damn. literally tried it all... freezing out/agreeing and amplifying/going direct..and in the end nothing worked out. Just wanted to share this for an alternative to successful lay reports and field reports.

background: girl from a social circle network meetup but met for the first time...happened to live off the same train home. she asked me what I was up to later tonight on the train home and she said she was making dinner. When I was dropping her off I asked her if she was gonna feed me and she thought about it for a second then said yes.

after eating and watching a dvd and then making out for a while in the living room

k-close line: "do you think cooking me dinner earned you a kiss??"

I suggested moving to the bed, heavier making out and I said

"I can't have sex with you tonight".

Kept pushing it but her hands kept moving me away from the honeypot.

"I don't sleep with someone I just met" ..."Neither do I"...got countered by "do you tell that to all the girls?".. just kind of looked at her really confused in response.

She kept asking me if I hate her for not having sex and of course, I responded with "I hate you so much now, its like hatred straight from hell" and shit like that.

I said I wasn't leaving until she told me to. Got called an asshole for saying that.

Later she thanked me "for a good night" but I said "it could be a whole lot better" and she asked how and I said it would be "a whole lot better if we fucked".

Got really thrown off because at one point after re-escalaating she said "let's do it" but then choked again when the clothes were coming off and another time she told me "I'm so wet" and I said some bullshit and she said "that's only making me wetter". Still no go.

After freezing out (first, checking email, later even putting my clothes all back on) and re-escalating a few times, I looked at my watch, saw it was way late and I just said "ok I'm leaving" and got up and got going. Not sure if there was anything else I could do without feeling too rapey. Goes to show..sometimes...shit just don't work...but at the same time I got so many mixed messages and felt like I should have plowed harder.. Anyway I'm mostly pissed I could have been sleeping instead, but it's only Wednesday...on the the next.

Anyone got any other good LMR busters?