Questions that will develop a good connection and escalate Kino on a first date?

Stevenson123 · 2016-02-04T01:40:55+00:00

Have some funny or unexpected stories about yourself that you've told to many people, so you know if they're well received. And then steer the conversation tactfully in that way.

For instance, I have this little thing I tell people, about how I've had a gun pulled on me 2.5 times in public. I look like the whitest most well rounded guy, so it shocks people, and they can't help but ask what the hell happened. And each of the 2.5 times had a scary, funny, or weird emotion associated with it. And each of them involves people or things that say something about me and my friends/family. And then the way I tell the stories, it helps me open up and emote and bring a girl into my fun and my reality. The way I tell the stories shows how I think it's funny. Which makes me seem confident and unafraid of life. This builds connection and gets her interested in me.

iConsu · 2016-02-04T05:26:16+00:00

I get where you're coming from with this question, and I understand it's hard to build rapport with people when you're new to this thing, but going into a date with scripted questions is only going to put you into your head and prevent you from developing a good connection.

When I go to meet a girl for a date, the only thing on my mind is that I hope it's an interesting experience and that I'm slightly aroused. Whenever I catch myself getting nervous or thinking I need to rehearse conversation topics I internally scold myself and force my brain clear of thought or expectation.

twat_disembowelment · 2016-02-04T04:20:33+00:00

Met two girls online so far. Both even at a moment during each date I wasn't too sure, the "What would you do if I kissed you right now?" card worked like a charm as soon as the conversation died down. Everything was honestly physical from there both dates.

__vi · 2016-02-04T07:00:06+00:00

Go with the flow

twohands69 · 2016-02-04T08:12:33+00:00

escalate physically not verbally.

BTW shes on tinder so SHE WANTS TO BE FUCKED, just generally get to know you chit chat then lead to sex location.

daddymonsterpoodle · 2016-02-07T10:17:19+00:00

It is kinda ass backward. I think you are better off going with the flow but OK. Some questions might be, 'what did you want to be when you were a kid? What is your passion? (Full credit mark Manson), what country would you most like to visit? What's your secret flaw? Weirdest thing you have ever eaten? Phobias? Favourite teacher? Have you ever been in hospital? Dumbest thing you ever did? ....

dude_wheres_my_cats · 2016-02-04T11:46:55+00:00

Best advice I can give you is take a deep breath, relax and shoot the shit. You don't need to be way out there in terms of 'awesome and different' during your conversations, you just need to keep it flowing while not asking too many questions.

Interested beats interesting, so focus the interaction on her. If you find yourself doing most of the talking, back off and let her ramble for a while.

Make statements on things she says, share your own stories and opinions on her responses. Weave sexual themes into these topics etc in a fun light hearted way.

Maintain eye contact, keep it strong but not intense. Let her break it, you'd be surprised how long she will hold it if she isn't shy, this builds sexual tension faster than kino in my opinion.

Start easy with kino, both your legs touching under table. High fives when agree on something. Touch her to emphasise when agreeing about something or liking something she said. Tell her she has small hands and compare. Progress to hand on lower back.

Both sitting across from each other and can't kino? Tell her this is feeling a little like an interview, take her hand and pull her up and tell her to sit next to you.

Did all this last night with a tinder date myself, was making out with her in the bar in just over an hour.

Good luck

Title	Questions that will develop a good connection and escalate Kino on a first date?
Author	BatsmenTerminator
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Date	February 4, 2016 12:59 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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