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Not gonna lie, downplaying cancer is kinda a hard thing man. Most people know someone whose life has been very much effected by cancer so its going to obviously come up a lot. Are you sure that is why girls are sleeping with you? btw friend of mine is going through stomach cancer as well, keep your head up man take care of yourself first.
/r/seduction02/12/12 04:11 PM
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Yah man! That is awesome, his eye contact and tone are so spot on its unreal.
/r/seduction03/11/12 12:08 AM
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Are you smiling?
/r/seduction02/11/12 08:10 AM
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I actually didn't however I JUST saw that Ted talk about a week ago and it is SOOOOOOOOO money. It's crazy cause we legit taught the same principals. DO IT.. I promise you that stuff is life changing.
/r/seduction02/11/12 08:05 AM
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Thanks for the kind words. I have nothing to sell though :(
/r/seduction02/11/12 06:29 AM
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Keep a journal and every night write in it for 15 minutes about anything you want. Over time you are going to be able to read back through and notice patterns in your life that you might find healthy or not. A journal is the best way to see what is going on inside of you much like the reflection in a mirror.
/r/seduction02/11/12 01:29 AM
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I am excited for this. Mark is one of the people that I consider a huge inspiration and friend. He is AWESOME so check this out.
/r/seduction01/11/12 11:53 PM
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Your body type matters but not as much as most people think. If you are 500lbs chances are you are not getting the girl who is a 10
/r/seduction01/11/12 11:43 PM
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Wow.. Good one. I guess I would saw inventory your life to get you more than 30 minutes. But.... If that is all you can find, JOURNAL.
/r/seduction01/11/12 11:42 PM
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I know I saw it too. I am a terrible human.
/r/seduction01/11/12 11:41 PM
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You know Chuck Bass!!!?!?? Dude right!
/r/seduction01/11/12 11:41 PM
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picking apart words and meanings.
/r/seduction01/11/12 11:40 PM
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For the most part no. When I mention looks I am talking about something you CAN control. We can get into semantics here but I don't think there is a need to
/r/seduction01/11/12 08:11 PM
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No you cannot. You will find that very quickly you will understand the principals behind the training wheels and things will change for you.
/r/seduction01/11/12 08:07 PM
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Thanks
/r/seduction01/11/12 08:06 PM
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Sorry you didn't find value in it, good luck in your journey man.
/r/seduction01/11/12 08:06 PM
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Thank you for your kind words but I encourage you NOT to unsub from this. There are people in here who are very helpful and amazing all around and you can learn tons from them. There are also the others but for the most part the good will far out weight the bad.
/r/seduction01/11/12 08:04 PM
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That's awesome man.
/r/seduction01/11/12 06:30 PM
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In the beginning yes, after awhile no.
/r/seduction01/11/12 06:13 PM
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Success breeds success. Start small. Also figure out why you are fearing it? A lot of times it has to do with a perceived inadequacy in ones self. It would help you quite a bit to take some time and figure out why you are self sabotaging. I also HIGHLY recommend the 4 agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:50 PM
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I thought this for a long time, then time and time again I was proved wrong when I started dating very attractive girls. These things matter.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:29 PM
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Without meeting and speaking with you I couldn't fully answer this but I can say that there is something there.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:28 PM
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This is something that I don't like about the PU industry. They teach you how to get the girl but not keep her. Keeping a girl has many factors to it SOME of which are universal like being fun and adventurous but know that adventure takes many forms as a relationship progresses. First off I would ask you WHY do you think you keep falling into that pattern?
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:28 PM
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Good catch.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:25 PM
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I don't think money really matters in most of these things. Buying clothes doesn't mean breaking the bank.
/r/seduction01/11/12 03:17 PM
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Bingo! You get it! This will take you far man.
/r/seduction01/11/12 03:14 PM
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I am willing to bet that there is something else going on as to why women are not talking to you other than just your eyes. A lot of times people get self conscious when they don't get a result and they search for reasons as to why. Do you think this is possible?
/r/seduction01/11/12 03:12 PM
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and because it works, you start believing in yourself and you become more confident Are you believing in "yourself" or a line? The premise of this post and the crux of my discussion here is that this logic makes you believe in a line and thus overtime you become outcome dependent rather than building a set of social skills based off of your own personality. They say that you're a conglomeration of the 5 people you hang out with the most. This is 100000000% true btw
/r/seduction01/11/12 03:01 PM
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If you are up for this challenge, I would ask that you PM me and I will help you for 100% FREE.. Legit.
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:54 PM
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The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (This was required reading for EVERY student we taught). No More Mr Nice Guy. By Dr. Robert Glover The Mastery of Love by Done Miguel Ruiz (Again, required reading) Happy for No Reason by Marci Shimoff These 4 will get you on the right path. :)
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:53 PM
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Some of it does. When it comes to when the rules change a bit however there are universal truths. Look & Dress your best. People (not just men) value people who take care of themselves. If you would like more I can elaborate :)
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:51 PM
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I would say 2 things. 1) If it really is messing with you have you been seeking medical advice? 2) I don't think that this is something women would find as a deal breaker. It would help you quite a bit to accept things that you cannot change as well. Let me say it this way, as you go through life there is ALWAYS going to be something you want to change about your physical appearance. Learn to embrace where you are right now and what you are working with and be happy with yourself. Strive to be t…
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:49 PM
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This is to simple people are going to be confused :P In all seriousness, you are correct sir.
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:44 PM
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Yup, what she said. Funny, women get what I am saying.. Weird.
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:39 PM
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If people aren't annoyed, you aren't doing it right :)
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:36 PM
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Best advice I can give is be yourself. It has been said time and time again by coaches and people outside of PU as well that you need to be your BEST self. This is VERY true when it comes to life. Fashion comes in many forms, not just a suit and tie. The reason it is important is it shows a level of respect that you have for yourself. That "self" is always communicating to others around you.
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:27 PM
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Why do you think being attractive has to do with money?
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:25 PM
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I can assure you I have never once felt guilty because we worked harder than anyone I have EVER seen to give our students more value than imaginable. To put it in perspective, we have given students WEEKS more of free time because we felt they needed it. We went so far and beyond what I have seen and experienced other companies do that I have no remorse or ill feelings. This doesn't mean other companies are giving value, it just means that I know what we did for our students from attending their…
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:25 PM
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There is a lot to be said when it comes to continuing to work on the fundamentals and I agree with this.
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:21 PM
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Well said.
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:20 PM
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What do you believe are your limiting physical attributes? Weight, height?
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:19 PM
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Thanks, glad you found value in it.
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:19 PM
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If you know it, why are you still here? :)
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:17 PM
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Elaborate.
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:16 PM
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This is true. Looks only take you so far. Thanks for chiming in.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:48 AM
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Harsh reality. You WILL be judged on your appearance, it doesn't make people shallow it makes people people. Don't like it, look in the mirror cause guys are the biggest perpetrators of this. Truth is you can't fuck a personality. That being said, there are other things in life that matter as well.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:47 AM
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and it turns out I fear success Props for realizing that. I have battled this a lot as well.. I disagree with this line in particular You went on to say its good to go out sometimes and not give a flying fuck what you look like. The reason I do is because I am worth it. I like looking good and I do it for ME... Not for anyone else.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:46 AM
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This whole idea of seduction which I'm guessing has been around since rape was outlawed, LOL.. wait it's outlawed? WTF was I teaching???
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:10 AM
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Yes that is precisely what I was going for... Figures a girl gets it :P In all seriousness you do have some advantages in the dating world BUT.. You have a slew of disadvantages as well. Before I began my seminars I would tell guys that girls have it rough... They would laugh and I would tell them that I am serious. Girls are primarily judged on ONE thing when it comes to attraction, looks. Guys are judged on many things. Its like having a test that has one answer on it and if you get it wrong y…
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:07 AM
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You first, I'm right behind ya.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:02 AM
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Yah I will admit my first reaction was that you were being a jerk but I have learned that there are not to many people on this sub that are malicious, so I stopped myself and wanted to discuss this with you because I really do feel you have some good points here and I get where you are coming from. I think we would agree on most of our point if we sat down and talked about it all but one thing has become very clear to me in this industry. The people who stick around for many many years tend to b…
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:55 AM
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Oh man!!! This is AWESOME!! See, you get it! Success BREEDS success, remember that. When you do things outside of game you notice some positive changes as well. I love toastmasters and I meditate every day(ok, try to). Seriously, great job!
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:36 AM
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Why thank you, there has been some epic posts on this sub before so I consider that a huge compliment.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:35 AM
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I am going to give you 7 tips along with a couple books that will help you out quite a bit. This thread isn't about me and my journey so I will keep it out of here for now but if you have further questions ask away! Change your look, change your life! People often underestimate the power of the way you look. The clothes that you were tell a story about the content of your character. Far too often we see something that we like and say to ourselves that there is no way that I would look good in th…
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:34 AM
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I agree with some of the things you said here. Women are creates of emotion, this is 100% true and no one if finding this groundbreaking. I could sit here and type a 12 page response to this but I think we are debating one major point. That point would be the difference between knowledge and wisdom. You KNOW what you should do to get better but often times guys will want someone to walk them through it because of fear. Coaches are AMAZING for helping guys push through their sticking points much …
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:25 AM
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thanks, on it.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:20 AM
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Not true, the good ones will see this as a compliment.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:19 AM
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Thank you for taking the time and reading it! I am actually traveling a lot and in a relationship.. I know, I know.. :) I am really happy with her though she is incredible.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:16 AM
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I may or may not have done this.. Spoiler: I didn't :(
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:16 AM
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Thank you very much. Honestly, this post took me a long time because I knew it was going to cause some shit on the boards but I wanted to get it off my chest. Now I need to figure out if I should stick around for more posts or be on my merry way :P
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:15 AM
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IMO, PU stuff tends to make you focus on yourself way too much if you don't understand that most people are as focused on themselves as you are. Don't know who you are but you just nailed it man.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:14 AM
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This is 100% truth.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:13 AM
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Glad you found value in it man, thanks for taking the time and reading it.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:13 AM
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HAHA. I love seddit.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:12 AM
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I lol'd at this.. Thank you sir.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:12 AM
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2 Parts. 1) Attraction at its core is self confidence. This means that women overwhelmingly find confidence to be the #1 most attractive thing about a guy. (Pretty sure no one will argue this). When you boil down all this "game" stuff you are basically doing routines and tactics to display confidence. Think about it for a minute... Approaching.. Takes guts to walk up to a girl in a bar. Banter... Showing a funny side aka not taking things to serious so you must be self assure. Everything in game…
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:11 AM
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I would LOVE to man. Are you looking for just how to build confidence?
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:06 AM
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Not at all. Physical attraction is something that matters but it isn't deal breaking. You want to do the very best with what you have and allow your awesome personality to do the most talking.
/r/seduction01/11/12 04:05 AM
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I love you total homo :P j/k Seriously, glad you found value in it.
/r/seduction01/11/12 01:47 AM
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I am not sure we are actually in disagreement here man haha.
/r/seduction01/11/12 01:19 AM
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While I agree with some of the things you said here, understand that techniques are training wheels. When you learn to ride a bike you need these things but they are simply to guide you. Soon you ditch the wheels and you are riding on your own. I am suggesting that these training wheels aren't really that important if you understand the reasons WHY you are not successful already.
/r/seduction01/11/12 12:43 AM
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Excited to read this man. I know, I know I have been MIA. PM me let's catch up
/r/seduction17/10/12 11:00 PM
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This is SO well done. Mark is the man.
/r/seduction17/04/12 05:16 PM
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Truth!!!! This is a great PSA and I cannot stress enough how important this is.
/r/seduction21/12/11 03:20 AM
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IOI's are bench marker's that allow you to cognitively know she is attracted to you. Once you do this for a while you just know without looking for IOIs.
/r/seduction01/09/11 03:22 PM
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IOI's are bench marker's that allow you to cognitively know she is attracted to you. Once you do this for a while you just know without looking for IOIs.
/r/seduction01/09/11 03:21 PM
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I agree that it doesn't matter as much as people think BUT.... Independence > pussy on so many levels
/r/seduction01/09/11 04:35 AM
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See!!!! Told you man this shit works :) Good for you!!
/r/seduction31/08/11 05:39 PM
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me :) I also am a professional coach. I am still over 200 and I do very well.
/r/seduction31/08/11 02:31 AM
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LOVE THIS!!! Seriously, email me any time I am more than willing to help you
/r/seduction30/08/11 09:59 PM
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We are the same age... Reach out for help and help will be available :)
/r/seduction30/08/11 06:23 PM
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TOTALLY wrong idea of how to approach women. People mistake confidence for arrogance all the time! Being fashionable doesn't have anything to do with Jersey Shore haha. It means taking care of yourself. I am sorry you have the total wrong opinion of the manner of advice but believe me I am more against that BS than anyone I know haha. I don't think my post had ANYTHING to do with dressing in Ed Hardy clothes and fist pumping.
/r/seduction30/08/11 05:20 PM
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Good for you man!!! No matter what happens just know that you at least did it!
/r/seduction30/08/11 05:09 PM
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so basically you lie to get girls.. gg
/r/seduction03/07/11 06:11 AM
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Fellow Bostonian!!! Represent!!
/r/seduction17/06/11 04:00 PM
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Hey, First understand that you should STOP viewing relationships as a game. In a relationship real feelings are on the line and the more you try to "game" a relationship the more you drive her away. There are something things you NEED to know about a relationship though. 1) SHE MUST INVEST MORE THAN YOU. If you invest more into the relationship she will lose attraction for you. Allow the woman to be a woman and pursue you. 2) Define your boundaries. From the beginning define your boundaries and …
/r/seduction17/06/11 03:59 PM
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Let me say something here. Rob is THE real deal when it comes to coaching. He CARES about each student he works with and if more coaches were like him this community would be way better off. The placeholder signs mean nothing. I have nothing but love and respect for Rob.
