TLDR; It’s all primal and all about body language. Animals don’t speak a word, but guess what, they still have sex.

I’ll use a nightclub as a specific example, because it exemplifies my point.

I frequent a bar/dance club with my organization, a sizable group of guys and girls and we have “our spot” where we hang out. When approaching (in a nightclub scene), I have a goal to rarely ever speak. Too much talking kills the vibe, You have to “be”, not say. All of my approaches are nonverbal, I’ll approach and grab the waist/hands, grind, etc whatever.

Example: One time I was standing in my spot and made eye contact with a girl she looked away and when she looked back I still stared with a little smirk. After a third time she just approached and said hello. I asked “what is your name.” “Amanda. And yours?” “(REDACTED)” I responded. And after that, I leaned in for a kiss and we passionately made out immediately. I only spoke those 5 words and a 6th, “Goodbye,” the entire time we were together. SIX words.

But here’s the point. If I just stand there asking about her major, and where she’s from, etc, she will QUICKLY lose interest. (Which is something I’ve done many times, with a 100% failure rate).

A LOT of pain and broken heart led to my understanding of how it all works, and it was worth it. I used to really suck at anything related to women. It’s all an experience game.

Avoid words. Use body language. Be mysterious. And DO NOT overthink it. Gaming is a natural instinct everyone represses. If your gut says do something, do it without hesitation. Get rejected and heartbroken. You’ll learn and be better for the next time, that’s a guarantee.