Now what (with a moral?)

Osafune2 · 2014-10-21T22:51:15+00:00

On the flip side, I spent so long focusing on getting women that I'm 25 with no career prospects and have moved back in with my parents. Of course that's not all there is to it, but I wish I had tried to sort my life out sooner. Still young I guess and I do get laid a lot which is nice

You've got a great foundation upon which to learn how to seduce women

jacks_not_surprised · 2014-10-22T01:21:02+00:00

You're not fucked. You're not a woman and 30...you're in your motherfucking prime!

merandom · 2014-10-22T02:22:51+00:00

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situ139 · 2014-10-22T04:52:32+00:00

Think your fucked and you will stay fucked.

Wumbo_Corp · 2014-10-22T02:07:59+00:00

Would it be too much to ask what you do for a living?

mandelt · 2014-10-22T08:21:39+00:00

My guess ist that girls in your age have seen all the PUA shit and that's why it does not work.

Models - Mark Manson

recyclablebantha · 2014-10-22T12:52:22+00:00

Even so, i am completely hopeless with women. I can't get one to like me for the life of me, i have submissive posture and mentality, I'm shy and insecure.

I always thought that getting all of the above would help me alleviate the inferiority complex.

You almost make it sound like you got success because you thought it would bring you things like women.

Could you elaborate? Do you enjoy your life for anything beyond the material gains and the mere promise of things that are supposed to follow, like women?

So there you have it. Learn the game while you can, cause age fixates behaviours and then you are fucked. Like me.

You're not fucked. There are guys in that age bracket who figure stuff out after getting out of bad long term relationships and marriages. But it sounds like you're intent on seeing yourself as having no way out.....

nexemos · 2014-10-22T15:13:09+00:00

You sound like the type of person I want to be by the time I'm 30. But it also scares me that leading a productive lifestyle such as yours doesn't fix the ingrained inferiority complex and anxiety.

Have you ever talked to a psychologist? I haven't, but I'm wondering if it could help either of us.

philosarapter · 2014-10-22T20:30:35+00:00

Its never too late to change, the belief that it is "too late to change" is itself a roadblock to your progress. These beliefs will keep you complacent with how things are. If you really wanted to, you could shatter these beliefs and change.

You have to believe you deserve a woman, only then will you get one.

merandom · 2014-10-22T05:21:22+00:00

When I read this it makes me feel like the type of person I'm trying to work towards is impossible to attain, as if it's too late. That's complete bullshit. What is one supposed to do? Just accept it until we wither into old age and die?

Thats my experience yes, you are what your parents made you, and by age 5 your basic personality traits and behaviours are set. You can work around them, perhaps bend some a few, even twist them, but you can't completely change who you are, you will revert back to it whenever shit hits the fan.

I used to be fat, like properly, fat, 125kg (thats 280lb for our imperial friends), I'm not any more, but the effort needed to change that was monumental and at this point i can't EVER let my self go, because i revert to the old fat me feeding habits.

I did change but not really, i constantly have to struggle with it.

And its a vicious feedback loop. You can change but you have to constantly enforce it which is tiresome and the results are merely what others have naturally which stress you out which makes the effort all that much harder etc etc.

For example, i was in London for a business trip, me and my CFO, so we rent a car to drive around and because UK drives on the other side we scratched one of the rims of the car. When the time came to return it they where asking for 200 pounds for it, which is obviously completely fucked up. My CFO being a cocky alpha male type of guy bullshited their ears off until they agreed that it was wrong of them to sell us insurance without telling us it didn't cover the rims so we left.

I would of just payed the fee.

I solved that problem by hiring someone to be my voice in situations like this. Cant do that in personal life, can you?

Title	Now what (with a moral?)
Author	merandom
Upvotes	17
Comments	31
Date	October 21, 2014 10:20 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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