This subject is very complicated an nuance and very few people have it, and those who have it don't do much effort to get ladies into thier bed. Its as a easy for a man with sex appel to fuck a girl as a friendly man to chit chat a women. But most women will be suspicious of you and won't open to you easily because your energy is sexy and so they want protect themselves against it sometimes. Try to build sex appeal if you want to enjoy life, but I can't tell you how to build it