My previous post went into great detail about closing on a first date. Since there was a lot of positive replies, I'll share another date idea that has worked out.

The venue I chose in my previous post was a simple bar to have conversation over a drink. This works fine for a first date, but there's an easy way to put a fun spin on this....via roulette. This is especially useful for those new to the dating game or are improving their conversation skills. Since the game makes it easy for you to incorporate your conversation.

Four things to keep in mind on a 1st or 2nd date. Keep it fun, build rapport, include some sexual conversation, and physical contact.

Most casinos offer the ability to have a venue change, so it makes it easy logistical wise. Start off at the bar then move to the gaming table, then to the lounge/patio area (or whatever combo suites your plans).

A 1st date usually comprises some boring Q&A like: how old you are, how many siblings you have, when's your birthday, and other "interview style questions". Your entire date should't comprise these boring types of conversation, but basic info like this is usually shared in the 1st or 2nd date. So how can we make it fun to ask these types of questions and also make it easy to start escalating the conversation to something more sexual?

Hit up the roulette table. Roulette is a simple casino game with a wheel that comprises 38 colored and numbered pockets (37 in French roulette...but that's not important). The wheel is spun and a ball is spun in the opposite direction in the wheel and eventually lands on a colored number. You place your bet on which number, range of numbers or color you think the ball will land in.

So to play my game, I start off by buying two stacks of chips ($40...but I'm sure each casino places different values on each chip. My chips worked for both inside and outside bets. $3 minimum inside, $5 minimum outside). 20 chips for her and 20 chips for me.

Now you lead by asking her a question that has a numerical answer. An easy question is "when is your birthday?". She will put down 1 chip on the month and 2 chips on the day. You do the same for your birthday. Next, have her ask you a question. She will ask something like "how old are you?" Put your chips down and repeat.

Once a few spins have gone by with easy questions, start escalating the questions. Ask her things like, "how many guys have you kissed this month/year?". Least number of dates before you have hooked up with someone? Best day to have sex (1=Sunday, 2 = Monday etc).

You can also utilize the red/black bets. Yes = red, No = black. Have you ever had sex in public? You can also try "would you rather?" Black = x Red = y. Do you prefer being on top or bottom? Would you rather have sex with someone fat and smells good, or fit and stinks? You get the point.

How is this effective at fulfilling four things needed for a successful first date?

FUN

The gambling aspect makes answering questions more exhilarating. I'm sure your date is tired of being asked lame questions like "when is your birthday?" and "how old are you?". Now that there is a chance to win some money, she is excited to tell you these things. Especially if you luck out and hit a few wins on the single number bets early on, this will provide you with a bank roll to keep things going. I more than tripled my money the first time I tried this :)

RAPPORT

For those new to the dating scene or those whose conversation skills are in works of improvement, this game makes the interview style part of the date more comfortable. Rather than asking a bunch of questions across the table at a bar, this game makes it easy to communicate and makes asking questions very comfortable. It gives you control of the mood. Rather than trying to direct a regular over-the-table conversation, its much easier to direct the conversation using this game.

It also makes her feel relaxed because she is not being grilled with questions for the sake of asking questions...its part of the game. Keep in mind that since you should be prepared with questions, she is not. So try to keep it down to about a dozen questions total, otherwise she will get a brain drain thinking of things on the spot. Worst case scenario, just start playing regularly or cash out when you notice things have moved past its peak.

SEXUAL TONE

Since the game is based on asking questions, it gives you the freedom to control the sexual direction. Make sure you are prepared with some sexual questions of various degrees. More comfortable questions like "have you ever kissed someone on a first date" can serve as an easy way to escalate while keeping rapport. If the girl is already more sexual, asking things like "have you ever had sex on a beach?" or "do you prefer being on top or bottom?" are good ways to get her to open up.

PHYSICAL CONTACT

I recommend picking a quiet table with less people. This makes things more private since some questions may be personal and she may not want a bunch or others listening in on you. You can also set the pace since others who are around speed up the game. Also, this gives you the ability to sit side by side. At a bar table, you are likely across from each other. But at a roulette table, you are beside each other. This makes it easy to put your arm on her when you win, give her a high five, have her blow on the chips your holding for good luck etc.

This is also great to learn about her. How does she react to winning/losing? Is she reckless with money? What were her answers like? Is she crazy or someone you see a long term future with?

Have fun with this and use the answers as ammo for the rest of the night. If you move to the lounge afterwards, ask her to tell you more about question XYZ, "really, which beach did you have sex on?" Or she may inquire about something you answered, so now you have more to talk about.

Leave some comments with some good questions to ask during this game!