Here's my problem, I talk to people/women fine and approach fine but if I have a real interest in them and it doesn't go very well I start to negatively self evaluate myself..the girl and the rejection doesn't hurt... When I get rejected I almost feel nothing about the rejection specifically...even when I don't get rejected but the convo doesn't work out or I don't do well with the girl I get this odd feeling.

Instead of feeling bad about being rejected, my ENTIRE life perception turns very negative and I start looking at my shortcomings like in looks or money or success. I start evaluating everything in my life and I start to look inward and realize all the problems in my life. My whole outlook turns negative and it turns into this horrible cycle that causes me to get depressed that snowballs with all my other problems and causes me to become very withdrawn I start to look at my life, my job, my physical health and success in life and all that stuff..and it really ruins stuff for me...the actual rejection/girl is never on my mind after I get rejected..instead I start to self evaluate myself very negatively...how do I stop this? So far I've been very averse to approaching not because I fear the actual approach/rejection..but what comes after it.

Usually I start to feel really ugly and unsuccessful and shitty in general...

I'm having a lot of trouble explaining this..I hope someone understands. It's not really AA...I'm not sure what I'd call this.