls who look just like her. It's kind of a mind-fuck at first. But after a while, it really helps you kind of teflonize yourself, rejections start to bounce off a lot more. I really, really, really feel impervious to most rejection these days. I'll go into a high end club in Ukraine where no one speaks English and take 10-15 blow outs on the chin and I just don't really care anymore. That's really just started kicking in the last year or so."

"I'm at 83 lays now (I think). I'm sure that could be higher, but honestly I prefer spending more time with each girl I pick up. I also prioritize other things in my life higher than game, so I'm often busy. It's not unusual for me to go a few weeks without approaching. At some point we all have to decide enough is enough and we want quality of relationships over quantity."

---AMA 8, Gareth Jones and BenJ, "ABC's of Attraction"---

(On lowering your "flake" rate)

"The best way to lower the flake rate is to build comfort. A phone number means nothing without building comfort. A common mistake I see guys make is they LEAVE after getting the number. Don't leave, make sure you stay in set and keep building comfort after the number close. Keep talking and building up that comfort so it doesn't look like you're after her number."

(Beliefs that have made Gareth successful with women, that other men don't often have) Personal Favorite

"The advantage of being a professional PUA is that you have generally had to chug through hundreds of sets to get where you are and certain beliefs have organically grown through that process. The ones that I find that help my students out the most start right at the beginning. #1: Don't try to "open" her or "seduce" her. Go and find out what she and her friends are doing and if it's any fun. This is much like if you've ever been to a restaurant and the manager comes up to you and asks you how your meal is. You immediately reply whether it's good or not, he's never going to get "blown out" because he's not trying to get anything. On top of that; the fancier the restaurant, the less he looks like a manager and the more he looks like just a guy chatting to people, though his air of confidence and "value giving" gives him an amiable aura that encourages people to respond."

"Some other great beliefs I have are things like "I am not trying to get things from women" "I am valuable and interesting and can make this woman's night better' and the concept that you can never read a woman's mind, so beliefs like "She wont like me" "She has a boyfriend" or "She doesn't want to talk" are pointless and shooting down your own plane. Ask yourself what a woman's favorite Soda or candy bar is, you don't know what she's thinking; so go find out!"

(On Gareth's favorite openers)

"A set? "Hey guys. What's going on over here?" That takes a LOT of passive value and confidence, so next time try something like "Hey guys, I need your help. I'm trying to help my little brother talk to girls, but I'm noticing all these douches saying the dumbest crap. Can I park it with you guys for a bit and see what kind of things guys say and get your input?" This is always a blast and will be a lot of fun in the meantime. If you want a foolproof opener, walk up to the girl, turn her firmly by the shoulder to face you, give her a big, cheesy smile, and say "Hi. You are absolutely gorgeous, I love your (x = dress's pattern, hair, shoe color)" and then qualify by saying something like "Are you an artist?" "How long did it take you to do that?" or "What made you choose that color?" Keep your smile and then continue the conversation!"

(Describing how it doesn't matter what routine is used) Personal Favorite

"All routines stack well if you're doing them right ;) Miles Davis once said "There are no wrong notes in Jazz, only notes in the wrong order". This is a really great concept to apply to seduction. Nothing is WRONG (we ALL break the 'rules'), we just put it in the wrong order."

(On "solo sarging") TOP 10 "SEDDIT AMA QUOTES" MATERIAL

"Solo sarging is awesome, but intimidating. Once you get into a venue, talk to the first people you see. Greet them like old friends and then continue on to the next group. I used to do this a few times until I was ready to approach the hot chicks who, by then, had seen me talking to a whole load of people and assumed I was popular, social, and therefore open much easier."

(On BenJ's "ahah!" moments)

"The biggest one is probably when I got over my AA finally when I started out. I made it a point to burn through 20 sets a night and purposely get rejected. When the next night came, I saw NONE of the people that rejected me, so it really did feel like a "Game."

"The next one was kiss closing. I was at Vertigo Sky in Chicago with a few wings and I ended up getting a wonderful kiss close with a girl after building up a ton of comfort, using attraction switch stories, and being very sexual. It showed me that as an Asian guy, you NEED to be sexual, you NEED to kino, and you NEED to PULL THE TRIGGER! After that night, I applied the same tactics and found much more consistent results, including tons of dates to the point where it was difficult to keep track of!"

---AMA 9, Aaron Sleazy---

(One piece of advice to a guy who is just beginning pickup, vs. advice to those who are experienced)

"The beginner should go out and get his feet wet, and just push himself. With just a bit of perseverance he'll figure a lot out by himself. (I think most go wrong by consuming too much information, and bad advice, which is so rampant in this industry.)"

"The intermediate guy probably just needs to push for sex or meeting up with the girl. If you make out with her, tell her to "get out of there." A big issue of those guys seems to be that they prefer the gratification they get from kissing the girl over attempting to get her home, because the latter does entail the risk of failure. It's some twisted logic, though."

