Returning

casper41 · 2014-12-22T01:24:53+00:00

Yes I've done it. Sounds like you have oneitis go fuck someone else and still see if the feelings are there or you were simply lonely. How? I changed up my style went over to collect things I left at hers, prearranged of course don't rock up unannounced. Acted like life was brilliant without her. That night picked her up from a party and fucked her same night. Things didn't work out though, she liked to sleep around.

ohircyou3 · 2014-12-22T01:44:53+00:00

1) No. Even if she wants you, it's not good for you. It ended for some reason because there was a problem. Whether that problem was yours or hers, it doesn't matter. Start looking for weaknesses inside you and better yourself.

2) This is a case of oneitis. You need to go back dating again and seeing other girls. These feelings will fade (trust me, I've been there and it's almost gone for me too). Remove all contact from her and wait a month while doing the above.

DownvotesCatposts · 2014-12-22T04:35:37+00:00

No, not possible. You could get a post-breakup-bang but you'll never have a stable relationship again. At the first sign of a struggle she will think about (and eventually bring up) all of the stupid shit she was angry about the first time you broke up. The cost outweighs the benefit.

pofkin109 · 2014-12-23T01:25:38+00:00

Believe in second chances and follow your heart, don't ever do what others advice you, they don't know your feelings your desires, good luck

Pikminman44 · 2014-12-23T02:19:16+00:00

Wow, lots of good responses! I agree that looking back in any situation is bad, and this shouldn't be an exception.

But let's just say I know I was the one who fucked this up in the past, and she just broke up with her current bf, so I'm going to consider her among my options. I got over the oneitis now and it feels great.

Maybe it won't work, but fuck it I still like her. Cheers, thanks for the help dudes, good luck in your future endeavors.

johnnyd9 · 2014-12-23T02:03:38+00:00

Pretty chump way of thinking about it. Always look forward, not back. The second you start looking back (happens to all of us don't worry) just force forward and game new girls.

This is definitely a situation where aggression gets you nowhere. You need her to return to you. And Old GF's will return to you only if a) you massively increase in value, or B) they massively decrease in value. It's happened to me all of one time, and only after I stopped trying (and she got fat)

Jon Favreau eloquently explains it in swingers, there's nothing you can do to get them back, you can only do stuff to push them further away.

Title	Returning
Author	Pikminman44
Upvotes	14
Comments	6
Date	December 22, 2014 1:04 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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