10-year results

10-year results

I’ve been around this “hobby” for a while and started keeping a detailed list a few years back, figured maybe a few of you guys will get something out of this. The attractiveness here ranges anywhere from like 4 to 9. This pursuit can be a grind and my success rate among all the girls I’ve met is definitely somewhere under 10% but I’ve had a real adventure.

Basic info: 29M, US based, 6’3, white, conventionally attractive. Natural introvert/nerd, raised evangelical Christian, dumped religion at 20 and began figuring this stuff out through a lot of crazy experiences and research. Only counting actual sex, p in the v. 

The list. Format: How we met, where the 1st (or only) time was, when, my age at the time, hers, # of occasions, how much time it took.

1. Tinder, in a field in Auburn somewhere, July 2016, 20, 19, 1, 2 weeks.
2. EDM club in SD, her Subaru on a camping trip, September 2016, 21, 18, 4, 1 month.
3. Cal Poly soccer game, her place, October 2016, 21, 22, 1, 3 hours.
4. Social-circle introduction from Stoney’s, in a field, November 2016, 21, 18, 1, 1 week.
5. Local Bar in PB, 2nd phase barracks, October 2017, 22, 21, 20+, 24 hours.
6. Shore Club, her place, November 2017, 22, 21, 2, 1 month
7. Deck department, her place, January 2018, 22, 23, 1, 1.5 months
8. Super Bowl party, fleet barracks, February 2018, 22, 27, 1, 2 hours.
9. Omnia, her place, March 2018, 22, 23, 2, 1 week
10. Shore Club, her place in PB, March 2018, 22, 23, 1, 1 week
11. Shore Club, her place, May 2018, 22, 21, 20+, 1 day
12. Tinder, Navy Gateway barracks, December 2018, 23, 21, 3 hours
13. Tinder, Navy Gateway barracks, December 2018, 23, 24, 2 weeks
14. Her place in downtown SD, January 2019, 23, 26, 5 or so, 3 weeks
15. Tinder, her parents’ house, January 2019, 23, 23, 4 hours
16. Tinder, SDSU campus housing, February 2019, 23, 21, 4, 4 weeks
17. Joey’s friend, Jeep then her hotel, March (?) 2019, 23, 23, 2 hours
18. Off the street in Gaslamp, Jeep, May 2019, 23, 20, 1.5 hours
19. Omnia, her place, May 2019, 23, 20, 1.5 hours
20. Bar in San Clemente, just outside the bar, May 2019, 23, 22, 1, literally 15 minutes. 
21. Tipsy Crow, my Jeep, June 2019, 23, 21, 1, 2 hours.
22. Yoga instructor, her place, August 2019, 23, 23, 2, 2 weeks.
23. Omnia, Booke’s barracks room, October 2019, 24, 22, 3 hours 
24. American Junkie in Gaslamp, her hotel room, November 2019, 24, 27, 6 hours.
25. Omnia, Jeep, November 2019, 24, 24, 1, 4 hours.
26. Local bar in PB, Billy’s garage, January 2020, 24, 22, 3 hours.
27. Hinge, her place, May 2020, 24, 24, 1, 4 hours.
28. Hinge, her place, August 2020, 24, 23, 20+, 3 weeks.
29. Gaslamp outside the bars, the bushes outside the Hilton bayfront, September 2020, 25, 34, 3 hours.
30. OB, her place, October 2020, 25, 20, 2, 2 days.
31. The ship, her place, November 2020, 25, 26, over a year
32. PB, her hotel, NYE going into 2021, 25, 20, 3 hours
33. Bumble, my hotel in SD, January 2021, 25, 26, 3 hours. 
34. Neighbor standing outside during power outage, her place, April 2021, 25, ~35, 2 hours
35. Cold approach in North Face store, her hotel in SF, April 2021, 25, 20, 4 hours
36. Cold approach in Union Square, her place in SF, May 2021, 25, 26, 3, 1 week
37. Model from Kyiv workshop, my Air bnb, May 2021, 25, 23, 1, 1 week
38. Cold approach in Kyiv, my AirBnb, May 2021, 25, 20, 20+, 4 days.
39. Just outside my front door, June 2021, 25, 34, 2 hours
40. Nightclub in SD, my van, July 2021, 25, 25, 2 days.
41. Hostel in Belgrade, my apartment in Belgrade, July 2021, 25, 25 (?), 1, 1 day.
42. Outside my front door, my apartment in the Marina, October 2021, 26, 28, 1, 2 hours.
43. Foreign exchange student from Spain, her place in Hawaii, November 2021, 26, 20, ~10, 3 years.
44. Bar in Folsom, her place in Folsom, NYE going into 2022, 26, 34, 1, 2 hours.
45. Greenwich street cold approach, my place on Fillmore, January 2022, 26, 25, 1, 2 days.
46. Mauna Loa, my place, January 2022, 26, 24, 1, 2 hours.
47. Junior prom first date ever, LA, March 2022, 26, 25, 9 years.
48. Bar in Austin, March 2022, 26, 3 hours
49. Outside my front door, her place, April 2022, 26, 32, 1, 2 months.
50. Mauna Loa, my place, June 2022, 26, 25, 2, 45 minutes.
51. Hinge, her place, October 2022, 27, 25, 5, 1 week.
52. Hinge, her place, November 2022, 27, 22, 1, 1 week.
53. Tinder, her place, July 2023, 27, 29, 1, 1 week
54. Hinge, her place, July 2023, 27, 24, 1, 1 week
55. Hinge, her place, July 2023, 27, 28, 1, 3 weeks
56. Hinge, her place, December 2023, 28, 28, 1, 2 weeks
57. Tinder, the PM1 house in Austin, January 2024, 28, 32, 1, 2 weeks
58. Walmart cold approach, PM1 house, April 2024, 28, 22, 1, 5 days
59. 6th street daytime cold approach, PM1 house, April 2024, 28, 24, 1, 1 week
60. Blind date setup from cold approaching her friend, PM1 house, June 2024, 28, 30, 1, 2 weeks 
61. ONS from a Saturday night on Rainey st, PM1 house, June 2024, 28, 40s(?), a consistent fling for a month or so, 2 hours
62. Daytime cold approach —-> ONS, PM1 house, September 2024, 28, 26, 1, 6 hours

I could talk a lot about this stuff but here are my top 5 current recommendations for any guy, based on the experiences I’ve had so far:

-Locate yourself in a city with at least 500,000 people. Even better if you live next to bars, coffee shops, and anywhere there’s people actually walking around.

-5 Principles of Natural Seduction course by James Marshall at TNL. Some of the challenges are tough but don’t chicken out!

-3 to 5 direct daytime interactions per session, 3-5x/week. Target, Barnes and Noble, and the grocery store work just fine. Go for the instant date if it makes sense! Otherwise:

-1x/week dates from the daytime approaches. My go-to is to find a taco truck or a pizza joint in a cool part of town. You WILL be able to score a date regularly if you’re doing 9-15 daytime interactions every week.

 -occasional nightgame at bars/clubs

Good luck dudes! Go be the guy your dad pretends he was in college. Probably don’t settle down in your 20s and definitely don’t be an incel or an average Tinder swipey boi. Don't let anyone tell you it's hopeless