Random Instagram , Snapchat gaming...how to separate myself?

dromance · 2019-07-29T14:07:13+00:00

IG, snapchat is a pool of attention seeking girls looking for validation.. I have recently been using this as my "online" dating tool as...

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Why wouldn’t she ? In the beginning .. I’m a woman, it feels good to be pursued by a man. However, now that I know the game. The tables are always in my favor but if ur dealing with a woman who u can tell is insecure but seeks validation constantly , it’s an easy win.

Here are the steps.

In the beginning upon meeting any woman. U have to make them feel flattered, wanted, needed. That’s how u grab their attention, keep them feeling validated. Secretly, she loves this but from the outside she appears cold even. Maybe unimpressed but it’s all a front.
Let’s say u take her out on a date or 2 and you’ve paid for dinner but she hasn’t slept with u yet. U can tell she’s playing Games. Don’t get frustrated, when women play games it’s to test you.
After 2 weeks, let’s give it 3 of consistency, even if it’s more so on ur end. Here is where u start to turn the tables. Text her one day, & say hey beautiful I know of this beautiful Italian restaurant, 5 star and would love to take u out. She will immediately agree, especially if she’s the type to post her entire “rich” life on Instagram. Set a date & make plans. When that day comes & she texts u or even u text her “ hey be ready by so and so” and she agrees. Ghost her ass. Do not hit her up, actually ignore her until she texts u the next day mad because she will. Now u have the upper hand.
Once u gain control , be very cold. U could say “I changed my mind, last minute... had something better to do” . I know it’s harsh but because she isn’t use to this type of rejection she will immediately begin to try and get the upper hand back because her ego is damaged. Doesn’t matter if ur ugly , can’t dress, whatever. Women who are use to attention , will pay the price when a man rejects them. She will pretend to not care but secretly she will. Hot then cold, it works every single time.

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Yes it’s cold but this is how it is. I know ppl don’t like to play games but it’s like .. either play the game or get played. Nobody nice ever comes on top until after they’ve been abused and manipulated . Now I’m not saying u gotta be cold all the way to the end or with every woman but if u want a woman who u know is widely popular amongst men, do u seriously think being nice will make u win her heart ? It’s a lot of men being nice to her that are trying to get her attention. So what makes u be any different ?

After you’ve taken her on Max 2 dates , when u set up the third date and make it seem like she’s going to an ultra exclusive place, that’s when u play her out. U have to show some interest in the beginning . U can’t be totally cold or u won’t get her emotionally . U have to get them hooked emotionally before u can win. U have to have her co dependent on u emotionally.

Consistency of talking to her in the beginning . Think about it . Say ur talking to a woman consistently and u really like her & suddenly she slowly starts to pull away. U become confused , anxious ... wondering why doesn’t she want u. Especially if ur a high value man who can get anyone u want .. let’s use that as an example. If this woman starts to pull away and reject u, ur ego becomes hurt. U feel unattractive even and now ur main goal would be to get the upper hand because ur not use this type of rejection. See the psychology of it.

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either play the game or get played.

ah yes never thought of it that way...both can't win...

Say ur talking to a woman consistently and u really like her & suddenly she slowly starts to pull away. U become confused , anxious ... wondering why doesn’t she want u

true.

It’s a lot of men being nice to her that are trying to get her attention. So what makes u be any different ?

true again...

If this woman starts to pull away and reject u, ur ego becomes hurt. U feel unattractive even and now ur main goal would be to get the upper hand because ur not use this type of rejection. See the psychology of it.

thanks a lot. do you recommend this only after 2nd date? I would think 2nd date is crucial because you've confirmed that she is actually into you rather than trying it after first date when she might not even care about seeing you again. or?

The thing I don't get is...if you already went on 2 dates and things are going cool.....and there is a big chance you will finally get to smash after 3rd date...why would you risk it? What more are you potentially gaining. Is it worth the risk?

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Having a second date doesn’t mean they like you. I’ve been on 5 dates with a man and still didn’t like him because he wasn’t a challenge. He didn’t reject me, he didn’t make me wait, he was just to giving and to open. So eventually I grew bored & cut off him off.

The purpose of this all really depends on u. Do u want a long term committed relationship with a woman who is valued and wanted by other men ? If so.. u have to do the opposite of what she expects. U have to make her crave u by being emotionally unavailable and distant. Nobody wants to feel like they aren’t needed. Even if u don’t truly feel like this long term, u have to in the beginning for her to respect u. Nobody wants a push over, especially no woman who is worth it.

