Relationship game [?]

elmcityalpha · 2011-07-04T22:37:21+00:00

Here is a great article with some quality info on relationship game (and what happens when you don't Game your relationship)

Some key points I read in one of the other posts on that blog that are very applicable for relationship game:

2/3 rule: for every 3 texts she sends you, send 2 back. For every 3 signs of affection she gives you, give two back. Show restraint and make her crave your attention. Being too available makes women lose interest.
no PDA in public (or at least very sparingly) Don't constantly be grabbing her hand or putting your arm around her in public. Again, make her crave your attention and your touch and don't smother her by constantly having your hands all over her in public everytime you're out. If there is PDA, have tact and use it sparingly to build anticipation for when you end up in private. Make her want it.
don't apologize unless it's absolutely necessary. Calmly hold your ground and don't be reactionary every time she is upset over something ridiculous. Apologizing is a sign of submission. Only apologize when you REALLY need to.

There's more good stuff on that site. I recently met a girl that I quickly became very interested in and I made the mistake of wearing my heart on my sleeve once we started having incredible sex. I noticed that though she was all over me at first, she started to back off a tiny bit. It was when I recognized this that I started looking into relationship game. By showing some restraint with a lack of PDA, less texting, and seeming less available, now she can't keep her hands off me. Last night she kept me up until 5am doing things that would horrify her mother.

Relationship game works.

TL;DR show some restraint, keep her guessing, and make her want it. Women want to seek the validation of their men and if you make it too easy, she will lose interest & respect for you

MaysonNSS · 2011-06-17T15:59:14+00:00

Hey, First understand that you should STOP viewing relationships as a game. In a relationship real feelings are on the line and the more you try to "game" a relationship the more you drive her away.

There are something things you NEED to know about a relationship though.

1) SHE MUST INVEST MORE THAN YOU. If you invest more into the relationship she will lose attraction for you. Allow the woman to be a woman and pursue you.

2) Define your boundaries. From the beginning define your boundaries and don't break them. What will you tolerate and what won't you tolerate? You set the pace for how the relationship does and if you set it to fast you will crash.

3) Be fun. You still need to banter with her and have fun!!! Stop taking things so serious. Be that person she liked.

There is a lot more to this but this will get you started.

PosterKitten · 2011-06-17T10:45:43+00:00

Set your own personal boundaries and express it clearly. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, don't. If it doesn't, do. Even in a relationship it's about pursuing and being comfortable with your own existence. Why over complicate unnecessarily?

Also, this might be better in /r/relationships. (granted, I think they give shitty advice.)

Edit: My god the advice is crappy over there.. very assuaging.

l3fth4nd · 2011-06-17T20:14:01+00:00

If you're having to game in a relationship something is wrong.

Title	Relationship game [?]
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Date	June 17, 2011 10:40 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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