I recently lost a ton of weight and kept it off. The difference this time versus my previous attempts was I accepted it would take a while to reach my goals so I focused on limiting my food intake (even eating the same shitty food I ate before), then after that was a habit I started eating healthier and counting calories, then I started going on walks on top of that, now I eat healthy and exercise and track my calories and I'm in the best shape of my life...

This is very different from the typical "new years resolution " quick fix most people try and fail at. Most people get fed up with being fat and attempt to go 0 to 100 in one day and change all their habits at once... they force themselves to eat healthy and workout 5x a week and then after a few weeks they lose motivation and relapse back into bad habits.

Pickup is very similar... everyone wants the "bootcamp" magic pill quick fix. Most of the advice on here is "just approach" which is technically true but that misses the underlying psychology that most people will be afraid and get rejected and burnt out of it and lose motivation if people view it as a target instead of a habit.

If you don't approach in a day that's fine keep going out anyways and keep working on yourself.

If you don't ask for her number/insta at the end of the conversation that's fine keep talking to women.

If you don't go to the gym that day that's fine keep eating healthy and tracking calories.

I'm not saying to stay stuck... I'm saying stop putting so much pressure on yourselves to try to go 0 to 100 all the time. Most of the advice I see online is ultimately people saying to just instantly start dating women or to instantly start eating healthy and going to the gym... that's not really how most human brains work and changing bad habits takes time. Think of it like lifting weights. Stop trying to start from zero and lift 200lbs... get comfortable lifting less first and eventually each new level will be your new baseline