large size of Tips and Advice here presupposes a certain level of calm, collectedness, settled weather in folks' lives; so it sends us out to act, be lions in the social dimension

But a huge number here is scared of outside, depressed af, naive, awkward and so locked up, to start with. This gotta be considered prior.

The problem is not girls (only part of broader insecurity) but In here. If only this faculty be fixed, whole line will be running seamless without further ado.