/r/seduction16/06/11 03:17 AM
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Small Social Connections? Is that because you live in a small town?
/r/seduction15/06/11 05:02 PM
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Awesome!!! That is great. :)
/r/seduction15/06/11 05:02 PM
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Not as your profile but you can have them. Just don't look try hard :)
/r/seduction14/06/11 10:44 PM
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It is smaller than a man's The government scientist Dr. Yamuka has proved it is size of squirrel.
/r/seduction12/06/11 01:59 PM
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I see these comics and I guess I just don't get them at all.
/r/seduction11/06/11 09:41 PM
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First off, Whatever works for someone is what they should do. The last thing someone getting results needs is more "game." I wrote this for the people who are struggling with online dating and wanted a very basic idea of what has worked for me. Secondly, Statistics are for losers, what matters is the score. Sure I think there is some value in that OKC article but it goes against the grain of what I have seen work in real life and online. Telling someone to not smile in real life is BAD when it c…
/r/seduction09/06/11 12:55 PM
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Because I have seen tons of guys smile in there profile picture and do great. I did when I had my account and I did awesome.
/r/seduction08/06/11 08:48 PM
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I have met up with around 20 girls or so when I was spending any amount of time on dating sites. I don't do this anymore.
/r/seduction08/06/11 08:46 PM
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I have read this and I really just don't agree with it.
/r/seduction08/06/11 01:39 PM
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If you style works for you then by all means do it! Being serious then nonserious has crushed it for me in online dating.
/r/seduction08/06/11 01:05 PM
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I wouldn't say 99% but maybe like 85%
/r/seduction08/06/11 01:02 PM
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http://theuglypodcast.blogspot.com/ once there click the title.
/r/seduction07/06/11 12:46 PM
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He is awesome. He has an AMA coming up in Seddit. Check him out at www.practicalpickup.com Good friend of mine and REALLY an amazing coach.
/r/seduction06/06/11 11:57 PM
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So this is YOUR website?
/r/seduction06/06/11 05:54 PM
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Thanks man. That is one of the reasons Mark and I get a long so well. Honesty is the ONLY way to go. Face it, privacy is over with the age of the internet. I would rather be HATED for who I am than loved for who I am not.
/r/seduction06/06/11 05:52 PM
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I think everyone has value but sometimes you don't want to dig that deep to find the 1 small diamond. If a person is nothing but an asshole I tend to move on rather quickly.
/r/seduction02/06/11 09:04 PM
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I posted the SAME thing... She wanted you based on your appearance, this isn't game it's fools mate. That being said. I like you man. I think you really want to contribute here but your best stuff is yet to be written.
/r/seduction02/06/11 03:42 PM
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1) A friend of mine was out in PA once. He was at a hole in the wall bar with little to no decent looking girls there. In a dark corner sat a very overweight girl. He obviously wasn't attracted to her but he knew that everyone has value. He approached her and introduced himself. Turns out her BF was on the dance floor and she was to self conscious to dance. He gave her some value and lead her to the floor. He gave her to the BF and they had an amazing night. upon leaving the couple walked up to …
/r/seduction02/06/11 03:31 PM
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Anytime you lower a persons overall worth via negs, insults, or action you are a taker. Often times the self professed "nice guys" are takers because they have the illusion of being nice all the while wanting to TAKE something from the girl. Sex alone is an act of taking however if both parties are better for being together and having sex then the sex builds rather than takes. This is the frame that I build around EVERY sexual encounter. Often times the community treats women like "targets" rath…
/r/seduction02/06/11 03:22 PM
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Dude this girl wanted you from the start... No game needed.. Still, good post :P
/r/seduction01/06/11 10:41 PM
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Yah, try starting small man. Ask people what the time is. Do that 10 times and you will be comfortable with that part of it. Then press on further :)
/r/seduction01/06/11 07:10 PM
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It's not addicting (at least I am not) and I do it once a month IF that...
/r/seduction01/06/11 07:09 PM
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Just not addicted to it at all
/r/seduction01/06/11 07:09 PM
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Are you drinking when you go out at night? AA in day game is pretty common. Start small, talk to people and ask them a random question like where is XX store. Get used to talking to people in the day by starting off small.
/r/seduction01/06/11 06:55 PM
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Yah man! Pay attention to her eyes. A woman's eyes tell a lot about her feelings... I mean A LOT!
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:57 PM
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Here is the formula for SNLs (btw Rob Judge is coming on for a Q&A soon ask him this as well) Mayson's SNL Formula: Sexual Attraction ---->Comfort-----> Sexual Attraction-----> Comfort haha that's it. Seriously, you should be weaving sexual attraction and comfort together. Escalate your touching while making her FEEL sexy.
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:56 PM
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Wow man! Thank YOU!!! Seriously Keep it up! You CAN do this. EMAIL ME... Really, that goes for anyone of you. I love to offer encouragement and support when I can. We are all a part of this culture we call humanity and when we support each other's dreams we fulfill our destiny.
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:53 PM
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AMEN!!! <3 it!
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:51 PM
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Yah, it is more of a challenge when you live in a small town. I suggest that you don't limit yourself to one small place if you can help it. Since you are there, here is what I can tell you: Understand that you don't get a player vibe if you do this right. Pick up should be able being a social fun guy that people are attracted to, NOT a man whore who gets a reputation for banging girls. Getting the vibe of a player has the subcontext that you take advantage of women. Being a seducer means you un…
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:51 PM
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I don't smoke either. I also don't do any drugs. Hookah is WAY different than cigarettes. Check it out.
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:47 PM
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Are you asking me out on a date!! SCORE :) hahaha I actually have a couple friends who live in Austin that I haven't seen in quite sometime so yup. Great chance I will be out there in the next 4-6 months.
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:46 PM
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I still mess with girls but I don't lower there value at all. I banter and tease a lot but they know I am doing it to mess with them and it is validating for them because THAT is what flirting is :)
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:45 PM
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Right but on the other hand the industry is slanting toward a more mainstream dating culture which I think is a great thing.
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:44 PM
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Sure, First off before I get to sex I talk about how some people are givers in life and others are takers. I talk about how when we are raised as children we hear about people who "took" a woman's virginity and how women are typically in the role of "giving" things to guys. I explain to her that the most pleasure comes from two people who are givers. I reinforce the frame throughout the time I spend with her allowing her to be a giver to me and I show I am a giver as well. When two people are al…
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:43 PM
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Offering you opinion is all that you can do. People are going to listen to you or not but either way its not to be taken personally. All you can do is offer advice :)
/r/seduction01/06/11 12:39 PM
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that's a statement not a question.. :P Sure man
/r/seduction01/06/11 04:15 AM
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Be serious in a nightclub and watch what happens. Seriousness is VERY sexy in it's right place.
/r/seduction01/06/11 04:13 AM
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Yes, I have had long term successful relationships with some AMAZING women from cold approaches in various locations. My relationships started as our feelings for each other escalated. I don't run from relationships at all, I embrace them IF it is what we both want.
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:59 AM
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I make a point to touch everyone all the time! First and foremost make that agreement with yourself that you are going to touch every person you have an interaction with.. Here is how I typically escalate. 1) I start with a bit of push and pull. This means as I am talking to her I will bring her in a bit and push her off while laughing at a moment of banter. Physical push and pull is very useful in escalation! 2) I typically have a flirty grin and will place my hand on her lower back. NOT grabbi…
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:54 AM
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I write A LOT about this stuff on my site http://www.nsscoaching.com as well as the sub reddit http://www.reddit.com/r/innergame/ (which I will be posting a lot more stuff on) Start with this though... Get a piece of paper or a doc.. Write down 3 things that are unique to you that you LIKE about yourself. Here is the catch 1) They cannot have ANYTHING to do with looks 2) They cannot be ANYTHING that someone can take away from you What you will have left is something awesome about yourself that n…
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:46 AM
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Calibration is the understanding of social norms. I am sure other people have definitions as well but ultimately its like this.... If you are young and touch a stove you burn your hand. Next time you go to touch the stove you burn it again. Over time you learn the stove is hot and will hurt you if you touch it. I learned that women detest neediness by being a needy guy. When I first started getting into relationships I went from 0 to 90 in the first week. I basically invested more than she did a…
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:42 AM
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Yah it really fucked me up but through the pain came a powerful lesson and I have used to to help the lives of hundreds of people.
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:39 AM
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Yah this is pretty spot on frogma!! I can be dark too but believe me you would rather be hated for who you are than loved for who you're not.
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:39 AM
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They don't smile!!! I cannot tell you enough that people just don't smile! Guys try to act tough or cool and they get it in their head that smiling isn't cool.. SMILE! All the time.. EVERYWHERE!
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:37 AM
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What is LMR? haha Seriously though.. Last Minute Resistence doesn't happen often for me. The reason is I make women feel relaxed and comfortable not like I am about to take something from them. LMR tends to happen when a woman doesn't feel comfortable enough and she starts questioning if she should take it to the next level. If you set the frame that you are both GIVING rather than you TAKING from her LMR will barely exist... LEGIT..
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:35 AM
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1) Don Miguel Ruiz (author of the 4 agreements and the mastery of love) had a life changing impact on my view of others and my world. Other people of note, Mark Manson (who's seddit interview is coming up) has been an amazing friend and coach of mine. I would have to give props to Dr Phil.. ( I am gonna get shit from this) but his TEAM on the show are some of the best minds in behavioral psych that I know of... I think Rob Judge has a great model, I am totally digging his book the 4 elements of …
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:33 AM
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I am so fucking passionate about helping people change their lives!! I cannot imagine doing anything else. I care about EVERY student I work with and I want them to succeed more than they do. This job will never make me rich but I will have a prosperous life if I can do this till the end. To be a good coach you need to not be in it for the money... Seriously... This job is tons of hours and countless sacrifices to your social life. People think I get paid to teach guys to get laid. That is the f…
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:23 AM
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Sure. 1) Get a make over... I cannot stress enough how important it is to change your life from the inside but ALSO the outside. When you look good you tend to feel good. 2) Spend time meditating. Whether it is prayer, meditation, relaxation or deep breathing, learn to embrace the moments of silence. Our minds are constantly working and formulating our next move in life. When we slow it down we embrace life for what it is we have the ability to hear our lives talking to us. Sure this sounds new …
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:19 AM
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I see bad advice quite a bit. I am not the be all to end all on seddit and it's not my place to tell someone they are wrong. I basically talk about things that have worked in my life and the lives of my students. If someone listens and gets value than good! Just because I have an opinion doesn't mean I have to tell someone they are wrong. Often times in my life I have learned that experience is the greatest teacher not the outcome.
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:14 AM
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The industry is a marketing machine.. It needs "new" ideas to continue or it will collapse. I don't see myself as a "guru" or some big shot. I am just a person who builds relationships rather than clients. I care so much about each person I work with that often times I find myself working for less than a typically job would pay me. I don't care though because it's my passion. The industry will come out with new "innovative" ideas that are basically old concepts just a new name. If nothing "new" …
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:12 AM
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I HATE the phrase fake it till you make it.. I hate it because it isn't realistic. If you didn't know how to drive a car and I told you fake it till you make it you would die. Women aren't stupid!!! Stop... Read that again.. WOMEN AREN'T STUPID. We like to pretend they are and faking our way through confidence is what people who don't know how to build confidence say to others. Confidence comes from accepting glorious wonderful YOU. Finding attributes about you that no one can take away and buil…
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:08 AM
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Thanks Clifton! I would agree with you heheh 1) I feel like people do get caught up with hero worship and overall ego in the community. I tell people all the time it is the SICK who need a doctor but once you are cured do you keep going back to the doctor asking for more medication? Nope! There are SO many amazing lessons to learn in places like Seddit so learn everything you can, do what WORKS not what some "guru" tells you works and then pass it on! 2)Confused and emotional :)
/r/seduction01/06/11 03:02 AM
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The post you are referring to is.. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fz9oj/the_4_foundations_to_getting_success_with_women/ Whatever happens around you don’t take it personal. If someone tell you that you are ugly it is not about you. You take it personally because you agree what it says and when you do that you become trapped by THEIR opinion. Taking things personally is the maximum expression of selfishness because we think everything is about me. Nothing other people do is because of…
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:59 AM
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Lots to cover here!! 1) Bouncing: It depends on a date vs a SNL. On a date I typically have a couple locations that I bring her to that are in close proximity to my house. Things like the park, ice cream, various fun activities and things like that. Bouncing is where dominance comes into play BIG TIME! I don't suggest we do things, I build them up and tell her to accompany me. "I am taking you to the coolest place ever but before I do what is your favorite flavor?" Keep the mystery and suspense …
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:55 AM
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Thank so much for the kind words. :) First off understand that girls rate themselves as well. You may see her as a 9 but she might see herself as a 6. I did a post on this concept I call "True Value" vs. "Perceived Value". Here is a link: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hlqh8/why_assumptions_can_cost_you_the_girl/ Further more... It is so important to understand that you need to relax a bit. When I am teaching guys I watch them get so worked up and anxious over talking to a girl like …
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:46 AM
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I am a total goof ball. My personality is the style that I follow. When I started learning about seduction I tried to be something that I wasn't. I tried to follow the styles of other teachers and guru's and it ended with a massive incongruency on my part. I am a funny guy to begin with so I decided that I will play to my strengths. The best description of my "style" I can give you is from a girl I was in a relationship with. She told me that I was multi-dimensional. I am funny at times and seri…
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:41 AM
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I spent a lot of time out at nightclubs and this one night I opened a girl who had short hair (which I HATE). I was still new to this whole thing and she was really hot so I thought I needed to neg her. I walked up with a big grin and said normally I don't talk to girls with short hair but I will make an exception. I thought I was so smooth with this clever neg. She looked at me with tears pouring down her face and told me she had cancer and this was her first night out..... OUCH.... My jaw hit …
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:37 AM
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Failure is not in getting "rejected" from the girl, failure is allowing yourself to feel bad about it.
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:32 AM
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LOVE YOUR QUESTION!!! I would tell him that I love him. I would tell him that you are worthy and deserving of love.
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:29 AM
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My background is actually in psych and religion and through the hypocrisies of both I wanted to learn more. I feel like my sex drive is part of my life but not responsible for my success. I define success different than other people would and it is because of these differences that I believe my success is based on who I am. I think that the key word in your statement is "drive"... Boiling down what makes someone successful it all comes down to DRIVE... If you are driven to succeed you will. I sa…
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:27 AM
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Frame control is a great tool for shit tests but it sounds to me like you are not allowing yourself to feel any emotion. Women are creates of emotion NOT logic. She is looking for emotional feelings from you and if you don't allow any emotion to come about you are going to come off as creepy at some point. Outcome indifference is right on! You shouldn't put your value into anyone else's hands because they WILL break it but to be really good with the ladies you have to know how to change her emot…
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:24 AM
