Ranting, I hate myself

SilicaComet · 2024-06-30T21:44:22+00:00

You’re feeling strong senses of inadequacy and self-hatred due to social awkwardness and the perceived inability to connect with others, specifically in a romantic context. This is likely contributing to a self-fulfilling prophecy where your own belief in your social ineptitude is exacerbating your awkwardness. It’s going to be very difficult for you to make meaningful progress until you address this negative self-perception.

You mention realizing inappropriateness during your interactions. That indicates to me a lack of social calibration. As for the cause, it’s hard to say. It could be anxiety, it could be a lack of practice, it could be misunderstanding social norms. Your path forward is to work on developing your self-awareness and practice understanding and appropriately responding to social cues.

As far as reframing your negative self-perception, you need to actively challenge the thoughts that perpetuate this mindset. Instead of the mindset of “I hate myself,” you need to adopt the mindset of “I am working on improving my social skills.” As for appropriate topics, appropriate topics for these types of interactions are common interests, current (non-political) events, and mutual acquaintances. I would also recommend you look up “active listening” and practice it. You're not a hopeless case, almost nobody is, you'll just have to put some work in.

LittleLiceLad · 2024-06-30T18:27:54+00:00

Why you saying never? Are you honestly trying your best?

sumimigaquatchi · 2024-06-30T23:00:55+00:00

You are holding yourself back. But you also have to understand that most of those guys talk BS and make themselves bigger to brag towards their friends. Same like a girl will never say that she was having sex yesterday night with some random dude.

notmarkcubaniswear · 2024-07-01T16:56:43+00:00

with that attitude you deserve no pussy . Get your act together !

BraveOcelot1824 · 2024-07-01T01:31:32+00:00

thats it im unsubscribing, all this negative self loathing bullshit that serves no other purpose then to put negativity onto others by venting... goodbye losers!

Title	Ranting, I hate myself
Author	TheSnake1313
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	June 30, 2024 5:29 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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