There are too many guys out there that are walking encyclopedias, keyboard jockeys, etc. knowing every facet of ‘game’ knowledge they can possibly grasp their hands on, while at the same time being completely unable to practice it in REAL LIFE. There are guys out there that know so much theory that it hinders them in their own progress and the sad thing is it’s quite a lot more than it should be.

To put it eloquently, guys are thinking (about ‘game’) far too much and becoming too analytical. Instead of just allowing themselves to be social they have this mess of ideas and theories streaming in the back of their heads. Instead of actually testing these ideas they just gather as much knowledge as possible and then wonder why they just can’t do it when they get to actually putting it into practice. What they should do next, how their body language is, how to impress someone with some fabricated story or over-dramatization of what they are. It is completely unnecessary.

Granted, there are a lot of guys out there that can benefit from a bit of theory, but that’s all you need. You don’t need pre-fabricated stories or magic tricks or any of that bullshit to create connections with beautiful women.

Not to sound too cliché, but your own worst enemy is yourself when it comes to this stuff. You’re the one talking yourself out of these situations (approach anxiety) or putting so much value on a person that you feel incompetent (pedestals) and it makes sense that you get analytical about yourself to try and make yourself better. However if I was to ask you how much theory you knew compared to how much actual in-field socializing you do, how would it compare? Would you say it’s an even distribution or is it heavily favored the theory and knowledge aspect?

A lot of guys have it backward; you should be doing the in-field first and then the theory. It’s easier to understand and not every method is going to work for every person. Yes, there are the underlying basic theories and ideas that are undoubtedly helpful. My favorite is the three second rule; mostly because it’s so simple and really that’s all you need. The more you do it the more you will be comfortable with it, just like anything else. The best part of it is you barely have to think about it. You don’t worry about openers or whatever story you’re trying to get them interested in you with. Go from there, master that ONE skill and the rest will follow in a naturally progressive way. The hard part is convincing or pushing yourself to do actually get out there and do it.

Don’t get me wrong, if you’re going out there and actually trying to put these social ideas to use and analyzing those after the fact that’s great. However, I’m talking about the guys who try to absorb every last drop of information hoping they can fall back on it at the end of the day. Instead, what happens is their mind becomes a mess of things when they actually go out in the field to try and put this stuff to use. They are thinking too much about the dynamics of the interaction instead of the interaction itself.

I recently had a long drawn out conversation of what makes a natural. He thought that if he knew what a natural was that he would become better at socializing in general if he could break down what the difference of a natural and someone who studies this to get better was. We discussed everything from age range to the environment that people are brought up in. It was a great, compelling conversation that made me think about the way a lot of new guys perceive things. It wasn’t until the end of the conversation though, that he had revealed that he wanted to use this knowledge to analyze and distinguish the differences between a natural and himself. To what I responded, ‘do you think that the difference of a natural and someone who has been studying this will help you reach your goal of being more successful with women?’

TL;DR – Simplify your knowledge and start actually getting out there. Don’t worry about what you have to say or do to impress someone. I know it sounds vague and it should be it’s really that easy. I want to hear your guys’ thoughts on this…

‘We think too much and feel too little…’-Charlie Chaplin