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Big question!! My progress was based on my passion to really get a grip on my dating life. I wanted like hell to be the guy who chose to be with women and not the guy who ended up being alone. The first month of the process I went out non stop. I read forums and then tried everything that people suggested to me. I had a lot of awkward interactions that typically ended with the girl walking away confused. The quality of women that I began to get "good" with were girls who were decently attractive…
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:19 AM
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Women were a symptom of a a greater problem in my life. I always tell people that we find the community because something isn't working in our lives. For me it was my confidence. Growing up with friends who were much better looking than me and subsequently getting all the attention from the ladies took a toll on my self worth. I thought that happiness was something a women would give me with her acceptance of me. After years of rejection I learned a powerful lesson and one I feel obliged to pass…
/r/seduction01/06/11 02:11 AM
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It took me about 4 months of going out 7 days a week doing about 10 approaches a day before I even gave advice to my friends.. From there I found the local lair and spent another 4 months going out about 3 times a week. I did TONS of free coaching and helped new people. 8 months in I was asked to be an approach coach. That is a lot different from an instructor. I basically showed guys how to approach and worked on the VERY basics. I started my company a year after that. Much of this post is summ…
/r/seduction30/05/11 08:07 PM
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Thanks so much! I am REALLY glad that you are finding value in it! We just recorded our 3rd episode of the podcast with Mark Manson of Practical Pick up :)
/r/seduction30/05/11 05:07 PM
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Yah like I said, it's not good or bad in my opinion, its what YOU do with it.
/r/seduction30/05/11 05:06 PM
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I don't really think the game is good or bad. It's a story... a story that was told and printed and an industry was build off of. Marketing genius but how much is true, that is up to the believer... much like religion :)
/r/seduction30/05/11 04:51 PM
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Top tips for getting energy.. 1) Eat GOOD food. Since time is a scarcity don't binge on junk food. Eat FRESH local fruits and veges. Eat protein that is natural without growth hormones. This alone will DRASTICALLY change your energy. 2) Keep something that motivates you. Maybe its a pic of a hot girl, a video that motivates you or something. Watch it, think about how bad you want it! 3) View going out as a release not a chore. Often times people think, "I have to go practice now" and it kills mo…
/r/seduction29/05/11 04:34 PM
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All jokes aside I would NEVER wish heartbreak on anyone for the opportunity of a client. Getting your heartbroken is one of the most terrible experiences EVER....
/r/seduction29/05/11 02:17 PM
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This is going to be fun!!!
/r/seduction29/05/11 04:09 AM
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In a lot of ways it is. I have always been fascinated with analyzing things and breaking them down. Even though this is pretty over analyzed there is a lot of merit it in.
/r/seduction28/05/11 03:49 PM
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yes
/r/seduction27/05/11 09:18 PM
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Yes there are. Here are some: Being overly aggressive or boisterous No holding eye contact Stammering over words frequent nervous laughter Fidgety movement Quick rapport building Supplication
/r/seduction27/05/11 08:37 PM
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I am cursed with caring :P
/r/seduction27/05/11 07:31 PM
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No but now I do!! haha NSS is the name of my company New Social Systems but ya.. I like it!! haha
/r/seduction26/05/11 06:23 PM
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Something needed to be said.. hahaha :)
/r/seduction26/05/11 01:06 PM
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What are you strengths?
/r/seduction26/05/11 03:39 AM
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Oh cool. Well Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction26/05/11 02:24 AM
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Well stick around here. I think you can help a lot of the guys here.
/r/seduction25/05/11 11:57 PM
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After reading this and thinking about it today, I have to say props... The phrasing is really good.
/r/seduction25/05/11 11:54 PM
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I don't do routines I make actual real conversation. Seriously.. routines are for the socially inept. They are training wheels. Trying talking about commonalities and build on them to create a date :)
/r/seduction25/05/11 11:53 PM
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Why do you care so much? Legit question
/r/seduction25/05/11 11:51 PM
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Well written rosid. You familiar with Race's text game product? A lot of similarities. Race and Kelley are the man btw so you're in good company :P
/r/seduction25/05/11 11:46 PM
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No.. He takes pride in his appearance. I suggest you become quick to listen and slow to respond.
/r/seduction25/05/11 11:44 PM
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I liked your post about being "good" and not being able to commit, I commented on how well you were groomed. Now you release this.. well played sir. Great job. Do more
/r/seduction25/05/11 11:42 PM
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Well first off this isn't rocket science.. Your way above average in the looks department and your grooming is spot on.. Welcome to half the battle more then done right there... Secondly. I understand how you feel. When I got success I had a very tough time turning things off and I lost some unbelievable girls as a result. Far to often you define who you are by your "pick up" nature. It sounds to me like there is an issue with pride that is really not allowing you to turn this off. Ask yourself …
/r/seduction24/05/11 09:09 PM
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Love gives us a sense of happiness. Happiness never comes from outside of us. When you are in love you are happy because of the love coming out of you; she is happy because of the love coming out of her. But as soon as you make a woman responsible for your happiness, she will brake it because no one can be responsible for your happiness but you. No matter how much you love someone they will never be able to make you feel anything. Emotions come from inside of you but often by taking things perso…
/r/seduction24/05/11 09:04 PM
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What's funny is that when you are at that range you are going to find something else as to why you should wait.
/r/seduction20/05/11 07:15 PM
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Lets not jump the gun here.... I don't really think that dude pulls chicks...Seriously... For the people who say looks don't matter, go find a hideously deformed guy and see how well he does. Barring sever deformity you are fine :)
/r/seduction20/05/11 06:41 PM
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Yup I am.. and I have really had the privilege/they have had the privilege of being with some insanely hot women...
/r/seduction20/05/11 06:39 PM
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These #s are pretty spot on actually. Just understand that "looks" is more than physical appearance, it really comes down to hygiene.
/r/seduction20/05/11 06:38 PM
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Totally true.. I highly recommend working out. I do..
/r/seduction20/05/11 06:37 PM
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I do consider myself confident. I just don't tie my self worth into my physical appearance. I define my own attraction, I don't let the media do it for me.
/r/seduction20/05/11 06:37 PM
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First of all do you want to lose weight? Not for girls but do YOU want to? Second.. I am overweight. I am also a dating coach who has helped thousands of students, flown across the world and dated some of the most amazing girls I have ever met. Looks matter, but they matter less than you think. You can have unreal success being 220 but it starts with believing in you...
/r/seduction20/05/11 12:41 PM
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Only reason I know her is from the clubs.. Never hung out with her but met her a couple times, she was always cool.
/r/seduction19/05/11 11:00 PM
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No its Boston.. and I know her. I worked as a promoter in Boston for 5 years.. She is actually a great girl.
/r/seduction19/05/11 01:35 PM
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The total opposite of what you just said. It makes women have LESS control and sure women like to be desired but they like to chase more.
/r/seduction18/05/11 12:47 PM
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Not ignore (though I love the pic) just invest a little less. If she calls you 3 times a week pick up 2 times.. If she writes 4 paragraphs for an email you write 2. If she texts 5 times a day you answer 3-4... Seriously.. Invest just a little less. The minute you invest just a tiny bit more, attraction begins to fade.
/r/seduction18/05/11 12:23 PM
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I agree. Understand though attraction is something that is very easy to generate and typically happens within seconds of an interaction. Most of the time I don't "run" attraction because it's part of my personality.
/r/seduction18/05/11 12:21 PM
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I am wishing you a life of nothing but love and success!! I assure you though this applies to relationships and marriage.
/r/seduction18/05/11 12:20 PM
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Relationships... shoot! :P
/r/seduction18/05/11 02:07 AM
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Your maxims!!! I like it.. What are others? And isn't that that Rossiy guy?
/r/seduction18/05/11 01:58 AM
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Come here I will show you :P
/r/seduction18/05/11 01:58 AM
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AFC's still get girls.. just not as frequent as they would like
/r/seduction18/05/11 01:58 AM
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Wow, I am humbled and thankful. Glad you are finding it so valuable.
/r/seduction18/05/11 01:57 AM
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Honestly they can think what they want but this is the way life works..
/r/seduction17/05/11 11:23 PM
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I learned this from a lot of hard ass lessons
/r/seduction17/05/11 11:22 PM
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You are based on emotion not logic.. sorry but what you want changes.. wait and see.
/r/seduction17/05/11 11:21 PM
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Sure but the problem is that people tend to get in relationships or see a REALLY hot girl and they become more invested in her than in themselves... Think about it... How many of you believe you are 10s ?
/r/seduction17/05/11 11:15 PM
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If she is not invested then why waste your time? The way to get her more invested should be through attraction upon meeting her subsequently through seeing her. People invest in things they find value in :)
/r/seduction17/05/11 08:47 PM
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Totally true!! You CAN do this on your own but it just takes more time. Having a coach is a GREAT thing because it serves as accountability and allows you to have instant feedback. This post was for the people trying to make sense of what it really takes to pick up girls.. :)
/r/seduction17/05/11 07:17 PM
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Balance leads to complacency. You need to be RIGHT under her investment from a long term perspective or she will feel as though things are just ok...
/r/seduction17/05/11 07:09 PM
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Tofu you know I love you buddy but I hate that thread cause it says the cure is the blueprint haha... nothing but <3 though kid.
/r/seduction17/05/11 03:50 PM
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I know your pain all to well my friend.. I like you experienced this same result time and time again and each time I became a little more calloused toward women. The first thing is to understand that scarcity breeds obsession. When you do not have a healthy dating life and have no potential partners you tend to fixate yourself on that one person who shows you interest. You analyze them, ask for expert advice, talk about them with your friends and stalk their facebook in hopes to find out somethi…
/r/seduction17/05/11 03:48 PM
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This is SOOO SOOO true and if you learn it now it will save you TONS of pain.
/r/seduction12/05/11 06:09 AM
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was JUST thinking the same
/r/seduction11/05/11 07:54 PM
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We really think this would be an AWESOME idea guys.. Please help us out and it would mean lots of FREE coaching :)
/r/seduction11/05/11 01:11 PM
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Guys please note I am ripping MP3s and hosting them... I will repost this thread.
/r/seduction11/05/11 12:48 AM
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I also just realized I talk a lot :)
/r/seduction10/05/11 04:19 AM
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I had a GREAT time doing this.. You guys like this? Want more in the future?
/r/seduction10/05/11 04:07 AM
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I hear Orlando has a great lair.. It's TOP right?
/r/seduction09/05/11 07:10 PM
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That does suck a lot.. But.. Understand that a person will only let themselves be loved as much as they love themselves and no more. As you love/invest her more than she loves herself, she has to sabotage the relationship to reduce the in-congruence it creates for her.
/r/seduction07/05/11 02:47 PM
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Seems like there is a story behind the bitterness.. Care to share?
/r/seduction07/05/11 03:03 AM
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Yah get those submission in and read what other people wrote.. VOTE VOTE VOTE!
/r/seduction03/05/11 02:21 AM
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Just because she is attractive doesn't mean I want to have sex with her..
/r/seduction30/04/11 05:39 PM
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Yah I thought we could all use a laugh :)
/r/seduction29/04/11 01:13 AM
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Cancer is life and death, this is just frustrating
/r/seduction28/04/11 03:37 AM
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hhaha yah I agree, it was just a joke :P
/r/seduction25/04/11 09:20 PM
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Translation... give me attention
/r/seduction24/04/11 05:23 PM
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WOW!!
/r/seduction21/04/11 01:20 AM
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Sure these things work but the question is where do you find the motivation... What is the carrot at the end of the stick. This is why the pick up community (for all its flaws) is a GREAT motivator. Nothing is as motivating as a primal urge to reproduce.
/r/seduction20/04/11 10:31 PM
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Sure.. this is the ideal mentality and one that develops with TIME and EXPERIENCE... but you are missing a major point.. What does the 23 year old virgin who is depressed and hates his life do to magically become happy and confident like you suggested.
/r/seduction20/04/11 04:07 PM
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I am SOOOOOOOO Looking forward to this guys!! Working with the mods here has been a blast thus far and I think we will be able to give you guys a ton of value with contests like this..
/r/seduction20/04/11 12:12 AM
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You don't see a supplicator in real life? You never see the person who sucks up to others because they seem others as higher value. The guy who buys girls drinks within 2 seconds of meeting them.. Not trying to be an ass here because I really do think you have a point man but this behavior is more common then you think.
/r/seduction19/04/11 09:45 PM
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You are confusing a genuine person with a supplicator.
/r/seduction19/04/11 09:24 PM
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Man you took the words out of my mouth!
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:57 PM
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First off it would be... You have to concede that what you are doing isn't working. The basic fact is that you cannot change what you do not acknowledge. Second, Learn about women, learn why being a self professed nice guy hurts you. Read books like the Red Queen, Sperm Wars and My Secret Garden to get an understanding about women and their fantasies. Third, Learn how to attract women... There is this awesome community called "seddit" :P
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:55 PM
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Yes all of us were clumsy.. I don't understand how that defense the point that this typical kind of nice guy is anything but nice... I never said he has nothing to offer a girl, your words not mine and yes if he is just befriending a girl so that she hopefully likes him that is the classic definition of ulterior motive..
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:52 PM
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AFTER you build attraction... I say.. "You know what, you're actually pretty cool." Later of after a couple of dates and I know the vibe is there we will be texting back and forth at some point and when then I tell her, I think I kinda like you.. just a bit though :) I don't beat around the bush.
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:51 PM
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See a lot of times people go to extremes... They work so hard not to be a nice guy that they think all works associated with "nice" are for whimps. This isn't true. I want to be treated nicely, so do girls... But they want a challenge.
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:49 PM
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The first step is to start seeing conflict as a way to strengthen the connection rather than breaking it. Conflict is inevitable in life and in conflict it helps grow the bonds of friendships, relationships and self esteem. Practice asking for things that you want rather then avoiding them.
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:48 PM
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Awesome! You will get there, just keep an open mind and heart.
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:34 PM
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Your last sentence is perfect!!!!!! That is spot on and what the premise of the article is about.
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:32 PM
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What? haha did you read it? I am basically shedding light on nice guys as something other then what their label says.. "nice." How am I jealous of nice guys?
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:31 PM
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They often work hand and hand together. You can be nice and do good with girls but you cannot be a supplicator.
/r/seduction19/04/11 03:14 AM
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Those guys who ask the girl out and are nice don't build attraction. They don't understand women and therefore have nothing to offer them. That is life.. The nice guys I am speaking of are the guys who slip in under the radar want the girl and try to do everything they can to make her feel good all the while having ulterior motives
/r/seduction19/04/11 03:14 AM
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Yup!
/r/seduction19/04/11 02:21 AM
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Truth
/r/seduction19/04/11 02:21 AM
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The 4 agreements is the structure I used for EVERY student I work with. From there the Mastery of Love is the book that I base all my relationships on. It has change my life.
/r/seduction19/04/11 02:19 AM
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I agree not all self professed nice guys have these issues. This article was to shed light in a realistic view of what the truth behind many "nice guys" tends to be. Sure there are genuine people out there!
/r/seduction19/04/11 02:18 AM
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Not sure I used those vocabulary words but if you want to jump to conclusions be my guest.
/r/seduction19/04/11 02:17 AM
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No but every woman I talk to I don't want to sleep with. I do walk up to women and tell them, Hi I noticed you from over there and I wanted to talk to you. That is the truth.
/r/seduction19/04/11 02:16 AM
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When you are not upfront about your intention you are manipulating someone to get an outcome.. You can object all you want but it's not bull shit man. You befriending a girl to try to "get her" means you have an entirely different motive then to just be her friend.
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:46 AM
1

