At this point, I was living with another girl I met via OLD to focus on building up my freelance writing business. But I grew tired and bored. I flew to Manila due to a.) the sheer 15 mil pop that massively increased my options of women and b.) the stories of guys pulling multiple times a day. So, I flew off to Manila for two weeks.

During my daily swiping routine on Tinder, I ran into this cute 19 y/o Filipina with braces and an adorable smile. She was hella sweet and didn’t have experience using Tinder. She recently broke up with her boyfriend (cuz he was cheating – it’s very common for dudes to cheat over here) and decided to try her hand at OLD.

The reason why I’m logging this notch is to showcase how important comfort is in countries like the Philippines, Colombia, and even Eastern Europe.

When I met up with her at Starbucks, I hadn’t practiced game in 4 months at this point. Therefore, I opted to use engrained PUA techniques that work in the States: push-pulls, qualifiers, etc. It surprisingly helped a bit, but she was still nervous. She had never dated a foreigner before, and I was coming across as this cool, confident guy.

Fortunately, I was good enough to bring her back to my place. I still spat value-based game, but it didn’t help much. In hindsight, I should’ve asked myself: “She’s already into me, why am I still insisting she’s not?”

It took me a good two hours to finally realize what was going on. Like, duh, she just wants to feel comfortable and know that I’m not some guy who’s gonna fuck her and leave her hanging.

Luckily, I got my act together and dropped the whole player routine. I scooted over next to her and spoke in a softer tone, really trying to connect with her on an emotional level. I told her that I genuinely enjoyed spending time with her and that she was someone special to me.

And you know what? It worked. I even threw in a little touchy-feely action, like holding her hand and playing with her hair, before going in for a kiss.

It was straight out of a scene from a cheesy ’80s romance movie.

So, after hanging out for about 30 minutes, things started to heat up. One thing led to another and, well, let’s just say it was a successful night.

We even exchanged a few texts afterwards, but to be honest, I was already onto the next girl by then.