This is just my two cents, I'm no casanova, I've never been super successful with girls, so just take this or leave it as is, but I wanted to write down some observations that you may or may not find helpful. What I've listed as advice/observations is the result of reading many hundreds of posts and comments and seeing if I can help out in any way.

  1. Stop using online dating apps. Guys complain about these all the time. I think if you aren't getting massive results from these apps you need to get rid of them.
  2. Approach women IRL. Approach them wherever you are, whether it's the supermarket, the library, a coffee shop, a retail store, an outdoor concert, a class, church, the bar. Wherever you are, if you see a girl you are attracted to go and approach her.
  3. Seriously, stop masturbating and looking at porn. If you don't feel naturally inclined to chat with women IRL then stop for as long as it takes. Seriously, stop m'ing unless you want to be forever alone. I noticed real changes after two weeks. Every woman was practically glowing and my abundance mentality was supercharged. Your body will force you to interact.
  4. Approach girls at work if you have to. I know about "not shitting where you eat" but I no longer agree so much with that. That's a good rule of thumb if you are awkward, creepy, or can't leave a girl alone and become obsessed with her. But if you are a regular chill dude there shouldn't be a problem with you trying to date a coworker, especially if you're working at some grunt-level minimum wage job where you don't have any plans to make it into a lifelong career. If you are at a job where it's your bread and butter career, by all means, avoid relationships and HR, but if you're at some call center, or some retail store, go for the easy pickings.
  5. Women are flaky. Expect it. There's very little way for you to build tons of value on a first date unless you are an extremely valuable catch. Aim to have fun on a date instead of some dinner interview. Try to get to first base and create a physical connection. Go to multiple venues, do a mini-adventure around town, do the stuff you'd love to do if you had a girlfriend and have her tag along. Go to places you've been wanting to check out but didn't want to go alone. Except the first date to be the last so make it memorable and enjoyable for yourself. Don't be super reserved about your feelings if you start to have some so you don't end up having regrets and emotional pain later when she ghosts you and you didn't shoot your shot. Expect to be ghosted. We live in a ghost culture. Always have.
  6. Men can't afford to be sulky babies anymore when it comes to getting dumped, ghosted, stood up, flaked, left on read, and all the rest. I remember my first heartbreak, it was suuuuuper awful, I didn't eat for a month and lost 30 pounds because every time I thought of the girl I would feel sick to my stomach. I also worked with the girl and saw her everyday so it was stupid hard on me. And you know what? I was a facking idiot. That girl that broke my heart so badly was legit crazy and diseased and I was lucky nothing happened. I was just a stupid oneitis-hey-this-attractive-girl-likes-me-and-I-can't-get-dates-sooo imbecile. Not worth it. There were other cute girls at the very same place of work. Plenty of women, so many goddam good looking women everywhere. Again, if you fear rejection, fear being alone, fear women, stop m'ing. Completely stop m'ing.
  7. Every. Single. Time. I'm out I see at least one woman I'd ask out based on her looks alone. You've got to talk to a lot of women because not only will many not like you, your look, your vibe, but maybe you don't like their vibe. Maybe you find you aren't so interested in them once you've made initial contact. In person interaction can help filter these things immediately so you don't waste your time trying to contact someone through an app, then set up a date, then go on a date, then see if the date went okay. You can do all the preliminaries in person and you aren't missing out on some better girl on a dating app.

I don't know guys, that's all I have for now. I simply think there needs to be a bit of an attitude adjustment for a lot of guys. There are so many beautiful, amazing women out there, but maybe you need to stop m'ing for awhile in order to see that. You also have to be happy and start to enjoy life. If you are a negative, shitty, butthurt person, who is going to want to be around you? You need to have a good vibe, to not take things too personally. Maybe she has a type, maybe you are it, maybe you aren't, just like you have types but sometimes are willing to try someone else for a change. Maybe she does have a boyfriend or husband, that's fine, move on. Stop letting other people hurt your feelings, or dictate your feelings for you. That's one benefit of age, you really do stop caring what others think and people become almost incapable of making you feel bad.

My two cents. Take it or leave it, hopefully someone gets some benefit from my thoughts. Good luck out there.