Recently, I've been in a dry spell. I've been busy and preoccupied with school and stuff, but mostly I've been inside my own head over the last 2 months. The result? Almost every time when I could easily escalate with a kiss, I've become a giant pussy, and have gone home sans kiss, sans girl, and feeling like crap.

Last night for example, I am at a work party with a bunch of people who I won't see for a while - I'm leaving for the UK in about a month, so this was the last hurrah of my coworkers before Christmas (our restaurant closes over the school break). There's a girl who works in the coffee bar who I'd had my eye on for a while. In fact, there was more than one girl in the coffee bar who I'd had my eye on, all of whom were out with us, having drinks, and having a good time.

The whole night, I'm basically lording the room going from group to group, offering my conversation, and when it became time to move toa new group I did that. And it was working with all the girls who I'd spied out. HB9? Touching my hair, buying me a drink, and touching my chest. HB8? Touching my chest with every laugh, putting her arm around me whenever she can, speaking really close to me, and so on and so forth.

The HB9 sort of disappeared. She is one of the most attractive girls i've ever seen, so she gets a lot of male attention, especially from a lot of older guys. I could invest in the chase, but it almost wouldn't be worth it.

But HB8 - well, she's into me for sure. I think she's incredibly attractive, and I know everything that I would need to do to get her home and in my bed. Eventually it comes down to only needing to fucking kiss her, while we were alone walking for a cab...but I don't.

Why?

I can't figure it out. I used to be great at going for the kiss and escalating - I enjoyed the thrill, I enjoyed being in control, and I enjoyed the result. But suddenly I've become, as the title suggests, a giant pussy who never goes for the kiss anymore. This has happened endemically over the last month - I've blown at least 3 opportunities because I haven't gone for the kiss or even just stepped up to be a man.

I need some of Seddit's advice. My game has slipped and fallen in the realm of closing; and as a result my closes have gone to zero.

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