with what???
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:39 AM
1

Thanks very much. Means a lot!
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:28 AM
5

haha thanks man!! P.S I cannot wait to talk about that book with you dude! You skype?
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:27 AM
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Thanks, glad you found value in it!
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:27 AM
2

This is totally spot on! I do think avoiding conflict is a bad quality. See in life conflict is inevitable. Avoiding is a practice of LSE.
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:26 AM
3

well said.
/r/seduction19/04/11 12:24 AM
2

BTW if you haven't seen this, I cannot recommend it enough. Rob Judge is spot on and an AWESOME coach!!
/r/seduction18/04/11 08:09 PM
5

I'm not going for the kiss. I'm not asking for numbers. There is your problem, you know what it is..
/r/seduction17/04/11 05:18 PM
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I am going to try to keep this short but its a bit subject and one that might be work writing an article on. When a woman wants a kiss she will give off kissing IOI's. Look for something we call triangular gazing. This is when she will look at your eyes then mouth. If you catch her looking at your lips while conversation is happening or she is laughing its a good indicator she wants you to kiss her. My guess would be that you are no establishing any amount of touch. Girls are turned on like a vo…
/r/seduction17/04/11 04:02 PM
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Getting a kiss is pretty easy and that is the good news. The bad news is it will require you to do things that you are not comfortable with. First thing is learn what kissing IOI's are. Learn when she is ready to be kissed (which you will find happens REALLY quick) and then practice getting girls to that point over and over again. This process is called calibration and will help you immensely.
/r/seduction17/04/11 11:02 AM
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I recently wrote a starting guide here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/goo43/step_by_step_advice_for_getting_good_with_women/ You CAN do this but know that it requires effort and time on your part.
/r/seduction17/04/11 11:00 AM
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You got it, I am MORE than willing to help!
/r/seduction17/04/11 10:54 AM
1

Pretty good actually. A lot of the meditations are very similar but I dig it. I really like Paul Mckenna the best though.
/r/seduction17/04/11 10:52 AM
1

Just be careful, all advice is not created equal :)
/r/seduction17/04/11 10:52 AM
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If you feel this way then I highly recommend you do some work on your self image and style. What do you wear? I will offer you some help with fashion you are willing to post a pic so I can see the way you currently dress (doesn't have to have your face)
/r/seduction16/04/11 06:45 PM
3

Paul Mckenna's Supreme Self Confidence is a really good one. Check it out.
/r/seduction16/04/11 06:43 PM
2

My advice after working it for 5 years.. don't do it haha
/r/seduction15/04/11 05:55 PM
2

You got it man. I will write up and article on it next :)
/r/seduction14/04/11 12:24 AM
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Thanks! I am going to be doing ALOT with that subreddit...
/r/seduction13/04/11 07:46 PM
1

Sense of humor is correct. You don't need to be a stand up comedian but making a girl laugh is important. Self confidence is THE MOST ATTRACTIVE trait bar none... Being a leader is another Physical attractiveness is a lot less important then people think. Being well put together is more accurate. Smiling... People don't realize that your smile is VERY important Creating FUN!!!!!! Don't over look this because it is something you have to be able to generate. There are others too :)
/r/seduction13/04/11 07:45 PM
1

Spot on!
/r/seduction13/04/11 07:43 PM
1

Ok, let's start with what you do know. List some things that women find attractive in guys. We will go from there.
/r/seduction13/04/11 01:10 PM
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I HIGHLY suggest that you create them and post them in seddit for review. If enough people are interested I can do an article on how to create these.
/r/seduction13/04/11 01:08 PM
1

haha yah it has been for me too.
/r/seduction13/04/11 01:08 PM
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Thanks
/r/seduction13/04/11 01:07 PM
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not even close man. That is way off.
/r/seduction13/04/11 01:01 PM
1

Thanks for the catch... Do you know how value works when it comes to attraction? Like what women find attractive in a guy?
/r/seduction13/04/11 03:10 AM
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You're welcome!
/r/seduction13/04/11 03:09 AM
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None of it applies to you because your neediness is clouding your judgment man.
/r/seduction10/04/11 04:47 PM
1

This is truth, women tend to be enough to deal with on their own never mind the drama that comes with boyfriends.
/r/seduction10/04/11 04:46 PM
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I am going to give you straight forward advice here. To get that girl you need to create abundance in your life. Flat out,you are projecting a higher value on that ONE girl because your lack of success with women in the last 4 years is clouding your judgement. If we are starved for partners we tend to project a higher value on them then if we had an abundance of people in our lives we could choose from. This is why our neediness clouds our judgments and becomes a frame that alters our perception…
/r/seduction10/04/11 04:45 PM
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Their appearance is relevant and that is why I stated it! I totally agree that you should take care of yourself. We are in agreement here. I am simply stating that looks are not as important as one would think but that is NOT an excuse to let yourself go. Take care of you because YOU are worth it.
/r/seduction07/04/11 07:44 PM
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the simple fact is that a more attractive guy attracts more women. Attracts.. Yes.. Sleeps with ... NO... I know so many good looking guys that don't get laid but they get TONS of attraction. I restate what I said before. Looks get you in the game but they don't score the runs for you... nice - 2. (of a person) Pleasant in manner; good-natured; kind: "he's a really nice guy". Sounds like a fuckin' pussy to me!> Being good natured and kind sounds like a pussy to you?
/r/seduction07/04/11 07:22 PM
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That is because I AM awesome for girls :P
/r/seduction07/04/11 07:16 PM
1

Thanks for the constructive feedback!
/r/seduction07/04/11 07:16 PM
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Looking tough doesn't get you the girl... Smiling.. well that is way better then looking tough but don't take my word for it, go try it.
/r/seduction07/04/11 01:08 PM
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over thinking.. Stop taking yourself and people so seriously. I mess up, I just don't take things like talking to a stranger so seriously that I put my self worth on the line. Why do you care about their reaction?
/r/seduction07/04/11 01:07 PM
2

this is SOOO true!
/r/seduction07/04/11 01:05 PM
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Awesome man! So excited that you could find value in it for yourself! Keep it up!
/r/seduction07/04/11 04:28 AM
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Women test boundaries all the time. Don't blame them its part of human nature. Whether it is a relationship or maybe your just dating, women will say things like "does this make me look fat" things called "shit test" (better known as congruency tests) to test your reaction. They push boundaries because they need to feel a strong person push back. A guy who lets anyone walk all over them and supplicates to their every whim will not be respected in the long run. Respect comes with strength of char…
/r/seduction07/04/11 04:26 AM
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Np, I understand what you mean. It's hard start out not to take things personally but understand... really... understand that what people say and do is NOT about you.. Rejection can only happen if you reject yourself
/r/seduction07/04/11 04:22 AM
1

It amazes me how guys think looking tough will get them laid!
/r/seduction07/04/11 04:21 AM
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hah thanks man :)
/r/seduction07/04/11 04:21 AM
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haha, thanks man. I am glad you found some value in it!
/r/seduction07/04/11 04:18 AM
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Sure it does.. I am nice to women but I don't let them walk all over me.
/r/seduction07/04/11 12:03 AM
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winning the game means never having to overthink this stuff again. It means having options in your life and being the chooser, not settling for what comes along.
/r/seduction06/04/11 10:33 PM
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Thanks man, glad you found some value in it!
/r/seduction06/04/11 10:29 PM
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First off I NEVER get sick of question.. Seriously.. PM me or email me: [email protected] I will ALWAYS answer... I view unsuccessful attempts as successful learning experiences. Listen, experience breeds perspective and when you go through the motions you learn things that cannot be taught like calibration, getting a feel for the interaction and when you can up the anti so to speak. Every time I speak to a girl it is success, whether that leads me to sex or not is not my goal, my goal is t…
/r/seduction06/04/11 10:28 PM
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Yah man! It is what changed me too! I figured if people actually do what I am listing their sex lives will CHANGE
/r/seduction06/04/11 10:25 PM
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good start. How are things going for you now?
/r/seduction06/04/11 09:55 PM
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I was 22 when I lost my virginity man.. You CAN do this
/r/seduction06/04/11 09:55 PM
2

Great list!! Thanks for taking the time and doing this.. Guys.. THIS is what value is all about.. Props Tofu!
/r/seduction06/04/11 06:49 PM
1

You got it!
/r/seduction06/04/11 06:47 PM
1

Totally does and that is why I don't think you should assume attraction. Don't assume anything, have the courage to face the truth and if attraction is there you will know.
/r/seduction06/04/11 01:01 PM
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Thanks man! Glad you found some value in it! Great thoughts!
/r/seduction03/04/11 06:29 PM
1

