Hoping that this sub isn't full of inclels who have never scored I am wondering what dates went successful for you / what have you done? The idea is to learn from this and I'll also give my personal advice.

So when I started I had dates where women just went to get some coffee or some kiosk beer which is something common in my county (you'll get the beer at a kiosk which is something like a 7/11 and then you will stay Infront of the kiosk outside and drink your beer there. This must be a very foreign concept to Americans).

Do not do this! Those dates will always suck. Because if you are going to a cafe to drink some coffee you are locked in one place. You will sit next to each other and you will have to TALK! It will feel like a job interview and if you guys aren't talking there will be awkward silences.

Overall I've learned women do NOT like it if men talk too much but some women are shy and also won't say a lot so as a man you are kinda forced to talk.

So the best dates are always some activities where you can just shut the hell up. In my experience those dates have always been successfull so I highly recommend it!

December is always the best time of the year for dating for me and I'm sad it's over. I bring every date to Christmas markets and we just wander around at the Christmas markets, look at the stuff they are selling, comment on the SITUATION WE ARE BOTH IN AT THE VERY MOMENT TOGETHER instead of talking too much about me. Like commenting on what they are selling, asking if she likes that ring/scarf/hat/that colour of that jacket / if she wants to try one of those rings or try to write with that special pen / show her my drawing skills at the stall where they sell pens / ask her if she wants to try some of the free food they give away / eat some different food there. there is always lots to do and you are in it together and there are many impressions she will get, lots to experience and you are just there by her side.

after the Christmas market I always go somewhere with them like do some fun activity like throwing darts. Once again you are doing something together, it's a bit of a challenge and you can make some fun comments about the game or how much you suck at it and don't have to talk her ear off.

At the end of the game / if I win or she wins I will try to kiss her. That's something I've learned after 1 full year of unsuccessful dates : you HAVE to kiss on the first date or at least try.

So I will try to kiss them at the end so they know I like them and they will often return the favour or I've had girls (not many though, from a different culture, Japan) who would turn their head and I could only kiss their cheek but none has EVER complained that I tried to kiss them and see it as a compliment so just go for it even if it takes a lot of guts and it might not be the perfect moment - don't wait for the perfect moment just go in for the kiss.

And the women I just managed to kiss on the cheeks I would see again and kiss them on the mouth on the second date.

So now Christmas markets are closed and I have no idea where to take my dates to anymore.

Also just QUESTION for flairs would be super helpful...