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Picking up a Girlfriend: How do I NOT get a one night stand?

osirisx11

December 22, 2009

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Title	Picking up a Girlfriend: How do I NOT get a one night stand?
Author	osirisx11
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	December 22, 2009 11:38 AM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ahf9g/picking_up_a_girlfriend_how_do_i_not_get_a_one/
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[–]osirisx11[S] 3 points4 points5 points 16 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]8bitParadox 1 point2 points3 points 16 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I believe the key difference between a LTR, and a f-close is timespan. The essential elements remain the same. A rapid, value laden attraction phrase is required for any successful LTR. The comfort must also be rapid, but, unlike a normal seduction, you may spread this over time. Always ensure this has attraction within, never forget push-pull.

1) Attraction, as normal. #Close 2) Comfort, over time. Always go back to attraction if you sense a LJBF situation. If its a friends zone relationship, move out. Ignore. Return sometime later, with new value (preferably you met another girl ;D) 3) Seduction must be attempted early, and often. If you can close, only k-close, make a excuse. Keep her wanting. Remember, if there is no sexual intent, you will be trapped in LJBF. Too much, you'll be removed. This balance will come with practice. Suggest a relationship (if not already assumed) when the boundary between seduction, and comfort is becoming weak.

Tl;dr: Same length comfort, spread out over time, with bits of attraction. Fclose should be delayed slightly to "keep her wanting"

[–]rmbarnes 0 points1 point2 points 16 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

I think this is just a preconception that many people have. If you get a women in to bed within a short time of meeting her then you won't have a LTR with her.

I think this appears to be true, but is actually a misreading of the situation. When you sleep with someone soon after meeting them, neither of you have spent enough time together to know whether the two of you are right for each other for a LTR. Many of the people you sleep with as a PUA won't be LTR material for you because of this. This does not mean the fact that you slept with the women early ruined your chances of an LTR.

The alternative is to wait until you both know that you're right for each other before sleeping together. All this means is that you'll have a lot less sex than if you were sleeping with girls soon after meeting them. You'll spend a few weeks getting to know some girls, and if you're right for each other then there will be sex and a LTR. If your not, then there will be no sex and no LTR.

Taking this approach you will be trading in loads of casual sex and not increasing your chances of a LTR in return. Do not do this. This is the way of the beta.

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