Putting non-neediness into practice

ImJustSo · 2019-11-24T21:24:16+00:00

Been doing this a long time, cannot stop feeling or thinking about girls. I have no control over that and it's a fool's errand to try. You can control your actions and that's that.

How do you incorporate that into your game then? You know that feeling you get when a girl doesn't reply in a timely manner(in your opinion)? The common response is to send another message, or ask wtf, or start spiraling and sending message after message, freaking out and increasing your anxiety as each stupid fuckin action you allowed yourself to do happens again and again and then...

poof She's gone for real.

So what do you do instead? Nothing. Control your actions. Acknowledge the feeling or thought and let it go. Apply this to everything you do (or do not do) going forward and watch the results.

Do nothing based on your insecurities, ever. Here's examples:

I shouldn't talk to her, because I'm ugly. Your insecurity has stopped you from talking.

I should leave, I don't think anyone here likes me. Your insecurity is trying to make you leave.

I think she just fuckin checked out another dude, is she going to fuck someone else? Your insecurity is making you doubt whether she likes you, because she looked somewhere.

A girl asks if you're busy Friday night and you are busy, but what if you miss your chance with her? Your insecurity is making you cancel your previous engagements.

A girl asks if you are single, but you're married and think she'll not be interested the second you tell her the truth. Your insecurity is keeping you from being an honest man, you think you need to hide the fact.

You've been with a girl for a long, long time, but you want other women and you think she'll leave you if you tell her your desires, so you cheat on her. Your insecurity has made you an infidel and you ruined a wonderful relationship.

And every single one of those scenarios are things I've been through, but I refuse to let insecurity and feelings control my life. I've been with my wife for 16 years, since I was 20 years old. I am a confident man with an abundance of women available to me and I still feel insecurities.

I do not allow my insecurities to dictate my life.

Edit: And I've been able to stay an honest man.

Atriev · 2019-11-25T15:25:40+00:00

Corey Wayne talks about “the illusion of action.”

This means you feel the need to “do something” when in reality, a non-needy man would just leave it be.

santamanta08 · 2019-11-24T21:50:31+00:00

you cant be the 3 percent if u aint got the genetics for it

Title	Putting non-neediness into practice
Author	accidentally-alive
Upvotes	3
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Date	November 24, 2019 7:34 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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