(On applying Mystery Method to gaming, and how it's unnecessary)

"I don’t know how old you are, but you probably are familiar with the video game Super Mario Bros. for the NES. The goal is to finish level after level, and eventually defeat Bowser. The goal in pickup is to have sex with a girl. But what is the equivalent of the standard way of applying MM in terms of Super Mario Bros.? To kill yourself by running full-force into the enemy ("warm up sets"). I do provide a very clear plan, and I invite you to make yourself familiar with my material before making any accusations. Yes, I don't make use of the MM framework, because there is no need for it. Of course, at one point you have to say hi, and in the end you’re hopefully going to have sex, but that’s where the similarities end."

(On how game is an interconnected lifestyle with the rest of your habits, and how you should run it depending on what your personal goals are) Personal favorite

"I’ve noticed that most guys in this “community” don’t really care about reaching “higher levels of achievements” but just want to get laid every once in a while and eventually find a cute girlfriend. If this is what you want, then just focus on your work, make sure you are financially stable (as this is very important for girls who look for a boyfriend, at least once they are out of college), and have one or two hobbies that allow you to meet people. This will not turn you into a second Casanova, but you will meet enough women who share at least some of your interest that those comparatively modest goals can easily be reached."

"On the other hand, if you really want to pull a lot of girls, and don’t care about your relationship potential, then move to a big city, only work part-time if at all, live near the cool bars and clubs, and make sure you never run out of condoms."

(On what to specifically look for before an approach on your "target")

""Target" is standard PUA lingo. Yet, it does sound fucked up. You can even see before the approach whether she's potentially interested in having sex that night. One indication is how much skin she is showing (there is nowadays even academic research confirming this).

"Other women aren't advertising themselves quite so loudly. Thus, just walk up to them if you find them interesting, and see how it goes. If she starts to touch you, or, e.g., seems to enjoy you putting your hand on her waist, then you know you've got a live one."

(On accelerating your learning curve with game) Personal Favorite

"You have to get a lot of experience in a short time. Try to maybe take three weeks off and go out four or five nights a week, or if you are more into day game, find some activities you like and talk to a lot of women. If your really want to get good, then make it a priority in your life for a while. Keep a diary, and record your successes and failures. You'll notice that after one month, if not sooner, you will perceive subtleties in male-female interactions you were completely oblivious before. (This will extend to social interactions in general.)"

---AMA 10, SimplePickup--- <---- Personal favorite AMA

(Three things that reduced anxiety during inactivity of pickup, favorite opener, and one thing that advanced game more than any other) Personal favorite

  1. "Just go out and make ourselves laugh. That's the best way because there's no pressure.
  2. "Excuse me, I like big butts and I cannot lie"
  3. "Doing really stupid shit for the lulz. Helped us have more fun and grow some balls"

(What to say after opening)

"Whatever the fuck comes to your mind. Sex, puppies, sex with puppies. ANYTHING."

(On having a "mental block" after chatting with a girl, something "stops you" from going to far) TOP 10 "SEDDIT AMA QUOTES" MATERIAL

"This is a deeper issue. It's probably some sort of sexual insecurity or a feeling of unworthiness. I use to be in the exact same boat (Jesse). You're going to need to fucking FORCE yourself to go further with girls. You're going to need to accept that you are going to fail a shitload before you start seeing success. You need to FAIL FAIL FAIL! literally fail until you immune to the bullshit. that is the only way you are going to get over that fear."

(How to be more "touchy" and "flirty" with girls)

"The answer is just do it as many times as possible. Some girls won't like it but you shouldn't care because some girls will LOVE it.

"The more you fail now, the more you will succeed later." <---- Nugget of truth right here, folks

(On the best time to go for a number close)

"Whenever you feel the time is right. It can be 30sec in or 5 hours later. there is no specific amount of time."

(One piece of life-changing advice to know)

"Life is a huge joke. Learn to not take yourself too seriously. You shouldn’t feel stressed out by talking to girls. As cliche as it sounds, just have fun."

---AMA 11, Neil "Style" Strauss---

(On using pre-rehearsed openers and routines) Personal Favorite

"It's stupid. Do what works for you is ALWAYS the answer."

(On embracing relationships vs. "Getting around" while you're young, [referring to a commenter])

"First of all, congratulations. And I say (and you won't like this answer): Do what's in your heart. Do what you want. Much to the frustration of some women, as a male, you will never to be too old to meet younger women. And unless something traumatic happens to you, you'll only get more confident as time goes by."

(On what Neil thinks will happen to PUA in the future, 5-10 years from now [this comment was typed 4 years ago]) Personal Favorite

"I notice it's gone from people asking "is this right" to "which method is the best." So my hope is that it turns into an acceptable way for men to get into self-improvement." <--- Not far off!

(On the most important thing for new people to learn and internalize gaming) Personal Favorite

"The most important thing in The Game is really to stop reading and researching, and get in the field. Most guys become experts in their head before they're even advanced beginners in real life."