I actually am working really hard on the sub reddit to make it a place where people can go for information about all kinds of things pertaining to self confidence. There is STILL a place in seduction for inner game stuff but if people want to learn more /inner game will be a place for that making it quicker and easier to find information.
/r/seduction02/04/11 07:19 PM
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motivation is about getting the energy to do something. Inner game is about making the actual changes. You can get motivated to fix your car but actually doing it is the process that is inner game.
/r/seduction02/04/11 02:49 PM
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Thanks man! PS Check your messages more!! hahah
/r/seduction02/04/11 02:39 PM
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Just started it, I will be doing LOTS of work for it so please feel free to contribute! I love the seduction section here and will maintain the same quality for inner game!
/r/seduction02/04/11 02:38 PM
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In a marriage there is no chase... you caught each other. There is OTHER ways to show affection in a marriage. The problem is people thing pick up translates to relationships and marriages and the "game" never stops. If people believe this then we are going to face a lot of heart ache. He needs to sit her down and tell her what is and isn't working, no games, no chase, just a human being expressing what he needs and she needs to do the same.
/r/seduction27/03/11 06:04 PM
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Hey man I know you have the BEST of intentions in your post so let's not get into a pissing match but your advice is flat out WRONG for marriages. Pick up is NOT for marriage. Your advise to withdraw some attention is going to lead this guy to a divorce. Telling her to put on that hot dress to a house wife who doesn't feel sexy in the first place is going to accomplish nothing. Things DRASTICALLY change when you are in a marriage and they change even more when you have kids. Pick up 101 is NOT t…
/r/seduction27/03/11 04:20 PM
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First you have to sit down and talk with her man. Communicating your wants and needs is VERY essential to getting what you want. If you don't ask the answer is no. Second once you both sit down and figure out what is not working, change it. A relationship is NOT 50 -50 its 100- 100. The "rules" of pick up do NOT apply to a relationship. There are some things that are similar like how to be flirty, being dominant but NOT controlling, self confidence and things like that but the FIRST thing you HA…
/r/seduction27/03/11 03:09 PM
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TOTALLY AGREE!!!
/r/seduction22/03/11 10:36 PM
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I think we are saying the same thing too. The entire point is that be careful of all the "advice" out there because often times people talk more then they act.
/r/seduction22/03/11 02:55 AM
1

Hey tofu, Any chance you can grab some pics in general. Tokyo is kinda one of those places I have always wanted to go. :P Thanks for sharing your experience.
/r/seduction13/03/11 03:45 PM
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yah man I actually thought about you when I heard the news. Was about to PM you.. Glad you are ok.. Puts things into perspective when something happens like this.
/r/seduction12/03/11 01:51 PM
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Thanks :) Glad you are finding value in these posts.
/r/seduction08/03/11 03:35 PM
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assholes have the illusion of confidence :P
/r/seduction08/03/11 06:43 AM
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Thank you. That is why I decided to teach this stuff but keep in mind one VERY important thing.. You cannot just send someone out and say "Be yourself." They need to develop the best person they can be. Routines are training wheels that teach you to interact BUT they are not the only way to learn how to interact with people. Authentic communication is more natural then people think. These 4 things IF applied will help you more than most people can imagine.
/r/seduction08/03/11 02:59 AM
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Yah... I do.. all the time seeing they know I am a dating coach.. I mean it's displayed everywhere on the internet.. Lying will do nothing but make her distrust you and for great reason. Why lie about?
/r/seduction07/03/11 07:48 PM
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35 seconds in and I stopped watching when he told the people that he lies to his girlfriends... Cause lying is a great way to build trust...
/r/seduction07/03/11 02:11 PM
1

Yes you negged
/r/seduction06/03/11 04:53 AM
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I think that DVD has some amazing ideas in it.. Seriously the ideas presented are out of this world... BUT They NEVER tell you how to do it...
/r/seduction04/03/11 08:36 PM
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Tofu, You know I have crazy respect and love for you dude.. This post is .2% of the way there though. "I'm fucking awesome" to some guy who is a 25 year old virgin and hates his life is not the answer. I get where you are going with this man, I really do and I think your sound but this isn't how lasting change happens.
/r/seduction04/03/11 07:37 PM
1

Self affirmations without action leads to delusion. OMG NAILED IT...
/r/seduction04/03/11 07:35 PM
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Yah go for it you can link me .. http://www.nsscoaching.com Glad you enjoyed it :)
/r/seduction01/03/11 09:29 PM
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Super easy.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S39paDGZ0Ew Epic eye contact http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MwzskOjbBx8 YouTube Chuck Bass.. dude is just nutty when it comes to seduction and alpha presence. Need more let me know.. :)
/r/seduction01/03/11 09:28 PM
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I disagree. I think taking nothing personal means that you are open to the opinions of others but you don't allow their judgments to define who you are.
/r/seduction01/03/11 09:11 PM
1

Thanks!! and umm deal
/r/seduction01/03/11 09:07 PM
1

"the best way to improve your inner is to improve your outer" I HATE this phrase... The reason is because if you place your "inner confidence" on things outside of your influence you are not developing anything but false hope. Emotions come from the inside out and NOT the outside in.. Confidence is developed from who you are not what you do. You will gain a boost of confidence by being proficient at things and this is a GREAT thing, but lasting change is something that takes time and it is based…
/r/seduction01/03/11 09:06 PM
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It was wicked fucked up
/r/seduction01/03/11 07:37 PM
2

At the time I was doing something I called "Challenge Game." In clubs. It was a bit planned and it actually works really well. A bit inauthentic though.
/r/seduction01/03/11 07:37 PM
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I cannot tell you how many times I had a set of "friends" like this. Honestly I will say this... The other coach in my company Jimmy is one of my best friends. He said.. "If a friend is not doing everything they can to help you succeed then they aren't really a friend." Think about that...
/r/seduction01/03/11 02:27 PM
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Fixed :) Thanks
/r/seduction01/03/11 02:11 PM
1

Glad you found value in this!! I really believe that you can be VERY good with women and still respect them too :)
/r/seduction01/03/11 01:50 PM
1

Thanks :) I am always working on becoming a better writer. Anyone want a job as a proof reader, no pay but I will teach you jedi mind tricks!! haha
/r/seduction01/03/11 01:49 PM
1

I kinda agree ImKumarYo, You don't need to be a dick to be alpha. You DO need to be dominate... Being a dick shows that you are ultimately insecure and that is the opposite of being alpha. Don't confuse teasing with being a dick as well.
/r/seduction01/03/11 01:40 PM
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This would work.. Also... (embrace and exaggerate the frame in a playful way) "Yah you're right it's late and I am missing my knitting class, do you know how much yarn costs these days!!"
/r/seduction01/03/11 01:38 PM
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Totally! I was going to add more tips to this as well and that is the FIRST one I would add.
/r/seduction01/03/11 01:35 PM
1

Glad you found value in it :)
/r/seduction01/03/11 01:33 PM
1

hehe not at all. I said it straight faced which was half the issue right there. Granted this was awhile ago and obviously I know what I did wrong. Even with a smile (which would have softened the blow) there were other more productive ways I could handle this. :)
/r/seduction01/03/11 01:33 PM
2

Sure thing.
/r/seduction01/03/11 01:31 PM
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cool say's access forbidden when I try to post :(
/r/seduction01/03/11 06:10 AM
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I respectfully disagree 100% The attraction phase is not something you run -yes you still have fun and joke but that isn't "routines" The Qualification phase doesn't exist The comfort phase is obvious done (you have had sex and you are together) What is left in "game?"
/r/seduction24/02/11 11:04 PM
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Yah I can understand where you are coming from but a lot of times we won't get what we want unless we ask for it. Sounds like the fear of rejection is greater then your want for an answer.
/r/seduction24/02/11 09:56 PM
1

Does she know that you want to make it official?
/r/seduction24/02/11 07:01 PM
1

I didn't forget about you man I am sorry I am just so swamped with things. I PROMISE I will get to this
/r/seduction24/02/11 05:51 PM
1

Glad you found value in it!
/r/seduction24/02/11 05:40 PM
1

Sounds to me like she obviously cares and is thinking about you. What do you want with this girl is my first question.
/r/seduction24/02/11 05:40 PM
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Curious to hear your input!
/r/seduction24/02/11 02:13 PM
2

Yes there is more that I could add to this, a lot more infact but these 3 tips are very important. If you are blowing up her phone you are not giving her space so it ties into #1
/r/seduction24/02/11 02:12 PM
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Totally! There are times that I talk to women on an indirect basis but it comes from something my friends and I are actually talking about and debating about. An example is... We were talking about gummy bears and worms and I was clear that bears are way better. My other friend swore that worms were the clear choice so I asked a girl in the bar we were in. (Yes we were drunk haha) Indirect isn't evil or bad at all. Indirect is often used for guys who lack the confidence to meet a girl with "hi"
/r/seduction24/02/11 02:11 PM
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I agree that those are the 4 traditional parts of game but I want you to notice that there isn't a 5th. The "game" changes after you close a girl and this was the premise for this post.
/r/seduction24/02/11 02:08 PM
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I am pro everyone including women. The women in my life I love very much and want them to succeed and be happy. Everyday I strive to leave people better then I found them regardless of their sex, race or religion. Women are not objects to me, their people. Clients are not income to me, their people and you are not just a poster on a forum to me, you are a person and because of that I will say, I hope you have an awesome day. All the best, Mayson
/r/seduction24/02/11 02:07 PM
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When I say start being a human being I mean start opening up and stop being a social robot.
/r/seduction24/02/11 05:14 AM
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1)Let me rephrase a bit " Guys who learn some social skills never shut off there “game” and they stay in attraction by doing routines, not showing any emotions or giving a fuck about her and stuff like that." 2) The more you treat the WOMAN (not the interaction) like a game after you have slept with her the more your chances of losing her increase. There is a parallel with the analogy and the real life experience. Life isn't a game.. It's REAL.. Women aren't a game and we love think that that th…
/r/seduction24/02/11 05:12 AM
1

Agree. Proof looks matter. The elephant man could never date Jessica Alba.. Good news is most of us aren't horribly deformed.
/r/seduction23/02/11 02:13 PM
3

Bottom line.. Looks = less work in attraction. Confidence will win you the game.
/r/seduction23/02/11 05:30 AM
2

Putting girls on a pedestal means you are supplicating to them because you believe they are better then you. Giving value doesn't mean you constantly compliment them. Sometimes giving value means speaking the truth in a compassionate way. Being a value giver is about leaving them better then you found them and a lot of times that means telling them the truth, not supplicating.
/r/seduction17/02/11 05:41 AM
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haha.. It means it takes some time to see the value in people :P
/r/seduction17/02/11 05:39 AM
1

Since I am going to be doing a Q and A in the future I would love to address this question. Would you care to pm me and we can talk further about it?
/r/seduction17/02/11 12:15 AM
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Most people take a long time to answer and their answers are based on external things. It's really interesting.
/r/seduction17/02/11 12:13 AM
1

Awesome, good answer.
/r/seduction16/02/11 01:52 PM
1

Not Buddhist but have a very deep appreciation and love for the philosophy. Attraction is a fundamental part of something I look for in a woman. I cognitively know that overtime it will fade, this is reality. I also look for other characteristics in a woman that I decide to date. These "qualities" are vast and entail more then just looks. Being a quality woman has more to do with the content of a person's character then their looks, however what I consider "quality" is subjective and not univers…
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:54 AM
1

Kinda both actually. I was curious as to what she believes dictates value.
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:38 AM
1

haha not at all actually. This is an exercise I do with every client we meet. List 3 things that you find awesome about yourself.
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:37 AM
1

This does work VERY well... On self conscious lower quality girls. Anyone who cares about who they are refuses to be treated this way.
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:34 AM
1

So you are saying that a confident guy would purposely lower a girls value because he feels she is higher value then him?
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:33 AM
1

Thanks, I don't go out "sarging" either but Why don't you go out in general?
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:32 AM
1

You're right that giving compliments to easy is very supplicative behavior but out right lowering her value is bad too. The happy medium lies in being playful with the girl and giving her a challenge.
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:32 AM
1

Sounds like so many of my stories in my life man. I am sorry.. That blows
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:30 AM
1

Anytime! I mean it!
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:28 AM
1

This is a HUGE answer and one I would love to answer.. PM me this please :)
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:28 AM
1

Thanks Rob, It means a lot coming from someone who I look up to as a writer. Legit
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:27 AM
1

Agree manipulation can be for the good or the bad
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:26 AM
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Out of the 6 things that you mentioned I think that 2 have core value. Looks fade with time, and beauty is common so as much as I think its a great thing to have it's something that can be taken away. A good career can be taken away so that is not value and the same with hobbies they come and go. Intelligence and hardworking are cool. I think that being a hardworking person equates to perseverance and THAT quality is truly valuable. I bet there is even more to you then these things once you dig …
/r/seduction16/02/11 04:25 AM
1

See this is a HUGE misconception. Negging does not = Banter Banter is FINE because banter is not ment to bring someone down. Banter is ment to be funny and playful. Teasing = GOOD Neg's are designed to lower her value so she will be "cut down" a peg so to speak. This is just wrong, why would a confident guy need to do this?
/r/seduction15/02/11 09:13 PM
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Glad you found value in it man! It means a lot to me to treat everyone with respect, authenticity and honesty. These girls that you look at and go, "OMFG they are perfect" have so many insecurities and issues in their life and the last thing they need is more games.
/r/seduction15/02/11 09:11 PM
1

