Question about dealing with distance in a relationship

DaygameCode · 2025-02-04T10:48:00+00:00

High-value men don’t entertain long distance relationships. That’s why on a subconscious level women tend to lose interest in the man. It’s needy to be attached to someone you can’t see. A high value man should have better options in his life, women he can meet, have sex with and spend time with face to face.

Women may initially agree to an LDR, but over time, their subconscious will register that something is off—why isn’t he dating locally if he’s truly desirable?

Attraction requires meeting up to be sustained, otherwise it evaporates naturally. Maintainable isn’t exciting, and without excitement attraction can’t thrive. The other person continues to live their life, the woman will meet new guys and those guys will always have an advantage over the guy who lives so many miles away.

Heck, the secrecy aspect, the fact that other men will tempt her with being naughty without consequences because her long distance boyfriend would never found out, is far more exciting.

If the relationship is also 2 months in person, then you bet your ass that she ain’t gonna be loyal. She will tell herself that 2 months together in person doesn’t even count as something serious. She’ll tell herself: “It was fun, but it wasn’t a lifetime commitment.”

The reality is long distance relationships don’t work. And the best thing you can do is to break up with a woman rather than entering a long distance relationship. And if after the distance you both meet again, and you happen to be both single by then, you can start a new relationship from zero.

But promising fidelity and loyalty during the distance, making her believe that your rather be sexless no matter how long the distance lasts just makes her see you as a guy without options, a guy with scarcity, a guy who is needy and any man who hits on her will be far more exciting than having to live her life attached to the last.

It’s the difference between the same old shit vs a shiny new thing. A distant boyfriend represents routine, obligation, and emotional labor, while a new guy represents excitement and freedom. The more time passes, the more she rationalizes that the “new” experience is worth exploring.

Rather than fighting against human nature, it’s smarter to end things when distance becomes a factor and focus on what’s real and present. If fate brings you back together when you’re both single, great. But clinging to a long-distance commitment is just self-imposed scarcity, which ironically makes you less attractive in her eyes.

Women are wired to desire what feels exciting, uncertain, and rewarding. If a man is always available, predictable, or too eager to please, that comfort and predictability kill attraction and the woman starts to see him more as a friend or security blanket rather than someone who excites her. Attraction thrives on tension, anticipation, and emotional highs and lows; not routine and guaranteed availability.

If a man is too predictable or overly accommodating, the woman stops seeing him as a challenge and, over time, loses the emotional spikes that make attraction addictive. Instead, she starts craving someone who brings excitement, uncertainty, and the thrill of the unknown.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-02-04T08:58:01+00:00

Ok so you can't - essentially.

She has to be interested in that herself. If she's not interested than that's the end of that story.

But if she decides she is interested in trying to preserve some kind of long-distance relationship, then video chatting frequently and visiting each other as much as possible helps. You also need a firm plan on when you'll move together / same city. Without such a plan all hope goes out the window.

So when a long distance thing is about to happen, first and foremost you should ask her if she's open to trying a long-distance relationship. If she's not - then that's the end of that.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-02-04T11:48:02+00:00

How often are you gonna meet each other? Once a week? I think if it’s once a week I would still tolerate that.

IMO the fundamental of a relationship is physical interactions. Part of biological needs, thus obviously turn into sex. This is why LDR rarely works, one party will end up having a side chick or a side dude to fulfill that need.

Title	Question about dealing with distance in a relationship
Author	MechanicReady3523
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Comments	4
Date	February 4, 2025 7:21 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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