23M. Living in a city with a seemingly endless supply of beautiful women. Haven’t gotten laid in 2 months, before that had a consistent hookup going for 3, before that 2 months of nothing. And she was cool, but honestly the main reason I kept going back to the consistent hookup was because I knew that there was no luck for me anywhere else. Not saying my situation is hopeless, but I want something better.

Pros: I’m 6’3”, fit, and girls often tell me I’m good-looking. I have a job that pays the bills, and a car. I have a good social circle and I go out to bars with friends on the weekends. I have hobbies that I’m developing like rock climbing and playing guitar. I’m not afraid to approach women and I often get props for being brave.

Cons: I had an a very anxious and stressful childhood with a backwards-ass religious thing going on. No kiss till I was 18, lost v-card at 20. I have a HORRIBLE time-wasting habit especially with my phone. I get very down on myself at times, especially when I see my friends doing so well and I can’t understand why. I have a very hard time paying attention and I’m constantly messing up on basic daily tasks. Actually I have a whole shitload of personal struggles outside my dating life, whatever.

I’ve followed pickup artists on YouTube and tried some of it out for myself and it honestly seems like it only works out if you spend years and years perfecting it and approaching endless amounts of women. But my friends who actually score, don’t do that. It seems like women are just into them. They go to bars, and it’s effortless. It seems like most of the advice I see here is basically how to become a professional pickup artist.

When I actually do score i tell myself “ok, this is where I really turn my life around” but then it’s another 2-3 months, or at one point 2 years before anything happens.

I want to have more control over my dating life.It just seems like I can’t really do what I want. Give it your best shot, Seddit. What should I do? Also has anyone here become a natural instead of a PUA? Thx, please help