Everybody feels anxiety around women – everybody. I don’t care how high value you are or how much success you have had, you will feel anxiety around women, especially on the first approach.

Anxiety feeds on thoughts. Anxiety is a feeling and it needs thoughts and excuses to strengthen and justify itself. “She is too hot for me, she is not hot enough for me, she is probably here with a guy, she is talking to her friends” – these are all excuses that your brain is creating to justify your anxiety. And guess what – your brain will make infinite excuses if you don’t stop thinking because the anxiety will always be there. There will always be an excuse to not do it.

Therefore, the only way you can force yourself to approach is to stop thinking. Just stop. No thoughts at all. Just go do it.

A lot of the best PUAs are morons and they succeed because they just don’t think. They just run in and say something stupid to get the conversation going. They also fail a shit ton, but they also succeed sometimes because they have actually done something while everybody else was sitting around and overthinking.

Of course, it is ok to think at certain points in your life. You can think about it at home, on the way back from the club, when talking with your friends. You can even think while you are talking to her to make sure you don’t say anything creepy or weird. But in that moment when you need to approach, you need to stop thinking and just do it.

A big problem with a lot of you guys is that you spend too much time thinking, reading, and talking about approaching, and not enough time doing, and this thinking and reading is actually making your anxiety WORSE! The more you think the more you are giving your anxiety an opportunity to create excuses for you to not do.

Reading and reading should be about 10% of your PUA regime. If you are not actually out approaching 90% of the time, you need to stop thinking and reading. It is not helping you – it is hurting you. Stop. Just go out and say something – anything – to a woman. Say “hi.” Say “nice weather, eh?” Say “my butt itches, what about yours?” But say something.

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