From all my readings a neg is the basic theory that if you can lower a woman’s self-esteem and get her to look for your approval, that you will create attraction for you. This is why Mystery refers to it as a backhanded compliment. Saying things like "nice nails are they real" in order to make her feel insecure is what the purpose of a neg is. Does it display confidence? NO.. It displays arrogance. Confidence is the ability to bring people up rather then put them down. It security in who you are…
/r/seduction15/02/11 09:09 PM
1

why is more of 'game' not focused on these directly? I cannot answer this question. I guess that is why I don't consider myself a pick up artist at all. I can tell you from the thousands upon thousands of interactions I have had that the most powerful attractor for women has been fun.
/r/seduction15/02/11 09:09 PM
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Sorry that you feel disappointed but let me clarify somethings. 1. A girl with good values is NOT a quality girl all the time. There are MANY exceptions to this rule. Values are defined the individual not a universal system of morality. What you value in someone might not be what I value in them. What makes a girl valuable is specific to that person. I might consider a girl who is a Buddhist a value and you might not, it is all subjective. Looks and attitude equate for a good amount of what YOU …
/r/seduction15/02/11 09:07 PM
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You are 100% right on the first paragraph. You "get this" but you over look the fact that it doesn't come easy to many guys. Your "understanding" of all this is something you have internalized and you don't see the need to broken down instructions but the fact of the matter is many people need to understand how this is done. Granted, negging, lowering value and over gaming are all downsides to the community but there are plenty of amazing lessons as well that you shouldn't overlook. If I asked y…
/r/seduction15/02/11 06:46 PM
1

From my understanding of a neg it is designed to lower a woman's confidence. Mystery Method 101 teaches that shit. Even if what you said is true that the point is to make her realize that the only way to improve her self-worth is to be with you then you would be flat out wrong. The only way to improve ANYONE'S self-worth is to find value in who you are based on internal things NOT external things. Any way I can see it, negging is wrong and here is why... If you are a 10... You look in the mirror…
/r/seduction15/02/11 06:43 PM
1

Great thoughts! Emotions change over time and I think your right it is about FEELING more then THINKING and this is proven in relationships all the time.
/r/seduction15/02/11 06:39 PM
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Disagree. Game gets you quantity, Confidence gets you quality.
/r/seduction15/02/11 06:37 PM
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Honestly, like attracts like. Often times broken people will choose broken relationships. Women also feel the need to "fix" guys and they want a challenge so they will often go into relationships saying that "he will change." Hot does NOT equal quality. Quality women in MY opinion (you might be different) are women who have a complete package of looks, wit, charm, drive and success. Those women tend to be older then 21 :P
/r/seduction15/02/11 06:37 PM
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Seduction doesn't have to mean manipulation. That is my philosophy. I really strive to leave people better then I found them.
/r/seduction15/02/11 06:35 PM
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Really happy you found value in it!
/r/seduction15/02/11 06:34 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. My first question is what do you think defines you as a "quality girl?"
/r/seduction15/02/11 06:34 PM
1

:)
/r/seduction13/02/11 03:35 AM
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Those are NOT books for inner game at all :(
/r/seduction12/02/11 02:26 PM
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I LOVE this question! First off thanks! As a bigger guy I had more self confidence issues then anyone could imagine. Going about this asking for advice starting off people would tell me lose weight and fix yourself. I thought that no beautiful girl would like me unless I was "normal." This limiting belief cost me so much because I didn't want to face rejection from another person because I was rejecting myself for so many years. It held me back a ton because I DIDN'T ACCEPT ME. The fact of the m…
/r/seduction11/02/11 02:23 PM
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It is 100% a numbers game and anyone who tells you different is a liar, truth... The difference in my life now that I have this handled is that I create options that I never had. I am blessed to have wonderful people in my life and I don't have to be alone wondering if anyone would ever like me. I am around beautiful women not all are 10's at all but they are QUALITY women inside and out and to get that, well it's a bit of a journey haha. My blow out rate is pretty low. Now, let me say that BLOW…
/r/seduction11/02/11 02:17 PM
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Hey man, What you are experiencing is another form of approach anxiety. A lot of people over look that AA is more then just being afraid to talk to girls, it also includes fears like this. To get over this you first need to understand where it is coming from. Like changing any problem in life you must replace it with another behavior or you will revert back. Here is how you do that... First thing is open a word doc or write in a journal the following phrase.. "My confidence is crippled around ot…
/r/seduction11/02/11 02:05 PM
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Oh I didn't take it personal. I actually got a laugh out of it. Thanks btw man glad you get some value out of them :)
/r/seduction11/02/11 12:48 AM
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haha not at all actually!! I am really excited for the community here
/r/seduction10/02/11 11:57 PM
1

I like practical pick up to... I am a little biased :)
/r/seduction06/02/11 09:38 PM
1

Legit... One of the best products..
/r/seduction06/02/11 09:38 PM
1

So from this one bad experience you are going to judge all women? Not being an asshole I am legit asking. :)
/r/seduction03/02/11 08:42 PM
1

I do think some of these women were vague in their response but it's important to understand WHAT women are saying. Confidence was pretty much spelled out by them and also by me in this article. How you get it.. I basically write 99% of my posts about it
/r/seduction28/01/11 02:00 PM
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I thought about this for a long time awhile ago and here is what I found. Opposites attract. I believe they attract because it's the emotional response of something new and unique that women tend to be drawn to much like a moth is drawn to a flame. I have also noticed they don't CONNECT though. See the opposites will be drawn to each other but they have nothing to connect on so often these encounters are short lived. I am SURE there are examples saying the opposite but in my findings in my own l…
/r/seduction28/01/11 01:58 PM
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I agree that women tend to not fully know what they want. I also think the same thing applies to men. People in general don't know what they want, they have an idea of what they want. My challenge is this, I am not saying the advice the women listed in here is right or wrong but I would challenge you to try taking it and see what happens. In all my findings from them I have noticed that confidence was very important.
/r/seduction28/01/11 01:50 PM
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Do arrogant guys get laid? Yes. Can they keep the girl long term, no. See it's one thing to attract the girl, it's another to keep her.
/r/seduction28/01/11 01:48 PM
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Confidence yes, narcissism no. Being sure in your abilities is great thinking you are better then you are is self deprecation.
/r/seduction28/01/11 05:36 AM
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I am going to give you some advice.... Confidence comes from embracing not resisting. Far to often people come to the community and people tell them all the things they HAVE TO change to "get good." I do believe that many people need to change habits but you don't need to look like mystery to pick up girls man. Besides if you knew who these "gurus" really were you would rather die a virgin then EVER been like them. Remember what I said, confidence comes from EMBRACING... NOT.. resisting.. If you…
/r/seduction28/01/11 05:13 AM
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I think you are pretty close here but the vocabulary is tripping us up from agreement. Cockiness is arrogance in disguise. The thing about arrogance and cockiness is that they come from a place of insecurity. The cocky person is one who cannot display confidence because he or she doesn't possess it. Cockiness is a mask that we put on to shield others from the reality that behind it lies a person who lacks self confidence. Cockiness is not confidence and cannot convey your confidence in my opinio…
/r/seduction28/01/11 05:09 AM
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First off, GREAT RESPONSE!!! Seriously, thanks for taking the time and writing. I will say that you got something terribly wrong. I was NOT naturally confident. In fact, I was so not "naturally" confident that I spend 3 years of my life inside my house afraid of the world. Confidence was something I developed and has been my biggest struggle in life.
/r/seduction28/01/11 05:02 AM
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Hey man! Thanks for the kind words.. I have a question for you.. What do YOU think is the difference between cocky and confident?
/r/seduction28/01/11 04:09 AM
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Thanks, I am glad that you are finding some useful stuff in it :)
/r/seduction28/01/11 03:51 AM
1

Same :)
/r/seduction28/01/11 03:50 AM
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Hot girls yes, quality girls no. I can only speak for myself but I prefer quality over quantity.
/r/seduction28/01/11 03:50 AM
1

Yah it's taken me 2 years to internalize this. It changed my life though man.
/r/seduction28/01/11 01:49 AM
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Cause I got my period early
/r/seduction28/01/11 01:47 AM
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Thanks
/r/seduction28/01/11 01:47 AM
2

Fair.. My question to you is this.. Why would you "fake" confidence?
/r/seduction28/01/11 01:47 AM
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I am saying creepiness is a fixable issue. I have never met you so I couldn't make that assertion :)
/r/seduction27/01/11 10:05 PM
1

Thank you for reading!
/r/seduction27/01/11 09:48 PM
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RIGHT on point. Funny how the we tend to hate the thing we hate in ourselves eh?
/r/seduction27/01/11 09:48 PM
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I agree and this is why I state all the time that you have to be your BEST self. If there were no fear or constraint in the world what would you do and how would you act? If there are issues like creepiness that are preventing you from success then obviously they NEED to be fixed. Right on
/r/seduction27/01/11 09:47 PM
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Thank you very much, glad you found value in it.
/r/seduction27/01/11 09:17 PM
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Yah this is something people learn as soon as they come into the community and there is a truth to this statement. That doesn't mean that ALL women don't know what they want. Women can give VERY good advice on things like sex, fashion and sometimes attraction. I think it's important to listen and not be so quick to dismiss their advice just because.
/r/seduction27/01/11 09:17 PM
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One of the best if not THE best pieces on body language I have EVER seen.
/r/seduction24/01/11 04:22 PM
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Having been in your shoes before I know what you mean man. Here are 7 recommendations to jump start you. I also HIGHLY recommend learning to reconcile your past and putting new tools in place to help you sustain and grow your self confidence. Change your look, change your life! People often underestimate the power of the way you look. The clothes that you wear tell a story about the content of your character. Far too often we see something that we like and tell ourselves that there’s no way that…
/r/seduction24/01/11 03:54 PM
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I actually agree here. The blueprint is a product that is filled with information for mental masturbation but NO WAY how to practically use the information. He NEVER says, here is how to change your life, step 1 ________ Step 2 _____ etc... Honestly you CAN change your self confidence but it takes work. There is no magic pill.
/r/seduction24/01/11 03:46 PM
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Agree Tofu but it QUICKLY escalates into mental masturbation as well.
/r/seduction22/01/11 04:38 PM
1

First understand what push pull is and isn't It IS: The raw form for flirting. It is basically building a rapport and then breaking it. This can be done with verbal and physical sensations It ISN'T: A "game" in the sense that you try to win. This is something people have done for years. It is very effective in creating positive tension. Try push and pulling verbally as well as physically.
/r/seduction22/01/11 04:37 PM
1

I basically just told her that we didn't have to have sex, it wasn't that big a deal. I just continued to have fun, banter, makeout and the kissing lead to foreplay and then it was on. Basically she didn't want to feel slutty and her logical mind stepped in. Make no mistake this wasn't a "trick" she wanted to have sex but like most people, she got a little nervous.
/r/seduction22/01/11 03:08 AM
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There is a big difference between being "nice" and being a supplicator. Now.. let's play devil's advocate here.. Ever hear of a shy, insecure guy who girls were like "awww he's sooo cute." and they end up hooking up, YUP... Happens ALL the time.
/r/seduction21/01/11 04:51 AM
2

Thanks for the kind words :)
/r/seduction18/01/11 11:00 PM
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Cool man glad your STILL getting value from it hehe. :)
/r/seduction18/01/11 04:09 PM
2

Truth!
/r/seduction18/01/11 04:08 PM
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heh, wasn't the intent but hope it inspires you to do something awesome!
/r/seduction18/01/11 04:08 PM
1

I am actually doing an article on it now.
/r/seduction15/01/11 06:59 PM
2

19-20 and MAN I feel like I am a good looking person right now. wow
/r/seduction14/01/11 12:54 AM
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This is all REALLY great, thanks for taking the time and responding!
/r/seduction13/01/11 06:09 PM
1

I highly and respectfully disagree with what you said about women using sex to catch a mate. Sex is something that brings emotional as well as physical pleasure to a woman and it is something that they enough. Do some women use sex as a weapon, yes but also men use it for the wrong reasons as well. I feel like you have a lot of resentment toward women and it is very subtly expressed in your discontent for their actions or perception of their action. I mean NO disrespect by that at all, simply st…
/r/seduction13/01/11 04:25 PM
1

Ya like I said it's not a man of if you can.. it is a matter of SHOULD you.
/r/seduction13/01/11 06:39 AM
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Sometimes there is. The real question is SHOULD you.
/r/seduction13/01/11 05:08 AM
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Women have a different sex drive then a man does when it comes to showing it so openly. Do women like sex, absolutely.. I think women tend to be more open minded and wilder then men most of the time when it comes to sex. The frequency that women have sex has many determining factors such as age, self worth, menstruation cycle and mood. Every woman is different when it comes to frequency and her bedroom behavior but as you allow her to express herself and openly communicate your sexual fantasies …
/r/seduction13/01/11 05:07 AM
1

