Seddit: Help would be more than appreciated.

Box-Monkey · 2010-07-17T12:19:55+00:00

Dude I just went through this, like a couple of months ago. I was so concentrated on working on being dominant I forgot about charm. You're aware of it so you can change it. Now that you have the confidence you can work on what they call "calibration."

Think of the guys you know who everybody loves, the most charismatic guys in your life. They are your model for this aspect (I haven't really seen one in PUA yet.) I've got a buddy who always seems to be with the hottest girls I've ever met. Really makes me jealous, I gotta say. But he is also the nicest guy I've ever met. And he's not beta. He knows what he wants and goes after it, and he has such an abundance of self-confidence (not arrogance) that he can afford to be nice to everybody.

Once you become non-reactive to everyone else's bullshit, you will realize you don't have to protect your heart or your ego anymore. Then you can be nice to people because you have value and can give it to them (betas help because they get compliments or attention or they're supposed to, alphas help because they can improve things for others).

Have worth, be dominant, make others feel good.

Transitioning from jackass to not-jackass is where "make others feel good" comes into play. Imagine what it'd be like to be the alpha male in the room, and still be able to make everyone with you feel good about themselves. It's almost like they become addicted to being around you.

You are the man to impress, and your reward for impressing you is that you make them feel good about themselves.

Start off by being truly excited to see people, (but just barely contain your energy; don't let it leak but let them see that it's there, like looking through a window into the core of a reactor).

Ask how they are, what they've been up to, if they've been having fun etc. and really mean it.

Be fun. Be playful, always tease and play with people. Talk about music, movies, pop culture. Give compliments when people earn them, and make it about something meaningful. Give compliments to girls you like about their looks only after you're sure they know you like them for something else.

Make ugly girls feel pretty, give 'dumb' or shy people confidence in their abilities. Never take anything for granted.

This all comes from a case of caring, like a proprietor. You are the alpha in the pack, you reap the rewards that position entails, but it's up to you to make sure the pack thrives. You are responsible for your packmates' well-being. Enjoy seeing them succeed.

Title	Seddit: Help would be more than appreciated.
Author	audio784
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	July 17, 2010 10:51 AM UTC (16 years ago)
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