Shit test?

Lord_Augastus · 2018-06-13T03:54:19+00:00

If you liek her, cut out the bullshit of txting. Ask her on a date, go from there. Be adult about this, take charge.

Girks chat, with tons of guys, if you want to be ignored indefinatly do as others do and dont escalate. If you like her, escalate.

judahman8 · 2018-06-13T06:46:59+00:00

Texting isn't fun for anyone. I don't text my guy friends about how there day was going or some shit. Noone wants to text. Texting should only be used to set up a time and place to hang out.

Also next time go for the kiss in the same night. I give myself 15 minutes to kiss a girl from the very first time I meet her if it's during night game. Anything after 15 minutes is what my friends call the danger zone. If I don't make out with a girl that same night I basically assume that I'll never even see her again lol. So yeah you basically are so far in the danger zone at this point that it's not even worththe effort to crawl out. Try again the next time you run into her.

If you really want to try a hail marry then invite her to tag along with you while you are going to do something the day of. "Hey I was heading to my boys house to smoke a fatty and grab a bite to eat at (whatever) but he bailed on me. Come keep me company for a bit." Frame it like its normal to just hit her up randomly to hangout. You don't want to ask het on a date or something lame likd that, trust me.

ethical_pa · 2018-06-13T17:00:48+00:00

We hit it off pretty well i could tell she was into me, so much so she kept coming back to talk to me

And instead of flirting with her and escalating in the moment (touching, maybe a kiss, hell, maybe even fucking her), you chose to try to start something over text the next day.

This is the mistake a lot of guys make. They are not truly comfortable with a woman and try to "pause her", take a break to regroup, and try again later. It's a complete turn off for women. You could have sparked something in the moment, emotions were likely high and she was ready. You need to start approaching and flirting with more women to break this habit. Learn to be comfortable with sexual tension and escalate, THEN AND THERE. Not at some magical, future moment when you imagine conditions will be ideal. By not acting in the moment, you likely communicated to her fear and insecurity, and showed her you are a guy that is not experienced with women. I'm not saying all is lost; go ahead and try to get her out via text. Maybe she really likes you. Don't pussy foot around it though.

BTW: there is no shit test here. Shit tests happen in person. They are a way for a woman to see if you are bluffing or are congruent with how you are presenting yourself (mostly). Texting games are just... texting games. They are kinda lame, but you have to play along a bit.

EDIT:

Eventually i got her instagram and messaged her later that night

Imagine how she perceives you if she was thinking "I hope this guys fucks me", and then sees you acting like "getting her number" was a big win for you... Like a little boy. A little puppy; not very exciting. Maybe she went home with a man later that night that fucked her. I'm sounding like an asshole, but I was exactly like you before, and that's exactly what girls did when I failed to escalate.

bailey707 · 2018-06-14T03:08:47+00:00

Don't message anymore to her until she sends something back, you don't want to make it seem like your needy.

RomanDad · 2018-06-13T03:47:02+00:00

You’re both playing stupid games... one of you should stop.

millo69 · 2018-06-13T04:59:44+00:00

You kinda messed it up for yourself by texting her later that same night. You made her think youre low value/desperate.

Title	Shit test?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	June 13, 2018 3:42 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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