A few people asked me to give the cliffnotes for various pickup guys so that you can go out and test their stuff today/tonight and see if it works or not without having to buy the books or whatever.

We'll start With Josh Pellicer:

First, the core idea: Your goal isn't just to "get" her. It's to "test your skills and find out what doesn't work." That takes the pressure off.

You see her. You have about two seconds. "Approach within the first two to three seconds." Go.

Step 1: The Opener. Playful & Observational:

Your body talks first. Don't face her fully. Lean back, relax. Mix your signals. Now, for the words.

use a "playful form of speaking called banter." Joshua Pellicer gives you the template. You walk up, look at her with a smirk, and open with a line like: "You're not fooling me, I see the devil horns under your halo," or the classic, "You look like trouble."

It's not a question. It's a playful, slightly challenging observation. The point isn't the line itself, but the vibe. "Anything that makes someone smile or gets a quick laugh is an example of the kind of banter that will increase your success."

Step 2: The Transition & Banter. Cold Reads & Qualifying.

After her initial reaction (usually a laugh or a playful protest ideally), you don't just ask interview questions. You transition with more Pellicer-style playful cold reads to keep the frame. You can say, "You seem sweet, but I bet you probably keep people at a distance,"

After a minute or two of this back-and-forth with her laughing at your cold reads, you shift into qualifying.

You need to see if she's worth your time. Look at her and ask directly: "If you had to name your three most positive dominant qualities, what would you say they are?" Let her answer. Listen for the categories from the book: sexy ("adventurous"), smart ("intelligent"), and emotional ("loyal"). If you get one from each, green light.

If she doesn't really engage, use the more advanced move. Tell her, "You know, I don't know why I get this feeling about you... but I'm just getting this feeling that you're a completely open person... I appreciate it." Then immediately say why: "It really made me comfortable, and it's cool to hang out with someone like that." You've handed her a quality. If she accepts it, she's qualifying herself to you.

Step 3: The Emotional Connection.

Now, connect. Get her one-on-one. Say, "Let's go over here." Start simple. Ask, "What did you do before you came here today?" Listen. Pick something mundane. Now, build "deep rapport" using the formula. First, accept: "Oh, that's really awesome." Then, start the machine: "I don't know how it is for you, but for me..." (This is the "I perspective").

Describe an event, not an emotion: "Whenever I [do that thing], I feel like [describe a scenario]."

Link to childhood: "It kind of reminds me of when I was a little boy..."

Link to now: "And ever since then, every time I [experience it], it makes me feel..."

Lock it in: "Does that make any kind of sense to you whatsoever?" Wait for her "yes." Then change the subject.

Step 4: The Kiss. Later, watch her eyes. If they dance from one of your eyes to the other, down to your mouth, and back (triangulation), that's the signal. Say calmly, "It's okay." She'll say, "What's okay?" You say, "You can kiss me, I want to kiss you too." Then kiss her.

Step 5: Handling Tests. If she tests you early with, "Are you buying me a drink or what?" flip it: "I was just about to ask you the same thing."

If she tells you to wait, add a term: "Okay, I will wait here, but only if you do a little dance for me."

If she teases you ("Do you always hit on girls at bars?"), misinterpret it: "Look, I've just met you, don't talk about hitting on me."

The Golden Rules:

Never buy attention: "Buying a girl a drink just to get her attention subconsciously says 'I'm not important enough...'"

Never ask permission. Say "Give me your number."

If she walks away: "Tough shit! It's no big deal!"

Be congruent: "Any time your body language and your verbal language aren't sending the same message... you're called incongruent. This is a major red flag."

This is the skeleton. Now, here’s a quick example of how a short interaction using these specific Pellicer principles might flow:

Setting: A bar. You: (Approaching, relaxed stance) "You look like trouble. I see the devil horns under your halo" (Smirk). Her: (cracks up Laughing) You: "You seem sweet, but I bet you probably keep people at a distance." (Playful cold read). Her: "Maybe I'm just careful!" You: (After more banter) "Alright, careful. If you had to name your three most positive dominant qualities, what would you say they are?"

She thinks for a second, then says, "Alright... I'm adventurous, loyal, and I guess pretty determined." You note: adventurous (sexual), loyal (emotional), determined (logical). That's your green light. You give a slight nod, "Cool."

You lean in a bit, lowering your voice just a notch. "Let's go over here." You guide her to a quieter corner of the bar.

"Alright, Ms. Adventurous," you say, "so what did you actually do before you got here tonight?"

She laughs. "I'm not that exciting. I worked late, grabbed a coffee, went for a walk, then came here."

"That's really awesome," you say, accepting it. You pause, then start the rapport machine. "I don't know how it is for you, but for me... whenever I take a walk after work, I feel like I'm literally resetting my brain. Like I'm clearing out the noise from the day." (You described the event, not just "it makes me happy").

You continue, looking slightly away as if remembering. "It kind of reminds me of when I was a little boy and I'd get home from school and just run straight out into the woods behind our house. Didn't matter what happened that day, out there it was just... quiet." (Childhood link).

You look back at her. "And ever since then, every time I need to shake off a feeling or find my center, I just start walking. It makes me feel like I can still find that quiet when I need it." (Link to present).

You hold her gaze and ask the key question: "Does that make any kind of sense to you whatsoever?"

She's leaning in now, her playful smirk softened. "Yeah," she says, nodding. "It actually does. I know exactly what you mean."

Boom. You've just completed the deep rapport formula. The emotion transferred. You don't linger on it. You release. You lean back, smile, and switch gears. "Good. So, what's the most adventurous thing you've actually done this month?" You're back to banter, but the connection is now cemented.

Later, as you're talking, you notice her eyes do that dance: a glance at your left eye, then your right, then a flicker down to your mouth before meeting your gaze again. Triangulation. The signal.

You keep your voice low and calm. "It's okay."

She tilts her head, a playful smile on her lips. "What's okay?"

You meet her eyes. "You can kiss me. I want to kiss you too."

A very simplified example if you have adhd and that was too long for you to read but want to try out his system tonight:

Simplified Example:

Open her. relaxed body language. "You look like trouble. Don't even try to deny it." (Playful, challenging opener)

"Yeah, you seem sweet but I bet you keep people at arms length. Protects the good stuff." (Transition to personal, slightly deeper banter/cold read)

"Alright, tell me one real thing about you. What’s a quality you actually like in yourself?" (Direct question to begin qualifying her)

"Adventurous, huh? I can see that. Makes me think you get bored easy. You need to feel alive." (Acknowledges her answer and attaches an emotional meaning to it - building rapport)

"I don’t know why, but I get the feeling you’ve got a story where that quality saved you. Or got you in trouble." (Deepens the emotional thread, prompts her to invest)

"Look at you. You’re all lit up talking about it. That’s a real thing to have." (Points out her emotional state, showing observation and creating connection)

"Come here for a second." (Physically directs her closer, begins physical escalation)

"It’s okay. You can kiss me." (Assumptive, direct close)

Next, depending on how I feel, I might do someone else. I was tihnking gambler but he has VERY little actionable advice. Basically just force an IOI with a dance move and ways to escalate without her friends noticing, but that assumes she is attracted to you and he has almost nothing in the way of what to say and do when it comes to that. We'll see. I'll think about who do do next. Maybe you can request someone assuming this doesn't get you the results you want

This didn't work for me very well personally (I wrote an FR using Pellicers advice) but maybe someone will find it helpful