What are some of the struggles your marriage has faced in 13 years.? What is the hardest things about being married? What have you had to give up being with one person? Do you have any regrets? What do you check out seddit? Are you happy? Thanks man.. Really thanks for taking the time and answering because I really believe we can learn from everyone around us!
/r/seduction13/01/11 05:01 AM
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I would love some feedback from you if you disagree.
/r/seduction13/01/11 04:59 AM
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Your MORE then welcome, thank you for contributing.
/r/seduction13/01/11 04:58 AM
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I am planning on writing a post about this. Thanks for actually inspiring it man!
/r/seduction13/01/11 04:57 AM
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YUP! They are NOT NOT NOT the same thing
/r/seduction13/01/11 04:56 AM
1

Thanks for the kind words but believe me I do NOT teach pick up. Seriously, I am not in ANY way a "pick up artist" not that I condem it at all but I am not and do not think that I am some sort of pick up artist. I am an average guy with above average confidence who figured out how to teach that to people. I basically teach people to value who they are and how to translate that to have a VERY successful dating life.
/r/seduction13/01/11 04:52 AM
1

Topo is a great dude.
/r/seduction13/01/11 04:50 AM
1

Yah man! I would also add that you should make friends with girls who ARE you type too. It's ok to have friends, far to often I find that guys get in "pick up" mode and stop seeing women as people.
/r/seduction13/01/11 04:49 AM
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Yah man I feel yah. There IS HOPE though. Learn from this, journal all the time about what you are feeling and the lessons you have learned. Create social options for yourself. Don't view this as a loss but a start to a new and awesome experience that is awaiting you!
/r/seduction13/01/11 01:54 AM
2

I did have that epiphany about the time of #2... First off I will answer your question by explaining something that guys do REALLY wrong. Guys who are new and even intermediate at this tend to game EVERY girl they think is even remotely attractive. This is horrific because having a good hot girl friend is a HUGE learning experience and it was one of the ways that I learned women want sex. Let me lay down some fact here... A woman's clit has 500x the nerve endings then the tip of a penis.. They h…
/r/seduction13/01/11 01:47 AM
2

Yah after getting a couple of request I will post them in a separate thread so people can read.
/r/seduction12/01/11 11:35 PM
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I am glad you found value in it! Most of these lessons were hard to learn and I still have to revisit them from time to time but it's worth it!
/r/seduction12/01/11 11:32 PM
2

Oh man thanks so much for the response. 13 Years! I would love to ask you some questions!
/r/seduction12/01/11 11:32 PM
2

Sure thing man
/r/seduction12/01/11 10:31 PM
2

Yah, let me write some stuff about it and post. I have been meaning to do this for awhile now and been slammed with work. Fair enough?
/r/seduction12/01/11 09:06 PM
2

Thanks a ton man! I am working hard to gain the respect of the people who have been here and worked hard building seddit. The only way I can put it is I am not in the business of making clients, I am in the business of creating relationships with people. I am really glad that I can offer insight and value to the community here.
/r/seduction12/01/11 08:44 PM
2

Thanks for the feedback! I was out in Chicago not to long ago, great city.
/r/seduction12/01/11 06:46 PM
2

I remember you doing an AMA awhile ago about it I believe. NSS is going good. We are learning a ton about marketing and we redid the color scheme of the site and I feel it's much more positive then before. Gotta admit I am not that savvy when it comes to marketing and SEO so I am learning a ton as I go.
/r/seduction12/01/11 06:27 PM
1

Yah man I am always down for that!
/r/seduction12/01/11 06:01 PM
1

Steve really is. Funny as sick as hell too haha
/r/seduction12/01/11 05:46 PM
1

Thanks man that means a lot. BTW how is your trip going? Are you still traveling?
/r/seduction12/01/11 05:45 PM
5

I have SERIOUS issues with the commercial side of pick up. I could go off on the amount of horrific products, teachers and BS that is out there. Entropy once said something to me that has always stuck with me. We were hanging one day and he was like "You know people who aren't that good tend to teach and the people who are good tend to get in the community get what they need and get out." This stuck with me when I worked with other industry "professionals." There are AMAZING coaches out there an…
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:38 PM
1

Thanks for the kind words and no worries at all. In a one sentence answer we teach guys to build confidence for their dating lives. We are very holistic in our approach to things but this is not the place for me to go on a rant about my company. :) I am just here to help now, not doing any "promotion" or anything like that. If people want to find me they will, that is my philosophy.
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:34 PM
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In a lot of ways I agree but what I have learned is that each point is relevant for people when they are going through it. Who am I to say that one lesson is greater than another but what I do know is that once I stopped routines, tricks and tactics and worked on my lifestyle and confidence I had a VERY noticeable change in the QUALITY of women, the QUANTITY of women dropped off dramatically.
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:30 PM
1

More then welcome :)
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:28 PM
3

haha.. Sorry you feel that way
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:28 PM
2

Journaling is one of my key's to being successful at this. I cannot emphasize enough the power of being able to go back and read the things that were going on. Rob Judge wrote and amazing article about this not to long ago and it's worth a read. (don't have the link sorry) As for the second part of your question I have and continue to blog about it. :)
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:28 PM
1

He was the first student that we taught when I was working with Practical Pick up. He became my best friend and now business partner in my company.
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:25 PM
2

Literally... Dude I am so many stories about him dating 6ft blond models it's insane.
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:25 PM
1

Glad you found value in it man.
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:24 PM
2

really? Girls don't always commit a lot when they have sex. That is a HUGE generalization. I can tell you from having many ONS that they don't. Guys and girls aren't as different as you think when it comes to sex.
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:23 PM
2

From Boston
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:20 PM
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Don't take this personal at all but TYPICALLY women give TERRIBLE relationship advice.. You however nailed it. This is VERY true and it took me a girl who I loved to learn this lesson. Here's hoping that other people learn the easier way hehe.
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:20 PM
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Great point! What I am saying is that Chemistry isn't attraction as the community knows it. Basic attraction is primal and very predictable. Chemistry is a layer that goes much deeper. You either have chemistry or don't with a person and what determines this is out of your hands. See Chemistry is about personality quirks and idiosyncrasies. I can get into this more if you'd like.
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:18 PM
2

Actually I am not. My company doesn't teach pick up.. Seriously..
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:09 PM
5

If you want me to dig up old FR's I am more then happy too. Right now I am seeing someone so I am not sure you will get much new stuff. Mind you I have been in this for 3 years so I have a collection of shit. No worries though Tofu, if I was trying to sell you I would not be doing this hehe, this is the stupidest way of marketing ever if I spilled my guys and didn't mention my company haha.
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:08 PM
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She decided to break up with me. I had to let her go after reading everything about trying to get her back and we had a real off again on again type of relationship. I cannot tell you how hard this was for me. It was VERY humbling.
/r/seduction12/01/11 04:06 PM
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You know in all my experiences from teaching students and from my own path in this stuff I have learned that there is a symbiotic relationship between inner and outer. I think that coaches who teach IG only forget that experiential learning brings about tons of self confidence! Great observation!
/r/seduction07/01/11 04:50 PM
1

Yah, I am glad this could help you man.
/r/seduction07/01/11 04:31 AM
1

First thing you should know is that if you are with women there WILL be drama, this goes for men too I am not being sexist... yet :P In all seriously, drama is a part of everyone and you will see more drama especially if you are dating REALLY hot girls. I cannot tell you how many times a night there was tons of drama in the nightclub I did promotions for, most of it centered around girls. As for your questions about "becoming a pua" It starts with understanding how being social in general works.…
/r/seduction07/01/11 03:42 AM
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This is REALLY good stuff man. Sounds like you have a good understanding based off of experience. Props to you!
/r/seduction07/01/11 03:39 AM
1

This is VERY true!
/r/seduction07/01/11 03:10 AM
1

Well before I can answer that I need clarification.. You said you have been told you look and behave like a pua but you have no confidence? And you want to be a pua? First thing is this.. PUA's don't always have confidence. There are so many "good" teachers, students and guru's I have met that have less confidence then virgin guys I know... legit... So what are you trying to become?
/r/seduction07/01/11 03:10 AM
2

Thanks for the clarification and you can expect the same contributions and more. I appreciate your professionalism.
/r/seduction07/01/11 02:13 AM
2

I understand fully how you don't want seddit to become a marketing playground. In the future I won't link anymore out of respect for the community here. I would say that I think it is going to be very hard to moderate all the people who want to promote their PU companies here so I don't envy your job hehe. Out of respect for the community, the people involved and your disposition I won't link again. All the best, Mayson
/r/seduction07/01/11 02:05 AM
1

haha wasn't really on reddit to much. Love this site though.
/r/seduction07/01/11 02:01 AM
1

You are very welcome
/r/seduction07/01/11 12:14 AM
3

HAHAH, no I just actually like jager.. alot
/r/seduction06/01/11 10:22 PM
1

haha my company consists of 3 people bro. I can tell you that not ONE of these people in the thread have EVER emailed me or done business with me so all of this is real.
/r/seduction06/01/11 09:33 PM
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Who's to say I haven't already.. dun dun dunnnnnn
/r/seduction06/01/11 09:08 PM
3

Absolutely! It starts small, once someone can understand how attraction works they should be doing it out in the field nonstop. It's one thing to read the seddit forums it's another thing getting off the computer and making it happen in real life. This mindset is one that has helped me and many of my students throughout our lives but it is useless unless you follow it. This is why outer game > inner game in the beginning stages of learning how to interact with women.
/r/seduction06/01/11 09:07 PM
1

Glad you found value in it!
/r/seduction06/01/11 09:04 PM
3

Yah, Having been there so many times I can relate to it.
/r/seduction06/01/11 09:03 PM
15

Hey chumpta, I actually believe that GFTOW is actually some bad advice. Here is why... If your "connections" with women are based on sex then your really not making a deep connection. When a person has oneitus they are making an EMOTIONAL connection with someone and the only way to break and emotional connection is to form other emotional connection. Sometimes in sex that works but far to often it leads people into what I call the "black hole" of self deprecation. When someone is trying to get o…
/r/seduction06/01/11 09:03 PM
1

I think your right flat, We all need a reminder from time to time that this is the mindset we should have not just to "get girls" but to have abundance in all aspects of our lives.
/r/seduction06/01/11 09:00 PM
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Jager, First off love the name. That being said... Sorry you feel like I was "advertising" but I posted the entire article and at the VERY end put a link if you wanna see the pictures associated with it and stuff like that. There is not one pop up or anything like it on my site and you never have to click it if you don't want. I hope through all your criticism you found something useful from the post though man. All the best, Mayson
/r/seduction06/01/11 08:59 PM
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You are quite welcome. Honestly, I am just glad you found value in it.
/r/seduction06/01/11 08:55 PM
1

They say all publicity is good publicity but.....
/r/seduction06/01/11 06:00 PM
1

Yah I agree that people shouldn't need a day or occasion to start this stuff but it is still a great way to start the new year and makes some changes.
/r/seduction31/12/10 01:39 AM
0

If I was going for self promotion I would link it to my blog directly, not reply to ANY question and put WAYYY more marketing into this stuff. I really care about the seddit community and people in general.
/r/seduction30/12/10 08:10 PM
1

This is amazing man! You can do it!
/r/seduction30/12/10 08:08 PM
0

Thanks. I actually really try to keep all the business crap to a min. I have a couple other brands of shoes you might like too if you are interested
/r/seduction30/12/10 08:08 PM
2

Actually didn't know about them, I will edit my article and put them in there.. Thanks for this
/r/seduction30/12/10 08:07 PM
1

These are great man! How are you going to accomplish them
/r/seduction30/12/10 08:06 PM
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email me.. [email protected]
/r/seduction30/12/10 08:05 PM
1

