I have a bunch of hang ups about doing anything after getting a number. I don't always approach but when I do I get a number but never call/text. In fact, I'm now at a point where I don't ask for a number at all..even though I like the girl.. Every time after getting a number I realize I have nothing to offer the girl and that I don't have my shit together at all. I'm good at seeming like the type of a guy girls would like. I seem confident and like I have my "shit together"..but it's not true.

My problem is I can't really offer the girl anything, emotionally, in terms of personality, or physically...so I'm really unsure as to where to start/what to do.

In terms of success...I'm unsuccessful in life and do pretty much nothing. I don't have a job, I go to school and I'm doing pretty terribly I have no idea what i'm majoring in or what to study, and I lived a sheltered life(strict parents) so I haven't done anything or gone to parties or traveled. I have almost no life experience. I'm poor and my family is poor, I can't do much. getting a job soon though. So there's that.

In terms of being physical, I can't offer sex because I've never had it..so I can't pleasure her. Also, my conservative parents cant know so we have to keep everything a secret, I can't take her home to have sex(no logistics), and I have to keep the whole thing low key. I'm also pathetically weak..and I'm self conscious..about the whole thing, tell her, preforming, my body..etc

In terms of emotional experience, I also have very little..I've never been in a relationship or loved anyone.

I can't offer a particularly fun date because I'm not sure where to go. I've never been on a date.

It just feels like I have a ridiculous set of obstacles...all these problems flow in my head when considering a date, "If I can't offer a girl sex, myself, or even a fun date..what's the purpose of calling her? There's no point..."

After going on two dates with a girl she offered to come over.. I was too worried about telling her about my lack of experience/too self conscious about my body so I stopped talking to her.

I don't have my shit together and I don't think I ever will, it's all interconnected..and getting a good job/degree is going to take me years....

At the same time, I'm incredibly fucking lonley and I want so badly to connect with someone deeply..on an emotional and physical level...I lay at night thinking about finding that ONE girl