I've found it is useful to have a certain meditation you do when you get rejected, flaked, etc, because the reptilian brain of course if left to its own devices will just descend into self pity, anger, etc etc. That is why stopping porn was one of those most powerful things i did, it makes you just associate girls with a strong dopamine hit in your brain instead of people just like you. And when you get rejected the negative dopamine feedback just seems stronger.

Therefore I opt for trying to reach a spiritual point in game where first of all you feel no black/white attachment or dependency on the outcome, and secondly, you are able to not beat yourself up if things go south and internalize it so much.

Any thoughts?