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How to be a Real Man

MaysonNSS

September 24, 2010

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http://www.nsscoaching.com/blog/how-to-be-a-real-man/

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Title	How to be a Real Man
Author	MaysonNSS
Upvotes	23
Comments	18
Date	September 24, 2010 4:35 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/die3x/how_to_be_a_real_man/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/how-to-be-a-real-man.1311918 https://theredarchive.com/post/1311918

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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 15 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Yah, I'm 20 and most of my interaction has been at night but I'm going to start trying day. I've had some bad experiences before where things go great for a few weeks, but as soon as I show that I actually care about her and want to know more about who she is, they seem to go "wow, a guy who actually cares!" It's at this point they suddenly decide they want things to keep up (me caring, flirting with them, taking them out, massages, etc.) but they want me to do it as a friend, kind of a pseudo-boyfriend. It's happened several times and has led to me not looking as much and not asking many girls out because I don't want the same thing to happen.

My friends and family say I'm doing everything right, and several girls have said that I'm the "perfect guy" that "every girl wants to marry," but I still feel like maybe it's something I'm doing wrong. That's why I joined seddit a few weeks ago.

I'm dominant and make things clear to girls, I have yet to let any of them take advantage of me, but it still sucks and is discouraging.

Hopefully some day interactions will go better. I'm open to any advice or tips as well. I started reading the NSS blog a few days ago and plan to keep following it.

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You bring up a really good point. Now that I think about it, I was investing a lot more than the girls I've gone out with. To me, it didn't seem like much at all, but it has always been more than the girl was investing, so that does explain a lot of the trouble I've run into.

I've made out and fooled around with very positive results, but I haven't had a relationship reach the point of sleeping together. I've just had one LTR but that whole thing was really weird and not really a normal relationship. It was in High School and is part of the reason I'm unfamiliar with how things normally go. My other relationships have been unofficial and about a month in length.

That is definitely something I'm going to work on though. I think I've feared in the past that the girl wouldn't realize I was interested in her, so I tried too hard to make it known, when really I could have just been using body language far more effectively.

Once I get a chance, I'll start seeing about doing some day interactions and eventually getting a date, then I'll try to pay attention to how much I'm investing and how much she's investing. I'll do my best not to overthink things and be natural, but I'll keep it in the back of my mind.

Thanks for all of the advice, it will definitely come in handy and I may do a FR once I have something worth bringing up.

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[–]philosarapter 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

But you see what you are saying is that 'women aren't like this' then go on to say that 'those type of women aren't the ones im interested in.' I would say that the bulk majority of women are not of your 'taste'. You accurately described how to attract secure women with a strong sense of self-worth. Your approach is true for these type of women...

Women want the response of men to fit the image they have of themselves in their mind.

if they have a strong positive opinion of themselves, then they expect to receive that treatment from men and are attracted to it. But if women believe they are worthless, unattractive, etc. Then any response that is not matching to their own self-image will be disregarded. If a woman feels like trash, she wants to be treated like trash. When picking up insecure women or 'floozies', confusion does indeed make them hot for a man.

I understand where you are coming from, I just don't think the picture of reality is painted with such bright colors as you like to believe they are. I just believe that disregarding insecure women from your approach is resulting in a sampling bias.

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