Some general deeper ideas

supermanshazam · 2015-12-04T09:49:46+00:00

What scares you about signing up for improv class? -I do two a week, its amazing fun, you laugh your ass off, the people are amazing, none of us are particularly good :)

JesperS1208 · 2015-12-04T07:56:23+00:00

Do a little exercise... What is the worst that can happen.?

If you get kick out of school, you get a job, and start earning money.

Second, is to find something that makes you happy.

When I was depressed I watched stand-up, until my outlook started to become brighter.

Third: is to Set a goal. Some people with depression lacks a goal and just walks around in a circle. Set yourself a goal. Like do exercise once a week for the next month. And Write it up on a wall, so you are reminded of it every day.

TheXXL · 2015-12-04T10:11:08+00:00

Depression is a prolonged state of unhappiness

That is only partly true. Depression is a imbalance in bodily chemicals, causing unhappiness and taking away the capability of seeing things they way they are.

Unhappiness is not meeting your expectations in life

Also only partly true. If you have too high expectations it is not the expectation itself that is the problem. For instance, if i am unhappy just because i cant grow wings and fly, it is simply stupid. The key here is to manage your expectations, and not try to have it as the only source of happiness.

Happiness is meeting your expectations or letting go of them

Well said.

Having fun is trying something new and succeeding

You can also have fun by simply being yourself, doing what you are able to do, not having any expectations whatsoever, and letting yourself go with the flow.

Fear comes from trying new things

That is indeed a pig part.

So If I go one day without feeling fear then I'm moving towards depression. Doing something that scares me every day, even if its just a little, is my only path to happiness.

Not the only, but it helps to keep yourself straight.

What scares me right now: - taking an std test - calling my dad - talking to my prof about my missed work - signing up for an improv class

The first thing scares you because you don't want to get bad news, since you fear it could ruin your life. Calling your dad might be something that lies in the past, maybe a big fight? But it does not really matter, what it comes down to is: you feel insecure about those things, probably not because you are scared about the deed, but just about the unknown outcome, because you think you did something wrong, and who likes to do something wrong?

All these things are scary for me because they are new. If I don't do any of them tomorrow my life will become stagnant. So the choice is up to me. Do I want to be happy tomorrow?

Agree on trying new things to grow, and they are scary because of not knowing what is to come, this is insecurity.

I'm not sure if i'm using the right meaning of depression. I think that for some people depression might be a medical condition that has a deeper cause than unhappiness. Also another idea I've been thinking about is that anxiety and paranoia comes from having an inflated sense of importance. Just some ideas... I feel like they fit with my life, but they might be too vague or esoteric for anyone else.

I think you are pretty much right, and your input here is greatly appreciated. As i see it you seem to feel lost, not knowing what's to come, being scared of failure, and when i was in my early 20's i was scared of failure too. Once my boss replied to me, when i told him that i dont want to fail, "then seek out a different universe. In this one you will fail. Get used to it." And after many years, i understand what he meant, don't be afraid of failure. Best thing is to welcome failure into your life, since it makes you grow, and become a better person.

Title	Some general deeper ideas
Author	ggbbteee
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Date	December 4, 2015 7:26 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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