Real Life Conundrum

CautiousSea4815 · 2022-11-01T18:06:42+00:00

There's a book called "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck."

I recommend it be read by both genders.

satvik__bajpai30 · 2022-11-01T21:21:58+00:00

Being told you're handsome by your female friends doesn't mean much tbh.

norwegiandoggo · 2022-11-01T15:05:31+00:00

I would ask your female best friend to elaborate on her statement. Is it your voice, your accent, your views on things? Or just general social incompetence?

sydpumone-dot-com · 2022-11-02T08:45:18+00:00

Modern men have an advantage that men from no other era had -- the reputational freedom of the obscurity of crowds.

In the past, if you messed up socially, people would remember it forever and it would impact your whole life. That's why humans are so naturally terrified of making social mistakes.

But today, you can make a fool of yourself in front of a stranger, then never see them again and face no consequences.

You must use this to your advantage. Overcome your fears and awkwardness through massive exposure -- put yourself in those situations over and over and over, and eventually you will get enough practice it will become second nature. Then, when it really matters, you'll have the skills to make it go smoothly.

sinhaanip · 2022-11-02T06:46:39+00:00

Work on your verbal game… Tonality, Choice of words, Body language.

2022-11-02T22:24:30+00:00

Indian guys have probably got the worst speaking tonality.

You need to be more Morgan Freeman and Barry White than Apu from the Simpsons.

Apart from that, when you speak to women, you talk about positive emotions, feelings, what it's like when you feel connected to someone, the body sensations you get from that, which then leads into sex talk as a general rule.

In no seduction do you ever waffle on about facts and figures and data. That just makes you boring. Women are addicted to emotions, fantasies, dreams, and their imaginations. Not facts. Not reality. Not breakdowns of how things work like this one I am writing to you. Stick to topics with emotional content.

whoareyou31 · 2022-11-03T19:32:59+00:00

Wheres the new post wtf

Infinite_Canary8796 · 2022-11-07T03:09:21+00:00

I've had A guy friend similar to this before. not bad looking but def didn't know how to speak well to the opposite sex. From reading this and your other comments it sounds like some insecurity and awkwardness etc is coming across when you speak. If I were you I'd work on self love, confidence and def not being a ppl pleaser anymore. When you love yourself more you develop healthy boundaries and your kindness to others comes out more genuine and attractive

CordV7 · 2022-11-03T00:47:06+00:00

Rejection is one of those words we wish to never here. Often, it can be a doorway to a more positive time...

2022-11-03T07:02:27+00:00

As per stoics - “I don’t care what others are thinking and others are doing” make it your mantra 🥂

whoareyou31 · 2022-11-03T19:32:41+00:00

Test

DeanG30 · 2022-11-07T08:43:26+00:00

Without knowing much about what you say when you start talking;

Women recognise the frequency, energy and humour behind a man's communication. The topics of conversation, and whether or not you are an extrovert are irrelevant (a lot of guys see being an introvert as an issue).

Only you know if you're saying things for a reaction, or if you are expressing yourself authentically and trying to actually get to know the girl as a human being rather than trying to use her as a source of validation via approval/sex.

Title	Real Life Conundrum
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Upvotes	23
Comments	36
Date	November 1, 2022 2:47 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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