Now if u just want to smash, then say that. Ur be surprised at how most women will take it . U could say “ look, I’m not looking for a relationship, just friends with benefits. I’ll take u on a couple dates, & that’s that. Don’t expect nothing more from me”... if she agrees, then u win. Because once u hit it, u can easily just stop talking to her & I bet money lol she will hit u back up wanting more. Especially if u get her to open up a little but u appear to stay firm on not dating further.

When u meet women keep it in ur mind that u don’t like them. That u will never like them, stop valuing ppl & it will get easier.

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It’s all common sense . If a woman rejects u, wouldn’t u want to know why? Especially if u really like her .. wouldn’t u want to try ur hardest to persuade her to take u serious.

I don't think it's the same for both sexes. Women operate differently.

It’s always best to conceal ur intentions , never show ppl or tell ppl how ur really feeling

What about telling them up front you just want to smash ? Is that not a good idea then

LOL and come on, 5 dates and you didn't let him "have some"?

Just curious are you one of those "rich life instagram girls" you mentioned =p

Not every guy is looking to play a chick in order to trick her or manipulate her into sex, and chicks shouldn't be looking to play guys into tricking them into free meals... What's wrong with being up front, genuinely attracted to someone without the games and knowing what the other person is looking for even if it's just sex...

I guess it's because no girl wants to say that they are willing to go on dates with guys they aren't into just for meals, so yeah kind of hard to admit that to a guy. Hence why you should always go half/half. No more trickery.

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No I’m not an Instagram girl, I’m in my twenties, work in the city, have a degree, own a nice apartment in Brooklyn. But I’ve dated my fair share of men and some women , & even older men who are nice but play the game. In a perfect world I would love to be with a guy who was upfront & honest but we don’t live in a society like that. There are more assholes than good ppl. I can tell a man I’m not interested and he will still want to peruse me, still want to take me on dates . I’m not going to say no to food but I told him I wasn’t interested. I’ve found men, men who are big time players , big womanizers become rejected by women who don’t care for them & they become sick lol they start chasing heavy. Why? Because everybody wants what they can’t have.

I’m just telling u what it is, u can choose to go the other route & be nice and caring and emotional and everything else but I’m telling u, ur not going to have the best of luck. But hey it’s up to u.

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Just curious did you have sex with the 5 dates guy.

I’m just telling u what it is, u can choose to go the other route & be nice and caring and emotional and everything else but I’m telling u, ur not going to have the best of luck. But hey it’s up to u.

I think this sort of trickery/game goes on more so where the attraction isnt mutual... I do agree with the hot/cold game thing but I think there is a difference between doing something with a hidden agenda (I don't think there is anything wrong with refraining from excessive or even cutting contact, not being so nice, etc;) . But I wouldn't set up a fake date just to cancel it, or things that require me actively trying to be inconsiderate, or intentionally be shifty, you know? LOL I thought maybe that happened to you..I can see a chick getting super hurt thinking she's playing a dude then realizing she is the one who got played especially if she gave it up prior to that ultra fancy date,

I guess there are different ways to "play" the "game". Some people really fuck other people over ...just to...well fuck them, huh?

I'm from NY too

In a perfect world I would love to be with a guy who was upfront & honest but we don’t live in a society like that

I think the problem is, we aren't even honest with ourselves, so how can we even be honest with anyone else.

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No I didn’t sleep with him, I was interested in him but after a few dates , he wasn’t my type. And 5 dates aren’t a lot, especially if ur hanging out with someone twice a week. 5 dates is quick. & I’ve never been stood up or ghosted . But I’ve had male friends do that to other women to test them.

I’m very honest & open but a lot of ppl aren’t. And yea some ppl act like that are all about u & the feeling is mutual but how rare is that?! I’ve met good dudes who love relationships, still play around with women because it’s fun and they get bored eventually.

If I were in a relationship, I’d still play the hot and cold game. Keep my man on his toes. I wouldn’t cheat on him but I’d act uninterested sometimes to see him sweat. It’s just fun & it keeps the relationship exciting.

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Title	Random Instagram , Snapchat gaming...how to separate myself?
Author	dromance
Upvotes	2
Comments	28
Date	July 29, 2019 2:07 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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