Thanks Rob.. btw you get my message haha
/r/seduction30/12/10 07:18 PM
2

What are some of your goals for 2011?
/r/seduction30/12/10 05:12 PM
3

Thanks man.. 2011 is going to be glorious! Let's CRUSH IT!
/r/seduction30/12/10 05:11 PM
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Great post. There is so many lessons on Feynman's stuff and the Randy Pauch's lecture is brilliant on so many levels. Makes you really think outside the box. I always say that pick up is self help in disguise and this goes to show how much that is true.
/r/seduction30/12/10 04:35 PM
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Yah totally fair, I offer my blog as a resource because we update it all the time and give stuff away from it. I understand what you mean about over marketing in the community but that is another thread :)
/r/seduction29/12/10 04:45 PM
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Most of the time in my experiences flakes have so much to do with comfort. My job was a club promoter and I met her through some friends, she thought I was just another stuck up player for awhile. When I was teasing, having fun and taking time to talk with her I think that was the point she stopped seeing me as a stuck up promoter and started seeing me as a human being. One thing I noticed is when you have a high value occupation it is easy for women to over value you quickly. I think this was a…
/r/seduction29/12/10 12:14 AM
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Fair enough. I have and wanted to reiterate that I knew this girl but she kept flaking on me. This was not even close to our first interaction. If you read if from that context I can see how this would be insane but I have talked to her many times before this and this was my attempt at getting her from flake to hang out.
/r/seduction28/12/10 11:56 PM
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I would re-read what I said that this is for when you are not seeing them face to face (ie the flake part of this) and when you are not talking to them on the phone. The whole point of this is not to replace going out or to say this is better then bar, clubs, live interaction or anything. I am simply stating this is a way to rekindle a flake that was close.. Good discussion
/r/seduction28/12/10 11:15 PM
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There is nothing wrong with online dating or trying to "recover" a girl who you wanted. What is wrong is when you fixate only on that one person while not even in a relationship. These are often confused in the community and people get a sense of arrogance when it comes to "abundance mentality." It is very true that there are billions of women out there and it's important to understand this and keep it in mind, but it's also important to form emotional connections and like girls or you treat the…
/r/seduction28/12/10 10:59 PM
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went good. We went to walmart and did some fake furniture shopping then ended up at my place later on. Assertiveness is a great thing if done in the right context.
/r/seduction28/12/10 09:49 PM
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Good thing people lack intelligence :P
/r/seduction28/12/10 09:00 PM
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This is simply a post based on if you are NOT face to face with her. I am sure that all of us would agree that things like kino, body language etc are very important but this is simply for things like online dating and when you are trying to recover a flake.. Thanks for the input thought
/r/seduction28/12/10 09:00 PM
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Yah man NEVER to late. One of the instructors for our company is 40 years old and he is dating a 22 year old.
/r/seduction28/12/10 07:15 PM
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Awesome stuff. Rob Judge REALLY knows his stuff!
/r/seduction23/12/10 08:31 PM
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Thanks?! hehe what do you mean? I appreciate the feedback btw
/r/seduction23/12/10 02:21 AM
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Np. thanks for watching
/r/seduction23/12/10 02:21 AM
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You know what.. Fair.. I will get on this. Legit.
/r/seduction23/12/10 02:20 AM
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I think you are confusing attraction with sexual attraction. These are different things. Sexual attraction + escalation = ONS
/r/seduction06/12/10 05:33 AM
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Sure, Just because you hold a woman's attention doesn't mean she wants to sleep with you. Far to often in the community we associate attraction with sex and that is FAR from true. Attraction (or attention) is one piece of the puzzle. If you have her attention you have the opportunity to showcase your personality more, build some rapport, banter and spark a connection. Being "successful" with women means that you are able to not only generate attraction but also build comfort, take things sexual …
/r/seduction05/12/10 03:19 PM
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No, I actually bet he is really cool! I am saying this from a realistic standpoint. Holding attention doesn't = success with women. The quicker people get off this fantasy the quicker you will find success.
/r/seduction04/12/10 09:51 PM
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clowns hold attention too..
/r/seduction04/12/10 03:36 PM
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"Looks don't matter"........Tell that to the elephant man. Listen guys, this who "looks don't matter" is a line of BS.. Looks are NOT deal makers... they will simply give you a head start. True you cannot make up for energy, charisma etc.. but guess what.. you don't NEED those things for a women to sleep with you.
/r/seduction04/12/10 03:36 PM
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Again I disagree. You CAN change your looks quite a bit, ask a plastic surgeon. (I am not advocating plastic surgery to get girls haha) Start by learning fashion. If you are overweight, lose it. If your teeth are a mess fix them. These are all things you can do but DON'T do it for girls do it for yourself first. Looks matter.. I promise you that really really attractive girls are vain too. Like I said though, looks matter MUCH less then most guys think. You don't have to be great looking to be g…
/r/seduction04/12/10 03:33 PM
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Looks matter.. How much they matter is far less then guys think.
/r/seduction04/12/10 07:16 AM
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Hey man, Finding a good coach allows you to speed up the whole process but you can do it on your own. As a coach I can tell you that anyone can do this on their own but a good coach will get you there much quicker then normal. It is also important to have like minded people in your life who will support you with any of the changes you want to make. If you have specific questions I would be MORE then happy to answer anything so feel free to PM me. Mayson New Social Systems
/r/seduction01/12/10 12:29 AM
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GREAT article, thanks for sharing
/r/seduction10/11/10 08:20 PM
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Hey, I understand what you mean. A lot of the students we coach have the same background so I really get your point here. Obviously understanding WHAT flirting is is the beginning stage to getting good at it. The next step would be to watch it in action. Some movies that I recommend are: 1. Cruel Intentions. 2. James Bond (Casino Royal) 3. Chuck Bass in the first and second season of Gossip Girl (tv show) These are really good examples of people who use, banter, flirting and seductive language q…
/r/seduction08/11/10 10:02 PM
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that's awesome! Let us know how it goes.
/r/seduction01/11/10 08:09 PM
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if you are doing this to "meet girls" then my question is why would you need this rather then just going up to them and meeting them? Listen, I think this is fun and I am not knocking it, just simply asking where your motivation lies, in doing something to meet girls or doing something cause it's fun.
/r/seduction01/11/10 07:41 PM
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so this sounds fun and all but my questions is WHY do you want to do this?
/r/seduction01/11/10 07:33 PM
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*1. One who opens the set, owns the set. * He gets first choice of target.This is plain and simple. If you open you get first choice of the target. If you are coming into the set make sure that you have already worked out a code like “have you seen jimmy” to signify if the person wants a wing. 2. The primary purpose of wing is to help his friend get his target. Again straight forward, you are not there to compete you are there to DHV your friend and occupy the obstacle. *3. Don't steal a target.…
/r/seduction01/11/10 02:15 AM
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100% agree
/r/seduction29/10/10 09:08 PM
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This is really great discussion and I honestly thank you for taking the time to voice your opinion. I feel like your opinion is shared by the majority of seddit and I respect it very much. I understand your disposition about getting practical advice from "normal" people. There are very abnormal people out there offering theory looking to only line their pockets off of the people who want to make a change in their life. This sad reality is something I will not do. I could rant about the countless…
/r/seduction29/10/10 02:36 PM
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Thank you very much. I actually just posted about how much I REALLY care about the seddit community here and how I will continue to work my face off to provide as much value as I can. I answer EVERY post personally and when you run a company you know how hard that can be. I love the community we have here and I am really blessed to know that someone is reading my posts and getting value out of it. I continue to say, if you have ANY ANY ANY questions please contact me! With humility and respect, …
/r/seduction29/10/10 03:50 AM
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I understand your points and here them loud and clear. I do cross post from my blog on some things and I am proud of my company. I spend a great deal of time on these forums each day and I offer free advice to everyone on here and I feel like that is the way it should be. When I do a cross post I always add, AMA and I personally respond to EACH and EVERY question. I have seen many people try to market their business on here but not take the time to respond to the questions that so many ask. Each…
/r/seduction29/10/10 03:47 AM
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Love the idea!
/r/seduction28/10/10 03:55 PM
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np man, We are working on video blogging and doing this very thing. We want more interactive ways to reach out to the community so this is on our agenda. Thanks!
/r/seduction28/10/10 03:00 PM
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As always AMA guys!
/r/seduction28/10/10 01:24 AM
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yah that is different :)
/r/seduction27/10/10 12:53 AM
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I think this is a GREAT article but your question is one that the author didn't seek to address. Having gone out alone on many occasions I would offer the following advice. Don't just stand there do something: From even BEFORE you enter the place say hi to the guy checking your ID. Ask him how his night is going and how busy is the place. This will get you in a social mood. The FIRST person you see, guy, girl anyone walk up and start a conversation with a smile on your face. Ask them about their…
/r/seduction26/10/10 03:34 PM
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In theory this is great. The problem is being an event planner and promoter for years I can tell you that MOST places get busy and if you annoy the bar tender by talking to them it is a bad thing. I see guys all the time try to chat up the bar tender and at the end of the night the staff is cracking on them for not having the social intelligence to see that they are busy.
/r/seduction26/10/10 03:26 PM
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GREAT post!! Thanks for sharing this stuff.
/r/seduction18/10/10 07:50 PM
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No problem at all. I would love to offer my support and advice whenever I can. Please feel free to email me anytime. [email protected] There is a lot of information out there about "women, dating pick up" and things like that. We come at this from a more practical and holistic approach and have had unbelievable results because of it. Hope to talk to you soon. P.S What are your goals?
/r/seduction18/10/10 03:17 PM
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Great question! A journal is a tool that I suggest everyone to use because it is the only way that I have seen to consistently see your emotions. I recommend writing daily entries about how you feel and what is going on in your life. You don't need major epiphanies for your journal you just need consistent entries. If you don't know what you write start by talking about what you feel at the moment, are you hungry, happy, sad or angry? Over time you will have a timeline of your emotions and you w…
/r/seduction17/10/10 09:41 PM
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Thank you very much! I'm very grateful that you find value in this. Let me also say congrats to dealing with your weight problem. As someone who has struggled with weight in my own life, I understand how difficult of a battle this is. You are to be commended on such an accomplishment. And believe me, as you take back control over food, your life starts to follow. You're right on the money when it comes to the steps to being authentic. It's so important to not just find yourself... but to create …
/r/seduction16/10/10 02:18 PM
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Greetings, My background is based in psychology with specifics in relationship management and social dynamics. I have worked as a dating and self confidence coach for the last 3 years and started my company, New Social Systems, 2 years ago. Over the last two years I've worked with students in all walks of life, teaching them practical ways to build lasting confidence based on internal validation, rather then external means that so many of us have tried. I love your reference to Sternberg, who I …
/r/seduction16/10/10 02:14 PM
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thanks very much! I am glad you found value in it. I will continue to post things like this and if you have any questions I would love to help out.
/r/seduction16/10/10 02:01 PM
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Thank you VERY much for your kind words. Honestly I wrote this so that people would find value in it in hopes to help and inspire some people.
/r/seduction16/10/10 03:51 AM
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Sorry you feel that way, I was not linking to my website in order reduce spam here and be more interactive with the seddit base.
/r/seduction16/10/10 12:17 AM
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Ok I will.. Thanks for the encouragement.
/r/seduction03/10/10 04:28 PM
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Men's cologne wears off pretty quick. You are right do this with caution! When you layer scents you help it last longer. I should do an article on this alone because there are so many tips that guys should know for using cologne.
/r/seduction03/10/10 06:01 AM
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I cannot agree more. They are a HUGE investment but man worth EVERY penny
/r/seduction02/10/10 05:08 AM
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Thanks for the link! I really liked this for a number of reasons. 1) This woman obviously knew she was about to be "preyed" on so to speak by these self professed pick up artists so she was not really open to much. 2) One thing that you do notice from these things is that everyone's style is a bit different. Notice how not many of them were really that natural about this? I walked away thinking they were all kinda slick but a lot of them were very creepy in a way. 3) Notice the LACK of smiling. …
/r/seduction28/09/10 06:12 PM
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"You're in luck; as a female, it's much, much easier to approach men" This is a common misconception. How "easy" it is to approach is relative to how the person feels about themselves and has NOTHING to do with their gender.
/r/seduction27/09/10 08:05 PM
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Well first I think it is a great thing that you are trying to improve your life! Part of this process is hearing things that are honest and genuine. Here is the HONEST and genuine feedback on how to do this.. 1) Looks accounts for about 80% of what guys look for in a women. That is the simply fact. Being overweight and trying to attract a man is VERY hard and that is the truth. A man is attracted through his eyes but falls in love through his heart. 2) SMILE.. This is true for girls and for guys…
/r/seduction27/09/10 08:02 PM
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First off, understand that finding confidence is not based on the amount of women you get. Sure in the beginning as you are getting girls you feel amazing! What happens over time is you slip into something that I call, "the black hole." The Black Hole refers to the dark depression when you realize that your self confidence is based on something external, something outside of your ability to influence. I hear people all the time tell me they wanna get their dating life under control so they can b…
/r/seduction27/09/10 04:42 PM
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There is no question that "social circle interaction" is the way to go about it from a long term perspective on a college front. Devloping a strong social circle is one of the major keys to getting really good results in your dating life. However, the PU community assumes women are stupid and that saying something situation will cause her to magically believe she is not being hit on. This is false, seeing that most women are better at reading people then guys are, this is because they are in tou…
/r/seduction23/09/10 08:27 PM
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It sounds like she is busy. It would only cause needless suffering for you to assume anything. My advice is 1) Don't Limit yourself to just this girl.. Go out, be social meet more women! 2) Keep her in the loop and trying to make plans but don't alter your life for her. Invest the same amount she is investing in you. 3) Keep it flirty and fun.. Don't make the mistake of being to serious, make sure when you are talking it is about the fun times she missed out on (without saying that). These steps…
/r/seduction23/09/10 07:41 PM
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Great man!! Let me know if you need any advice, keep me posted!! love to help you out
/r/seduction23/09/10 04:02 PM
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Hey man, In all the coaching I have done I can tell you that day time direct is where it is at. Don't mask your intentions with a situational opener. There is no need to comment on her hair cut when what you want is to get to know her. Here is why. Women find confidence VERY attractive, we all know this. When a guy has the confidence to walk up to a women he sees and says.. "Hey, I noticed you from over there and you have this great since of style, I wanted to come over here and meet you, Hi, my…
/r/seduction23/09/10 03:25 PM
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http://www.kinowear.com/blog That site is no longer updated but still has TONS of information Ask Men is another great resource. This will get you MORE then started.. Feel free to email me ANYTIME for advice, hell I have entire posts to help you get started email me [email protected]
/r/seduction23/09/10 03:12 PM
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Hey man, First off understand that self confidence is about SELF.. NOT about another girl, that would be called external validation. The question then is how to gain self confidence. Having worked with guys all across North America on this VERY same issue, I will put 5 tips to REALLY help you out. IF you follow them you will succeed with time. 1) Get a life.. Do you go out EVER? What is your social life like? Meeting people in general is a great way to begin to learn how to socialize. Start smal…
/r/seduction22/09/10 07:12 PM
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